The price of honesty

All people lie or dissemble. And the question "Why? " are hardly appropriate here. Congenital whether this ability is most likely no, but in the process of socialization she acquired a must. With 3 - 4 years, when the child comes to understand that not all their thoughts surrounding able to read, when you see lying adults, they begin invent themselves. And that's fine. Even in psychological tests, to check, candid or not, specially injected test questions like "do you Steal in childhood candy on the table? " or "did you Read ever other people's letters? " - is that a negative answer to these questions indicates a lack of sincerity test.


Absolutely honest people, sort of pravdolubov, is considered in the best case, asocial, and probably crazy. Because the language does not turn to tell you what to hell do not need these spirits, birthday, when you know a close friend who was selected with the utmost care and love.




Wondering about the nature of the lie, a famous American researcher in the field of behavioral Economics, Massachusetts Institute of technology Professor Dan Ariely conducted a series of experiments. He invited a group of students to solve 20 puzzles, and was limited in time and gave money (1 goal is $1) for the number of solved problems, in the end it turned out that students on average were decided by 4 tasks. But if Ariely offered to solve problems and not to take work - just tear the leaves was found that people on average during the same time solve 7 problems. Someone from a desire to seem smarter, someone to earn a few extra dollars, but either way is fine lied almost everything.




In our daily life, where theft and fraud are estimated depending on the circumstances, however, belongs rather to the world of ideal values, on which we focus, as a model, and which are built into the decision to lie or not, and if you lie, then to what extent.




Deception is a tool of communication, building relationships and an integral part of socialization and adaptation. He is in everyday situations of human interaction, people lie in order to protect themselves, "for the love of art", because of laziness long to tell the truth, the desire to appear better than it actually is. Private and trifling occasions irreversibly integrated into the communication system, determining our social, cultural and political and economic existence. As the saying goes, that language was given to man to conceal his intentions. And we lie as long as I live, until the tip of our crazy world, more dynamic and unpredictable, and how difficult and important it is to keep it the ability to balance between the voice of conscience and a fascinating singing the surrounding temptations. All this in an entertaining manner described in the book Dan Ariel "Predictably irrational. The hidden forces that shape our decisions".

Author:

M Malinina


Source:

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