Dad can talk all sorts of nonsense mom in the belly button, as in the mouthpiece, with the patience to hold my hand on the mother's abdomen until the first push from there." And the whole concern of the Pope these days is reduced to the satisfaction of his pregnant wife. On the baby daddy is configured, but as it turns out, it is not ready. Dad is bad, that is even worse than the most deprived imagination mum to imagine what is waiting for him. And only a mother can help her husband to realize themselves in the role of father and bring him to care for the baby.
Who needs it?
I must say that the communication with the useful baby daddy is not less than the child themselves. Someone else dad will be able to afford to relax after a busy day to such an extent, that, forgetting all decorum to protrude the tongue - who are longer and fight pillows, squealing and pokrycia?
And what is the opportunity instead of detergent into the kitchen to buy the same model of cars, dreamed of as a child, after the whole day to play with her, ostensibly entertaining son!
Men's classes
Of course, not only games and foolishness limited communication dad with the baby. I like mom insist - it is important that the husband helped in everyday life, exhausting us, cares about the kid.
In the care of the baby there are a number of lessons that without a man it is difficult to do. For example, strong and where you have tenacious daddy's hands indispensable during bathing. Mens cool works fine for the baby, which whim while visiting the doctor. Pope much calmer and bolder deal with kids gymnastics, early swimming and massage. To ensure the safety of the baby in the house is also a male thing. Man, versed in the technique and in different designs, can take the trouble to choose and buy such things as auto chair, radio nanny, complex toys, sports complex, etc.
How to help dad be a Dad?
If the Pope under every pretext goes from participation in the care of the child and the mother are not particularly insists, as he learns the art to baby? The best teacher is practice. Here is how you can attract the Pope to the process of baby care and upbringing of children.
Show and tell. It is not necessary to teach, as what better to do everything together, for example, bathing the baby, changing diapers, soothing. Unobtrusive show the husband the techniques that best apply to Your child.
Assign responsibilities. They can become a kind of ritual. For example, an evening swim and a walk with a stroller on the weekends my father's duty. Or gymnastics and massage. When bathing the child acknowledge that men's hands tell the kid confidence, it is less capricious. When dad made his son or daughter massage, notice that You do it worse (for us this trick always works).
After returning from a walk be sure to ask, how did the child tell You for the rest of the time much has been done. Let's instructions. Periodically arrange so that the Pope and the child stayed home alone. Find good excuses, the Pope will have nothing to argue. A trip to the doctor or the paperwork is a significant reason for the absence.
When the baby is a little older, and you can get out of the house "longer" go to the hairdresser, and even better to do the shopping. You can also refer to a trip to the gym. Unobtrusive I must make it clear to her husband that the baby has not turned You into a "hen". You are still important, how You look, Your absence from home is of course, You trust the husband, he is able to replace the mother, being with the baby for an hour or two.
Dad learns "controlled" with a newborn, between them will arise and will be emotional contact. Only depart from home for a while, and pre-feeding of the child, in any case, filter the content milk, and tell us, and best of show dad the whole process of feeding. Give dad with clear instructions on how, where and what about the changing of the diaper. The main thing is to explain how to understand that it is time to change the diaper. Our dad did just in case, so not enough!
And, of course,
leave the phoneby which the Pope may contact You in case of an emergency.
Be patient. Not all dads all turns out. Encourage attempts by her husband to help You, celebrate success, and gradually he begins to care for the child, and if he will not become a full-fledged assistant, or at least will be able to replace You if necessary.
Do not hurry to rush to the rescue. Sometimes inept actions of the Pope being pushed into the water to save the child. It is better not to hurry. And then dad, what kind, and will remain indifferent to Your problems behind, its inefficiency.
Leave the Pope and the child a chance to find mutual understanding. If the scene is really depressing, come to take the child, but does not raise doubt in father's abilities. Maybe the kid just wants to eat and dad need to learn to understand when it's time to announce "dinner is served" and to give the baby to the mother.
These are just some of the recommendations. In the power of every woman to change some confusion and psychological unpreparedness of the young Pope to care, multiplied by the pride of their child, or for yourself as a capable father.
Dad's position
When an adult talks to a kid, for him there are at least two ways: it may take a responsible, caring for the position of parent or himself to become a happy little kid. The best option for an adult and baby, if these items are flexibly replace one another and not one of them the parent is not stuck. Preferably, in the image of a parent dad was gentle and understanding, not rigid and dogmatic, and in the role of immediate and joyful child not changed would be the border, becoming Moody and worn, never gave a bad example to this child who plays with an adult.
You know your life partner. Reflect on in what position he plays more often, for what it habitually, and with what he has yet to settle. What tactics to prefer to speak frankly, to discuss, make suggestions for improving family relations, or to build the situation gradually, little by little, step by step? This depends on the nature of Your husband, from the style of Your relationship. Want to find and make the right decision and implement it.
Author:
A. Juric
Source:
Mother.uz
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