You can't fall asleep, though terribly tired. You are left alone with gridlocked problems, although the next mom, friends, colleagues. You don't want to listen to their advice that seem old-fashioned, insincere and worthless.You exclaim to yourself and aloud: "nobody and nothing can help me! " What can be muchitelna...
There are women whose failures do not cause strong emotions. They respond to the incident dispassionately. They say: "They will not understand". Most likely, the emotion of these women is domestic in nature. They quickly make the right decisions, not scared of temporary difficulties, it is not easy to give into despair or rage.
Perhaps, this is great!
Most of the fairer sex hard going through loss, resolution of their grievances. While they are still under the impression of what had happened, but parallel to "accumulate" energy to solve. They are trying every means possible calmly and bravely endure the failures, learn to benefit from them or lessons for themselves.
And this is good.
The third category of women - those who, when trouble came, you opened the gate. They can't or don't want to understand that is not the trouble that came into the yard, and the yard is not; therefore: it is necessary to "pass". Unfortunately, their failure as if paralyzed for a long period. They almost never complain about destiny, but cause others compassion and pity. Their souls treats only.
And this, of course, sad.
Some women (and a lot of them) strive in whatever was to draw attention to themselves. The way to do this, they choose a kind: flaunt their misfortunes. They hang a label on myself "chronic losers", there was always a thought about the uniqueness of one's own destiny. "What can you do in my place? Nothing, " with a sigh of doom they say.
And it's terrible.
Pathological loser
This phenomenon psychologists call "pride inside out".
A woman wants to seem "bigger" than it really is. She needs to listen to it, spoke about it, and to achieve this it does not shy away from any means.
On their failures, psychological trauma a woman reacts and deliberately far-fetched. In every detail, in every strange thing sees the insult of her personality. Feelings of sympathy and compassion available to it. If yourself and criticizing, always trying to "sweeten the pill". Gets kind of pleasure from dipping into the past, from the fact that "exposes" his wounds. Over time changes little, loved ones it is difficult to impose a new point of view. The three pillars of its worldview - anger, envy, fear, loneliness.
Painful
A classic example of so-called pathological losers - woman suffering from diseases and related troubles without any serious reason. When you receive the visible reason, "painful" feels "success" as a Martyr won, playing. The whole justification of life's failures are reduced to the disease - what you want from a sick person?! As a rule, regularly taking medication, engaged in self, striving to exceed all in weakness and suffering. "I'm not worthy," the negative way of strengthening her position. Likes to talk about their illnesses, eagerly discussing details: broken blood knee, unsuccessful operation for appendicitis, a difficult birth... The worse the better.
Poor
The income of the women on "good" reasons not exceed a level that is barely sufficient for subsistence. She periodically dismissed from work on their own - "underestimate her abilities. Typically chooses a job that pays a little; does not want, does not love, does not know how to work. Very often in the team, it is a huge number of enemies, mostly - imaginary. Colleagues get later" her bosses "insult". She had no money, but there are always debts. All this makes her unhappy, suffering in life by someone else's fault" some frustration: "Beat, beat like a fish on ice to make ends meet". If her "fall on your head" a certain amount, then our heroine will surely participate in the dubious company (buy defective or useless thing, will give a loan without return or lose your wallet). Next to it are the people who help get rid of the money. By "objective" circumstances she did not manage to break out of poverty". life.
Abandoned
In the case of divorce the woman for a long time, sometimes forever feels abandoned. Your past mistakes are not aware of: all was not her fault; find new arguments in their own defense. Often "abandoned" is the path of the indiscriminate use of all possible means of exposure to ex-husband - like blackmail, Hiking through the "sorcerers", meetings with the new chosen one. Not disdain revenge, he never forgets and never forgives any detail, with hopes that the man will understand and will return." The impression that she, being a single divorced woman in the Universe, from the failure derives strength for life.
Although life this existence can not be named. Generally, she doesn't have a close friend, she lost her friends, away from family, not paying much attention to the children - they "don't understand" it. Looks grim, pathetic and pitiful.
How to treat failure
First: not to moan, not to be "a long list of losses" and not think about them constantly.
Second: don't feel like the only unfortunate in this world. Each had failures. It is impossible to think that this failure is fatal. While we are alive, all can be correct.
Third
: failure should not seem a shame. Of course, you feel as if fell from the mountain and lay exhausted in the mud... And this is why you need as soon as possible to do away with this condition.
Fourth: failure is the best school success. It should be taken as necessary hardening as expensive lesson as a springboard for a new struggle.
Failure cannot be given to the massacre of the hurt feelings. It must be approached with calm research mind. Then the road to success is paved.
And remember that in life there is something more than just a success, namely the spiritual victory over petty, vain "rascal" in his own soul. You want good luck, and you find the road to victory - harmony with yourself, people and the world.
Author:
Porecki So
Source:
SuperСтиль
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