The work does not seem tedious and Sunny mood, however, a little excitement is still there... What a familiar feeling before the new date! Are you already looking forward to a little trip or an invitation to a restaurant, a good rest at an expensive nightclub or entertainment center, flirt and... than it will end your meeting?
Almost all the movies, and favorite books assure us that the most successful first date is not sex, and romantic kiss. He usually declares the key to lasting and happy relationship in the future. At the same time strict upbringing makes itself felt and my mother's, "how can you just met! " still no-no and will fly in the head. And imagination paints a picture, as he casually, hugs you, looking straight into my eyes, slowly touches your hair and talks about the continuation of the evening. And at this very moment, you definitely understand that to refuse would mean to offend, neglected and generally ruin everything. On the other hand, you with friends already decided long ago that sex on the first date is the same as the sentence for the development of these long-term relationships.
If you look truth in the eye, you will realize that actually there are only two reasons for abstaining from sex on the first date. First: you can not argue against sex, but afraid to look too available. Second: you don't want to end the night bed scene, however, you fear that, having been refused, the man will grow cold to you.
Sex on the first date - what do you want itself
The main question, which is really important in this situation - what do you want for myself. No need to go on about the fears and tips all your friends to make a decision should you itself, proceeding from their own interests, and therefore boldly deny or, on the contrary, I'm talking about, if you feel you want it. Then you will control the situation, not the situation you.
No matter how beautiful and romantic your joint evening, be sure, you have every reason to refuse to continue. There are many ways to answer "no" to the proposal on sex on the first date. Wondering myself: when a man is not configured on the really close relationship, and just want sex, not a stunning charm, no outstanding intellect, nor a delightful sense of humor, in short, no your dignity will not be a pledge of his affection. He simply does not want to measure it. With high probability we can say that on the whole possible novel really associate you will be just sex. How long will this novel is not difficult to understand - most likely a couple of days (or rather, nights), at best a couple of months.
However, if you feel the urge and you are drawn to a man as much as it is to you, then there is no reason to restrain themselves for the sake of mythical representations of a certain "correct" behavior. Sex on the first date is not a myth and not the norm, it's your personal decision. Each of us is unique and sometimes it so happens that sex gives you the emotional and physical relaxation, helps to feel freer and more confident. Any doctor will tell you that to maintain the health of women with physical intimacy need no less than men.
Therefore, if the touching, hugging, or sex are necessary for you and even priority ways of expressing their feelings in a relationship with a man, admit it and don't be afraid to show their desire, first you have the date or the tenth. In the end, only stupid and insecure man will think about sex in a day first date (or after the second, fifth, and even before the wedding! ) the fact that gives him the right to manipulate the woman in the future or cause in order to show his jealousy. In this case, it will simply shift the responsibility for your relationship at you, ignoring your feelings and desires. Probably it is from this and wanted to protect us, our mothers.
Sex on the first date - to be or not to be
True, scientifically proven and proven empirically, is that the presence or absence of sex in the first date absolutely no effect on the ability to continue the relationship in the future and certainly does not determine the degree of their severity. But what really attracts men is the sincerity in expressing his / her feelings, natural, not strained behavior and, no doubt, confident in its appeal.
Sex on the first date: Yes or no
Source:
Female magazine Arabio
No comments:
Post a Comment