Says our expert Anna Vovk, business consultant company "Arkada consult, Kocher, author and leading trainings on issues of interpersonal relationships.
Different women have different treat sexual interest on the part of the boss. One wants to punish the offender, and the other to bring it to the door Registrar, the third is not ready to lose his job because of the harassment. Let us all three situations.
Are you ready to retire and want to take revenge
Your boss is showing some signs of attention, and you just shivering with disgust. You don't know what to do with it, but already ready to leave, if only to stop all this?
Unfortunately, this is not an active action with his hand, and hints and tone of voice, you are our current legislation poorly protected. Alas! America in this direction is far advanced. They have a legislative framework drawn under this issue of iron. You are man or woman, no one has the right to you to look with lust, and even to touch all the more. There has not yet arrived.
If your address is coming more specific proposals, especially with threats, then it is a reason for institution of a criminal case. You have to get a recorder to record the conversation with my boss to discuss his harassment with colleagues and to record these conversations, too, to fix all the "interesting" moments of personal correspondence, incoming calls to home and cell phones. You should go to the police station to write a statement about the threats to your address. Than the end, nobody knows. If you are an employee of an educational institution, then such misconduct your boss may be considered as immoral and will serve as a pretext for his dismissal. In General, any material goods official way, you will not succeed. Or retires voluntarily or through a court will dismiss your boss. To hit the jackpot for moral damages will fail.
Current judicial practice in these cases is in fact not encouraging, things fall apart on the way to court. But my personal opinion is that under the rolling stone gathers no moss. Act! Maybe that's your case will help to move a thousand other things and optimism to millions of women in the same situation.
You don't want to leave work
My advice to those who would still like to remain on the job, but to stop the assault, the next one.
First, you should ask yourself, whether you are a "hero" and a seductress. If your style in clothes and make-up right about it says, start with yourself. Change your appearance and wait for some time. Cease to do makeup, buy new things that you are not highly visible.
Secondly, even if the answer to the first question was negative, you should talk to your boss and explain to him. For this you need to choose the right moment. No need to rush into the office to Express what you think about it. It is fraught with inadequate measures from boss. Be wiser. The next time he will start to show signs of his attention, tell him: "Ivan, I'm hurt it. I ask you about more correct address in my address. I don't want to keep you any relations, except for workers. I treat you with respect, I appreciate that, but I respect and appreciate even more. Counting on your understanding of". Men organized differently than women. They do not understand hints. They think literally and concretely. Until you literally and specifically't tell him what you want and what not, he will not guess. Next you need to support this behavior, repeating the same. Demand respect, but don't forget that reasons to not give necessary and situations to create is also not necessary.
If the boss you like...
For those charmers who deliberately want to attract the attention of the boss, and then this attention to strengthen, I will offer several different models of behavior. Girls, men love with their eyes and ears. Decide what you want to get in the end.
If your goal is to spin the affair, then it is quite easy. Just remember that it is difficult to hide such relationships. The consequences can be very different and not always pleasant.
If you are committed to a long-term relationship with the continuation, you must be very prudent and tactful. Take the time to give access to the body. Please be remarkable patience. And try to translate your relationship from sex in the emotional plane. Watch the film "the Most charming and attractive". Film the Soviet times, but the story line is timeless, because the classic is eternal. In fact this is a manual for those wishing to marry a colleague (in our case for the chef).
If, on the steps, it looks like this:
- Change your image, become more sexy and fashion
- Constantly fall on the eyes of your boss
- Try to make him stay in the office supercomfort, guess his wishes, take care of it
- You give him attention, take care of him, compliment. Be persistent, proactive and enterprising.
In any case, no matter how developed your relationship with your guide, remember - this is not a one-way process and you will always be able to influence it.
Source:
Woman.ru
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