"Cocoon" in which we get stuck

Despite demonstrative self-confidence, many people are very shy. Only once they come home, they immediately take off the mask and climbs like a bug in their "shells". Their motto: "Better to feel than to be", and the meaning of life is that as carefully as possible to hide and not show who they really are.

My home is my castle

Our abode is not just the place where we sleep and eat, this is the place where we become themselves. Have you ever noticed that when you are at home long, and you go from there did not want. Many girls out of the house is associated with what to wear makeup to freshen up... You have not noticed this kind of symbolism. We are so ecutives in our "cocoon" the house that, going out, afraid to be real, and the wall that separated off from the outside world, becomes a barrier in communication.

This antisocial" leads to the fact that the person begins to feel alienated: "why can't I strike up a conversation? ""why do I not know what to ask? ""why do I not know what to answer? ". All comes to the fact that we begin to be ashamed of themselves and solitary life it becomes much more pleasant.

What happens in the mind of a shy person?

First, it constantly monitors the situation and trying to determine what impression he makes on others.

Secondly, in the mind of a shy man there is a constant dialogue with his inner guard. What you can do, and what not. What are they going to think of me, etc.

Both of these processes take away the greater part of intellectual human resources. The intellect, the mind, which should be directed at analyzing the situation and making decisions, people spent on it to track it produces the impression to agree with his censor.

To solve the problem of intelligence is not enough. When people experience shyness, he is "blurred" by the mind. For this reason, shy people often can't make a decision to find the right answer. Often even take a completely wrong decision. And it's not because they lack the brains. Intelligence is all right. Just at that moment, the mind is directed to another.

How to get rid of the "cocoon"?

Give yourself every day a small job, which would help you to overcome your shyness.

If you find it difficult to start a conversation with strangers, you can set yourself a goal every day to ask passers-by road to local attractions or simply to your own home.

If you feel shy to talk on the phone, select in the newspaper ad, a travel company, call them and get the conversation about your interest tour.

If you feel shy to communicate with sellers, take it a rule to regularly go to different stores to ask about the quality of some goods and then leave without buying anything.

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