The script to create strong women
There are several scenarios in which girls grow into strong, giperatidnykh women. They may be older sisters used to take care of, to care, to care, to cherish, to nurture and be responsible for his younger brothers. Such girls instilled the idea that it is necessary to behave with men: to care, to care, to care and to take responsibility for them. In other words, this ultra-functional behavior.
Different situation - the family with an inverted hierarchy in which it is the children, not the parents on top of the family pyramid and direct the lives of all its members. In the case of inverted hierarchy, the child is the most important, "the navel of the earth". We are talking about those frustrated parents who don't know quite how to handle the child, and therefore instilling in them frankly popustitelskoe.
Even strong women grow out girls whose families were not sufficiently successful. In this situation, the child is again on top of the family hierarchy, but for another reason - his parents can not fully be responsible for his family, and often for themselves. Typically, this is associated with alcoholism or antisocial lifestyle of the parents. In this situation the child is forced to take responsibility and become a parent to your parent.
Who needs a strong woman?
Marriage is always a compromise. And sometimes he looks very tough. It turns out that a strong woman in his life becomes accustomed to a certain role, to a certain dance. She knows how to dance it. Or rather, it leads. Further she will need a partner who is in virtue of the compromise is not only to dance it, but to be a slave. It is clear that in the first version of it, hyperfunctional knowingly chooses neofunctionalism husband.
When a strong man
But if there's a strong woman is the same very functional man? If these two very strong person will not divide spheres of influence, they will inevitably fight for power. And it can destroy even the most wonderful relationship.
Husband-housewife
If the wife makes a career, she's better able to earn money, and both are not burdened in such a state of Affairs perfectly. Well, they changed the traditional roles. In any metropolis traditional Patriarchal marriage in which the wife keeps the home, the husband earns, not so common. There appeared a lot of other family forms. She is more comfortable with such a warm home husband. It is important to understand what affects you and whether you want the traditional division of roles. And as you can along with a strong man. You can start with a question: what do I want from my family and from men, who next? It is possible that you will understand that it is happy, and no matter what they say on this occasion, mother or girlfriend.
Fear or power?
Holders of inner strength - people are quite self-sufficient and not show it to others. If the man is a tyrant and suppresses all around, this does not indicate his inner strength. If a woman behaves the same, then it is in the power of fear. She is afraid that it is not able to maintain partnership relations with a man, they are traumatic for her. She is afraid to open up, to trust him. And then she can have plenty of talk about what's around no strong men, some weaklings, is a projection of her own fears to the outside world. Because of them, the woman does not stand up next to a self-sufficient man, and then inevitably beside her is a man who is weak externally or internally, Podkolodny.
What a strong woman to keep the family
Women poorly differentiate different spheres of life. We all experiences related problems at work, family problems and small household conflicts boil in one pot. We carry all the emotions and feelings home from work, unlike men, who all clearly structured.
Each individual has male and female qualities. We should, going to work, leave your inner man in the office and even to change clothes into something more feminine. Won't hurt to take it a rule at least two days a week to speak to her husband, "Yes".
In genetic males have a set of qualities that determined the male sex hormone: offensive, search or territorial behavior, a tendency to dominate. When a woman begins to show them the house, she breaks all these men. The man is schipka. He, like the computer hangs, as if he blows the transformer or power supply. And it ceases to function as a man. This can lead to passive adaptation. A stronger man will adapt, will occupy a subordinate position. And actually such a marriage in which a man donates his masculinity woman can exist indefinitely.
He sacrifices his social space, career, position for the love of this woman. And only in this form, this pair can exist. The woman is a sometimes frustrating: she gets tired at work, comes home and sees that she again has to be masculine qualities. She is in a situation created by: do not rely on anyone, all you need to do it myself... look for areas in which partners can unite the rest.
Author:
I. Khamitov
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