It is known that civil marriage advocate men. Fear of losing independence, they are touting "free, civilized relations adopted around the world." Women also prefer modest stamp in the passport. "Yes what is it changing? " - angrily yells it. "I will be calmer," she says, unable to explain the reasons of his love for stamps. Blame intuition. A woman, even if she is completely unfamiliar with the laws, heart senses the trap lurking in free marriage.
Civil marriage was born in the Netherlands in the sixteenth century. People of different faiths could not marry and such unions were legalized power. Today, all on the contrary - unformed authorities marriage, even after the wedding, is considered to be civil.
In the West, civil marriage has been practiced for a long time. Recently, these relationships have become popular with us. More and more couples find that before the Registrar must be nice to live together, to look, to prioritise to a future spouse.
Such relations are, on the one hand, have many advantages. Freedom - psychological and documentary, the extension of the romantic period, the ability to easily leave. On the other hand, civil marriage has a sharp pitfalls. And they concern not romance. Because such a marriage is not recognized by law, in the case of divorce, the spouses have no legal rights to joint property. For example, if the common-law wife was not working and took care of the housework, after parting with the "husband" she could easily be on the street. What came - and went - the motto of the civil marriage. The three men are in such a "divorce" as a rule, do not suffer. They earn money, they issued a joint property, housing and so on, no Wonder they fight for freedom from stamps! The woman remains out of work.
In the West, civil marriage is the legal concept. In the States, female, rendered in a similar situation, may file a claim for recognition of cohabitation marriage. Proving the facts of long cohabitation, appearing together on the people, sexual relations, she gets the rights of a lawful wife. In the Dominican Republic, if people lived together for over 4 years, they have the right to joint property of both spouses. And in France roommates can enter into a civil Pact of solidarity, which specifies the property relations.
And what do we have? In the case of marriage the official all clear. Family code protects spouses in case of divorce both get half of the property. What to do in the case of informal marriage? Maybe arrange a marriage contract? To conclude the marriage contract can only lawful spouse. Even if the document was signed before the wedding, because it will come only at the moment of impact printing on the passport. Civil spouses to enter into a marriage contract are not eligible.
If civilian spouses have something to share in the event of separation, it should take care of this in advance. Namely, to conduct detailed accounting, record all costs of purchase. Common property it is better to issue equity or joint ownership. In this case, there is a chance to sue her. Those who ignore this advice and after "divorce" will try to prove their rights to the property will likely be disappointed. No such claim in a Russian court has not yet won, although attempts were.
As you can see, the intuition of women is not cheating. Civil marriage is fraught with the same great catch. And the stamp in the passport is much more reliable!
And now a few tips for those who want civil wife to become official. To start, determine your chances of winning.
Situation one: you live together less than four years
This situation is most advantageous from the point of view of psychology. You have a greatest chance to hear the March of Mendelssohn. First, because the first love is still alive, and the first time "grinding" you have successfully passed, thereby proving that it can exist on the same territory. Safely proceed to the processing of civilian spouse on the subject of design relations. This is a very suitable moment man realizes that he has found his only one, was convinced that to live together quite comfortably, and have not lost romantic mood. You have all chances to become his wife!
Situation two: you live more than four years and you have no children
At this time, according to psychologists, the first disappointment and recognition of each other "in the real world". Simply put, with eyes fall rose-colored glasses and you see the wife in all its glory. As a rule, women are more soberly host the world still want to get married. Different is with men. This "time" you will be much more difficult to convince the civil husband to get married. He already lives with you and has everything he wants - the woman I love is near, it has life and... clean passport. Now begin the eternal debate on the topic: "Honey, what do you expect from this stamp? " The chances you have, but have to sweat.
Situation three: you live a long time and you have children
In principle, you our advice is not needed. It is your conscious choice and for sure you have already agreed in opinion with her husband that the stamp does nothing". At this time, "the woman convinces herself in the benefits of free marriage and even tries to propagate it. This kind of protective reaction of the psyche. Chance to create an official marriage almost no - because of the lack of desire of both parties.
Now, when we have decided on the chances of the official registration of marriage, move on to practical advice. So, what to do if you dream about veil and Bridal bouquet, and my husband says you about the present civil marriage?
Depending on the nature of your partner choose the right tactics:
A man with a gentle nature you can take the tears, dreamy talk about the wedding or honeymoon.
Wife with a logical mind you can put the things on the shelves. Let him read the above article, for example. Tell me what you want to feel protected. Men love to protect weak women.
Man, preoccupied with the opinions of othersyou can take on this - what would you say family, friends, colleagues? By the way, more successful career in married men and they are more willing to take on the work. Indeed, the presence of the stamp says about the ability to take responsibility for others. Isn't that an argument?
Of course, the property issue raised in the article - the piece is very delicate, and need to have a remarkable delicacy, so as not to get in an awkward position, discussing it with my husband. But because we are women! Tell him that you love him, you want to wear his name, to bear him children. Yes, one of the most effective ways to get a man to marry is to refuse to give birth to the registration of marriage. So tell me - I don't want my children were nothing but a illegitimate! Now I'm not up to date and to the point. Any normal man wants married children. If your not worth thinking about right if you have made a choice.
If the child already has, have much more complicated. Because you have nothing to say to you already gave her husband all that he could. However, many "civil" fathers after the birth of first child agree on the stamp in the passport. Importantly, again, do not miss the time when new dad moved blissfully. You can explain that the future adoption procedure own child is pure madness and for this case to get the desired stamp.
If your common-law spouse refuses to marry, and just leads you by the nose empty promises, putting the stamp on the foggy future - and this is a favorite male tactics - don't despair. You can come by the husband's relatives. Yes, with the future in-laws it is better to have friendly relations. If you will be able to get the mother-in-law, rest assured, she will do anything to get her son married you. Moreover, if you complain that you really want, but can't give birth to nothing but a illegitimate grandchildren. Under pressure two favorite women fortress of male independence will surely fall.
If Rodney you're out of luck, or husband turned out to be extremely stubborn, and any does not agree to marry, should think about philosophy. Because nothing in this world happens by chance. And if your marriage is not issued, maybe it's for the best? Maybe fate has in store for you with another man, and while you're here fighting for a stamp, your spouse is looking for you in the world? By the way, even if you are not a philosopher, I advise you to share these thoughts with a man. Tell him a story about a friend who lived in a civil marriage, and the glory of God, not married, because once loved truly... men these stories act as ammonia. Because despite the "free marriage" men remain the owners.
Last wish of future civilian wives. In fact, to look at each other in a civil marriage, there is nothing to be ashamed of. It will even strengthen your Union, if you start to act reasonably. Before you agree to live together", stipulate terms. Agree initially that if all goes well, you'll be married in six months, for example. In this case, you will have the trump card in the form of honest men of the word. And do not think that talking about the wedding scare men. Yes, they treat them with caution, nature, but by agreeing to live together, any man understands what goes into making a family - albeit informal, so feel free to say what you wish to change the name after a certain period of time. Good luck!
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