Wife Lena does not like it when Lena smokes. Not because it's bad or he is uncomfortable smell. He only has one, but iron argument: "a Woman should not smoke! " Without explanation. So he doesn't know that Lena smokes when he is not home.Well, the Smoking ban can still be considered useful. And how to be with other common stereotypes that should and should not do a perfect woman? And is it really useful to meet them? Or, having them, men just care about your own comfort?
The woman always...
...should look good. On candy boquet stage you are, of course, and about laying cared for every day, and it never occurred to the "must-have" of the season was laid out with peace of mind. But sooner or later ends and the romantic stage, and salary, and your fiery attitude. And here it is - the chance to hear in his address: "What are you, a woman, find a man in a Bathrobe?! " And those of us who are far from the style of "natural blonde - sun - bright manicure, generally having a hard time: preserving their individuality, they would simply go unnoticed in the crowd.
...must have infinite patience. To forgive him for what he has forgotten the date of your wedding - what little things. Not hear thrown on emotions harsh words - easy! Do not pay attention, look how he spent last past the bust on legs? Also without problems. While nobody will advise, what to do with your dissatisfaction, not to mention the fact, to explain, what for all these feats?
...should be a good housewife. The abridged version is to be able to cook. Ask any of the representatives of the stronger sex: what he has in mind - nepodporuje burgers and the absence of a web in visible corner or fresh cakes every night and the presence of blinding Shine the silverware? It is unlikely that you will receive a clear reply.
And she never...
...will not behave in immoral and unethical. Household rudeness and (God forbid! ) situational hitting, enough extra at a party or allow unnecessary on a first date, in the hearts of slamming the door and slamming his fist on the table is the prerogative of men. It begin to fear, respect, and call a real macho man, able to defend their position. Well, or graciously forgive. What is the rank in this case we get women? Hysterical and cheeky person, or at least aspiring feminist.
...will not demonstrate male superiority in anything. Very frustrating to deal with the fact that in some areas it is more aware, and thinks faster. This law, by the way, is not only in personal relationships but also at work. Not sverky talent in the presence of his head, especially those to whom nature has not endowed, if you do not want to gain a lot of problems. In General, don't be a fool be a fool!
...look on the side.
Theoretically it can, of course, like another man, but to assume female polygamist as a completely independent quality at least at the level of flirting - why? First, it is against nature, and it will prove any doctor, especially if he's a man. Man. And secondly, he knows that from flirting to treason - just a few steps.
I'm not
Also in the basic equipment of a real lady should include the following options: to love children, serials and outfits, not to love football and beer. Not to pester the man for nothing, to be able the take care of myself. But to be weak and defenseless. To take care of his health and never get sick. Interested in painting, music or something not less than sublime. To be able to save, but don't be outraged if he have I been wasting my. To be responsive and caring, a good listener and an interesting conversationalist. And even rejoice that the man drew attention to it, because many are generally deprived". The last was said Ostap Bender, no doubt. Upsetting to another.
Some of us are happily trying to meet the list, lose not only control, but also themselves. And to fill the vacant emptiness absolutely nothing. Because for the most part, the essence of these claims in the claims. That is, if you are to meet them or not - it does not matter, at least they will not, on the contrary, as shown by the example of my friend Masha, over time they become only more.
"I even birthdays of the house ceased to be noted, " says Masha, - that he had no complexes about the number of my friends, including male. About a promotion at work was silent for a couple of months because with the increase I began to earn more than he does. What was the scandal when he found out about it. And when I started to learn to cook, he decided that I have another, they say I used cakes are not baked. If he is not himself the whole year was a sigh that I need to learn at least the basics of cooking. One can only guess that they, the men need". Of course, Mary did not wait until he was armed with scissors and thimble and begin to cut very much alive and spat and walked away. As in the song, "in the world of other men." They also, of course, plenty of their own ideas about what should be Mary, but because they are still just friends, and demand from it are small.
Mad love
Of course, things are not so simple. And for good measure to classify everyone who dares in the presence of ladies to share their fantasies about the qualities associated with his weaker sex are deeply mentally unhealthy individuals is not necessary. The word "complex" at all suitable for almost all, do not want to deal with. But not in all cases, regular and sustainable wishes to address women can be explained so easily, saying, of course, a guy is unhappy and weak and unrequited lover is played. It happens that a man really do not like something in the behavior of women. But what exactly, sometimes on the move and will not guess. Because this "something" has no relation to the fact that he's so sensitive. The situation may be the most absurd.
Anya Artem 5 years studied together at one of the most prestigious faculties of MSU. And all these years the poor girl suffered his taunts and punches. She, of course, understood that Tom is a good guy, just jealous. Not so easy, being one of the best students on the course, by mind and success in school constantly compete with a woman. "Portnov, well, you're itching to do, you want to prove to the whole course that you are the most intelligent?! Would be better if you personal life began - who needs Baba Professor? " Well, at the Banquet after graduation he found out who. Chvatil for courage, Artem invited Anna to dance and confessed that all these years wanted to turn her attention. And annoyed its not that she is a clever girl and what she has absolutely no time to notice how she likes. "Ahaha! "said Anna... married cute Professor with neighboring faculty. Because he believed that a real man will never tolerate rudeness towards the woman. The stereotype? Possibly.
The limits of perfection
It would hurt to say that we, by the way, there are also some considerations about the behavior of the representatives of the stronger sex. And for every "thou shalt" we have a couple of "why are you? "the more that talkativeness is our Holy that any prohibitions and reasoning do not destruct. But perhaps people meet, fall in love and marry not in order that someone to prove or to convert each other in "something undoubtedly the best". The fight against evil on the field of his personal life is one of the most stupid and useless things among those who sometimes like to engage people. And when someone, no matter who is male or female, begins to go into a lengthy discourse about the debt and the payment is a bad sign. Well, if it's not this kind of performance, used both in tandem in order to remind each other that sex differences do exist. Or to sometimes change the rules and refresh relationships some nice and unexpected for your favorite half surprise. To wear a dress to the floor, because he always wanted to, but unconditionally agree with your teenage punk style? Why not? And suddenly the like? But only if you are absolutely sure that without that love you and accept. Although it is quite possible that the most started in this respect, the situation will be resolved optimistic and even romantic. For example, the heroine of the famous film, which was too shy to say a random friend in the train, that she is the head of a large company, because, in his opinion, "the wife should not earn more than their husbands,". If she had admitted it at once, possibly, their story would have turned out differently. But I would like to believe that there is no. Because these feelings are not afraid some stereotypes.
Comment
Natalia Hauser, psychotherapist: "We women are accustomed to deal. With the lack of attractive single men, lack of these men we need qualities, with insufficient attention with their hand. And to the question of stereotypes we place the same - cavalry swoop. The man believes that the ideal woman should every evening to cook a three-course dinner? We immediately start looking for a way to convince him that serfdom far behind, and the number of restaurants offering food, including ordering, lets not worry about the recipes and the right ingredients. In battle for their rights and freedom, we forget to think about what any stereotype can lose relevance if the rest of your relationship, things are going well. Different interests, priorities, behaviors - with all of this, you can live very happily, if you know how to negotiate. And, of course, if both sides are willing to compromise. Don't be afraid to say what you need once a week to meet friends that all decisions would you like to take along, and not to obey the will of your half, you don't want to call your mom and mother-in-law t.d. Stereotypes do not need to fight this great work, which “media” stereotype should want to do on their own, without pressure from. It is more useful to discuss that for your couple is acceptable and what is not".
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Peregudova Yu
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