Stop, and you're sure to work in "male" society - heaven on earth?
Girls, "flowing" in the company, which employs mostly the sons of Mars, should remember the great commandment: men at work and outside of it - that being said, two big differences. After a day of work to you on a date in a hurry gallant knight, ready to smother them with attention and love. Everything is clear - Queen of hearts, its supposed to cherish. And another thing, if you will be "in order" of the knights of the employed, by the way, the production of bread for the ladies) as an employee. To rely on their care, protection from workouts boss won't have to. From now on you are the same team as everyone else. You should not expect mercy for mistakes and oversights, postulate, "I'm a woman, and that I am right! " put aside until better times. Now you have a new status - a colleague, a professional, a specialist, and if you don't understand such a situation will lose. So take note of several rules in the men's team.
Flirt - shut up!
Seeking to establish themselves in the company of these famous guys, girls often use provocative ladies ' stuff'. Here Pokoleniye, there was popliteal, here shot eyes and finished, "the enemy is defeated, I think some of Soderini. Male colleagues of all ranks will fall over themselves to take care of her, maybe it will end with a proposal of marriage. Well, probably, and there are stories with a happy ending, however, is often quite the opposite. Cutie-laugh immediately will gain glory frivolous person. "From the anemones do not expect labor feats, but the amorous adventures on her part! "this is a sample course of men's reasoning.
Let alone the fact that spin novels with your boss is like playing with fire, probably no need to speak. From time to time lucky guaranteed preferential treatment, but as soon as the situation was heated (cold feelings or volume gossip reaches the critical point), will be followed by dismissal. And who do you think will be the threshold? Certainly not a chef!
Press tip: Avoid "forbidden techniques", to charm, to enchant time during off hours. Do not rush to accept favors. To compliment colleagues also feel some trepidation and ambiguous ruthlessly suppress. By the way, in order not to provoke and not to distract colleagues from work, review your closet: ultra mini and candid cleavage leave again for a romantic rendezvous. And "working" clothes try to pick so that the outfit will be present so-called male elements, for example, a colored vest or bright tie. From dresses do not give up, but the ruffles and flounces have to say goodbye, give the green light to a strict fashion.
"Your guy"? 't believe it!
The other extreme, in which risk falling woman in a male environment, is an attempt to be "your guy". This phenomenon can be called "stealing beauty". The appearance of a full undergoing not the best changes: short hair, no makeup, men's suits, strong cigarettes (and sometimes strong word)... Goodbye, heels, scarves and handbags, and at the same time charming femininity! Copied the manners of the stronger sex, to replace the tenderness and weakness come hardness and aggressiveness, and there you are, "soldier Jane" himself. However, all efforts at transformation from fragile nymphs in masculine businesswomen in vain. The fact that those for whose sake the whole masquerade afoot (i.e. men), subconsciously feel false and trained in behavior, therefore, will be shunned ladies-"werewolf". And be sure to stick unflattering nickname like Grenadiers.
Press tip: Don't forget that you are a Woman. You are by nature supposed to be softer, more tolerant and smoother communication than men. Don't take up dry, sharp language of men, their manners and gestures. Yes, nobody cancelled the saying "to live With wolves - wolf howl". But what do you say to them, "wolves" in suits and ties, just work. Yes and not wolves, they don...
Not in friendship, but in the service
What is left to do if you cannot be a Barbie doll, nor a Sergeant in a skirt? The answer is simple: to be herself. But also, what is the "thing in itself". The warmth and emotion you can afford only minimal doses. Men's team - the last place on earth where you can search for friends, here is the territory of the fierce competition for the right to take the top step on the career ladder. No, this does not mean that men are only bitter infighting in the struggle for survival. Relationships in this "zone" is built on fairness and professionalism, and almost never friendly. No need to count that as soon as you openly talk about their problems and compassionately ask the interviewee about the Affairs, he will become your faithful friend. Rather, I will try in the future to bypass you for seven miles.
Press Council Don't try to get into a man's soul! Own feelings and emotions hide under the castle: these comrades to horror scares female emotionality. If you constantly demonstrate the sorrow-the sorrow, the joy over the edge, colleagues consider you "cute girl, but a little crazy", simply hysterical. But! Your ability to lean on, tactfully and quietly, male co-workers will appreciate.
The panic
The pity of it, sooner or later, in the light of God will emerge sad truth: not all colleagues have refined manners, and once the girl has to endure men's conversation. Woe, if the opponents will be rough dork, this, alas, in the Red book are not listed and meets pretty often. From this type one can expect anything: cry, rudeness, insults, everything in his Arsenal. Keep in mind that sometimes this behavior is nothing other than the desire to show "your place". But there are excellent methods of dealing with vomit curse brawler.
Press CouncilFirstly, remember cute Carlson: "don't you cry... tell you, don't you cry. " Don't give the offender a joy to see your tears. Remorse he still will not experience, and you have the ink flow - what is it? Besides, people may make false conclusion that you are not a "fighter", "the weak link". Do not attempt to repay the snapper the same coin - shouting and rudeness, senseless scandal - the lesson is not worthy of smart, strong women. Smell the adrenaline in men is not worse than the dogs: it is unclear what it is, but I want to bite, so do not lose your temper. Respond in a very correct manner is an excellent remedy against the aggressiveness of spiteful critic. Speak quietly, soaking pause between phrases, so you'll make him listen, and you will have time to think "killer" arguments.
Advice? No! Praise? Yes!
It would seem that these "great and mighty" should be grateful for valuable guidance, which generously distributes competent colleague in the skirt. There it was! Men painfully perceive tips coming from ladies, moreover, they regard it as a criticism, confession of incompetence. And instead of gratitude, you risk hearing angrily: "Ask her not to interfere. I know what you're doing".
Press Council: As "knocking on heaven's door", how to get to listen to your opinion? Alas, one way: to praise and showered with compliments. Yes, sometimes I want to scream their heads off: "I know how to make it better! "but in fact, the idea have to realize: "Oh, great idea, colleague! Brilliant. Listen, don't you think it would be even better if..." - followed by your version. What can you do, if men are susceptible to flattery? It remains only to use this, podslushivaet the bitter pill of criticism verbal gesture.
The troubles "on the farm" - equally
There is a trap that can satisfy a woman, she is not wanting. Nature has made us (at least most) caring and economically thanks to the maternal instinct. But these same qualities, valuable in family life that can harm your career. What does the woman saw on the tables colleagues dominance of dirty cups and on window sills - drying flowers? Properly, it is going to wash cups (Men totally unsuited beings! "and add to the drooping plants. And the more often the hostess rushes to solve domestic issues, the farther removed from career success. The sons of Adam, seeing this turn of events, instead of gratitude quietly "clobber" the lady on the second plan, averting her Secretary and office Manager.
Press Council: A caring mother and a prudent owner - not the most popular role among male brethren, at least on the career field. Curb maternal instinct, the big boys are quite capable of taking care of the cleanliness of their jobs. Take care of the welfare of others "children" - their own creativity and realization of talents.
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