"Youth is the disadvantage that with the years passes" - this joke with each passing us by year there are fewer jokes. If 20 it seems that the eternal youth, closer to 30 anxious thoughts begin to overcome not only in the morning, when the sunlight treacherously shades in the mirror first wrinkles, but also on the people, when suddenly, instead of the usual "girl", you hear a solid "woman", and after heard at the gynecologist of the term "starorodyaschaya the 29-year-old expectant mother... is There any chance to pass the 30-year life abroad without losses, summing the first results and extracting useful lessons? To begin, outline typical options, which are usually drawn to the 30th anniversary of the average modern woman.
Option 1, an exemplary in the asset higher education, work experience, family: loving and beloved husband, a good life, raised from infancy children, the age of which already allows the mother to return to a pending career, Most strive for such an option, but it is not often meet, unfortunately. Usually the harmony network roll to one side, or worse yet, immediately bursting at the seams.
Option 2, successful career: UNIVERSITIES and two behind, career is developing quite successfully, takes much time and effort, material resources accumulate fat, business prospects and horizons rosy...but on the personal life time is so still, arrange it once and nowhere. And most of my friends leaped married, had children, shared with them all the smaller circle gets even narrower, turning into a vicious circle: home-car-office-auto-home. And in the holidays begins to sharpen the worm of doubt: correctly set priorities, not missed anything important?
Option 3, household
: family, home, and children are put at the forefront, career postponed until better times, but they will not come, every year more and more difficult to break away from the usual cycle of home Affairs, working with friends of the intersection points less, the male breadwinner from morning till night disappears at work, leisure too, for some reason spent with friends, common themes to find is obtained with difficulty. Gradually, the house Cup is full ceases to delight, turning to the camera alone, even if it is full of people, but they are all "in its Wake".
Option 4, the most common, "everything is wrong"
: work, family, and friends are present, but do not bring feelings of joy and happiness. At work the crisis, instead of career fear reduction and cuts in salaries, husband increasingly moving away or moved away just by clicking in category "former children occasionally get sick and constantly will not listen, my friends with their problems, time and mood for meeting with them less and less. And then there's the autumn Blues, the rain outside and the sad realization that to brag to their 30 nothing much. How to live further?
The right attitude for success
Let's remember first of all that most events in our lives themselves are neutral, and positive or negative color gives them our own. From this starting point, and will act, because in our power to change the situation, the attitude to it.
First, as the lawyers say, will assess the damage.
Discord at work?
Let's take them as magical kick, without which it is difficult for any acceleration. What is not a reason to engage in active search for a new job, connecting all the friends, acquaintances and all-knowing Internet? The crisis is not as bad as he is painted for highly qualified specialist in any field. Don't think of himself as such? Also no reason to be depressed, and stimulus for self-improvement: language, design or driving courses, trainings, improving qualification - the way to increase self-esteem and optimization summary.
Even if you are a little over 30...
Family troubles? If the marriage is in crisis, you need honestly to admit it, to discuss with her husband of mutual dissatisfaction (and they usually are really mutual, but we often simply do not suspect, seeing the situation, just a different angle of view), to agree on mutual compromise and work situation. Of course, to break much easier than laborious to build, but the effort is definitely worth it, because you love one another, mutual desire will certainly cope!
If the family broke up once and for all, then it's not the end of the world! Doomed "Who I am right now, after 30 plus child/children? " it is useful to replace the optimistic "I and my children are a celebration of life, and someone very lucky with us! Positive attitude, self-confidence and adequate self-esteem can work wonders, trust me. Friend, and even more men are drawn to the cheerful, energetic, smiling women who know how to be best friends first and foremost their own children, and not perceive them as "aggravating history".
Solid pros! Yes, over the years, we're not getting any younger, but there is an undeniable positive for those over 30: mistakes of youth it's all over, they need to remember more than the same mistakes do not occur, but simply to live, learning to accept the rain as "liquid sunshine", and slammed the door as a chance to find new unlocked.
And if life, according to the popular phrase, "after 40 is just beginning", then you have more than 10 years to prepare for the beginning of a new and no less remarkable phase of life and learn to be happy at any age!
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