Who are these overly amorous people
Existential ease, joyful elation - romantic love frees us from doubt, gives life wholeness and certainty. Over time, the state of passion turns into something more - into a deep sense of trust and attachment (or relations are terminated). However, some of us need to constantly be at the peak of emotion, they are obsessed love euphoria. Long-term, solid relationships are not for them: they live from love to love, despite setbacks and disappointments, and again seek it. Why is this happening?
Escape from reality
Overly amorous - big dreamers. Best of all, they feel in a world of their own fantasies. "It is often very insecure people, says psychoanalyst Jean-David Nasio (Jean-David Nasio). - Real life (they feel rough and cruel) it causes so much anxiety that they prefer to live in a world of illusions. And in relationships with other people tend to see is not a real person, and he drew in his imagination." But as soon as it becomes clear that the object of their love does not correspond to the ideal, they leave it and proceed to find a new one.
Protection from disappointments
To amorous adventures (often subconsciously) seek and those who need strong feelings, passions, who should be at the peak experiences and always feel the "owner" of love relationships. The need is so strong that people can't stop. "Actually constant love that slowly grows over time, in a deeper sense, is one of the protective mechanisms of the psyche, " explains psychoanalytic psychotherapist Ksenia Korbut. - It unconsciously use those of us who are desperately afraid of serious, long-term relationships. Such people are afraid of the possibility to become dependent on a loved one, be attached to it and to experience severe pain at parting, if the relationship ends".
Salvation from loneliness
Often constantly fall in love and those who from childhood suffers from a lack of love, attention and support of loved ones. The lack of love they make up, love yourself. "Acutely conscious of his loneliness (often feel abandoned, helpless,) and emptiness (lack-of life goals), continues Ksenia Korbut, they hope other people will give them what they need, care, love, fill their lives with meaning. And since no one, even the most sensitive, the partner can not reimburse them unconditional motherly love (which they lacked in childhood) and to satisfy all their needs, they quickly disappointed in him". Their love is often a cause of depression: as soon as the object of love disappears with them again remain only loneliness and emptiness.
What to do?
To understand the reason
The reason for your need to be in love(Oh) originated many years ago in childhood. Try to understand what resentment or frustration you are now trying to fill, always love. Ask yourself: "What am I looking for in love? ", "What do I expect from a partner and what you can get through relationship with him? "
To recognize the other person's reality
To love is to accept your partner the right to identity (because a real person is always different from the image that we have in our minds). Only taking a loved one for what it is, you can break the vicious circle of emotional dependency and to create a harmonious partnership.
To find a new source for strong emotions
The lack of strong emotions often becomes a cause of frustration - anxiety, frustration, feelings of hopelessness. Try to find the source of vivid experiences something else: enjoy active sports, art, more travel.
Source:
Women's information and entertainment portal WDay.ru
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