If your daughter spends the night with girlfriend

If your daughter is going to go to stay with a friend, do not rush to panic! All parents will sooner or later face this, and the main thing is not to take away from this problem. Of course, to let his daughter or not - only you can decide, but we need to think carefully before you make a final choice.


The intention of the young daughter to spend the night outside the house shoots down many parents confused. It is well known that there is no smoke without fire. Quite often parents equate spending the night at her friend's desire to leave home, what brings them if not in wrath, the quiet horror. But don't jump to conclusions. Psychologists give a reasonable explanation for this behavior girls in adolescence.




First, the intimate "gatherings" are part of such an important process, as the socialization of the adolescent. For girls this event is testimony to the close friendship and trust. Parents need to accept the fact that even at very favorable situation at home and very warm relationship between daughter and mother, the girls tend to have a whole bunch of secrets and mysteries that I want to share only with the closest friend. And this does not mean that the daughter doesn't trust you anymore!




Getting into someone else's apartment, the child is faced with a different style of life, compares attitudes, habits and practices in a strange family with those that wound up in your home. As a result, conclusions about what is good and what is bad, what would need to change, or Vice versa, to strengthen.




When you let go of the child overnight, you make a contribution to the development of independence and responsibility, as well as reaffirm their trust in him, which is very important for a teenager. The survey results show that due to the "nights" girlfriends girls become more organized and confident.




However, there are always certain risks. Remember that night "hen parties" should be in moderation, they should be the exception rather than the rule, than a regular event. Letting go of the daughter to the girl (or Vice versa, inviting a girl to your home), make sure that her parents are not against such events. Sign an agreement stating that your child will keep in touch by phone, and don't forget to write the address girlfriends.




If you have any doubts about what they'll be teenagers, not raising their child. Better say that you trust him and sincerely hope that he will not fail your expectations. This formulation will have a much greater effect! And remember not to keep adult children about themselves. They need active communication with peers, and sooner or later you will have to learn to let go. Today - girlfriend, tomorrow - to the disco, and there too, and before marriage...

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