Recently in a television transmission the woman asked how she would react to her husband's infidelity. She said that we should look like, if it will change to a beautiful woman, you can forgive. I noticed immediately that this is a very common opinion, which, however, becomes more understandable. Let's try to understand why so many people think women. Thus it will be interesting to see how such a question will meet men. At first glance, the woman may not wish my husband a mistress more beautiful yourself. The wife always takes a mistress as her opponent, acting on the toughest phase of the conquest of man, the stage of love. Wife just vital moral superiority. Note and the second important point is the beautiful mistress significantly more dangerous. Aging wife weaker keeps her husband in his quest to enjoy a young, gorgeous body. Men just often lead energetic, cynical and calculating beauties. It would seem that ugly mistress not dangerous, because the husband will popolnoma and leave her. But triggered some mechanism of consciousness, which we will try to unravel.
A well-known truth: in order to understand a person, you should try to stand in his place. Try to think from the perspective of a married man. As tool use their thoughts and feelings. And will go with them, of course, to my wife. Not accepted in the discourse of sex to refer to their own experience. But in another way I cannot see the hidden mechanism of human behavior. Try to imagine that my wife entered into an extramarital relationship with a man. It is not difficult to do, if only because we've been living with her for eighteen years, therefore, from each other tired, but still young and full of vitality. Mentally put all the same question: what is the situation for me is more suitable? What kind of man it would be better if I changed that it would be more tolerant with the proviso that of two evils we must choose the lesser? I mentally see her with a man older than me, and worse in all respects. Then see her with a younger and beautiful. What to choose? It would seem better with the bad, because he is like a contender, which can lead wife. And everyone, it seems, wants to have a weak opponent, which is always easy to win. But no! Works the same mechanism as that woman. And I without much hesitation choose the latter option. And once a selection is made, then myself and you, dear readers, I will be able to explain the reasons for decision.
First. I will be doubly unpleasant intimacy with his wife, if she had a relationship with an unattractive, dirty, uncivilized man.
In this case, the issues of cleanliness and culture seem far removed from the concept of beauty, but the man is so constituted that his ideas about the other person lie through the prism of harmony. Beautiful people attract, they seem to be cultural, competent, conscientious. Though life is often, unfortunately, it is not the case. And we'll try to talk. In most cases, the spouse after infidelity everyone is trying to forget and continue to live together. Apparently, the deceived wives unpleasant to realize that her husband got into an ugly woman, as she appears to be unscrupulous. It's like a physical explanation of the phenomenon.
Second. Once his wife was just interested in the ugly partner, therefore it is so bad.
And it's hard to understand. Beautiful people are drawn to beautiful. It's long been observed. Just look at the couple, and we will see that men and women in most cases, the same beauty. Women choose men beautiful mistresses, probably manifests a kind of pride that manifests itself unaccountable and secret, what they themselves can't admit. But they want the men appreciated, and more valuable, more important, can only be beautiful mistress.
Third. If cheating appears to outsiders, then I would be especially unfortunate that the wife associated with a bad man. Others will understand a lot and make unpleasant conclusions: what it is, how low it requirements such and I, again with this live.
People with their passions are not separated from society. He is forced to look at the surroundings, keep their position in society, otherwise many will turn away. There is a watershed: better communication with beautiful Minister than with an ugly servant. It is not difficult to see that the external data and the social status of a person constantly resonate in a certain key. The key to this lies in a psychological setting, according to which the Minister may not be ugly and boring clerk must have a common appearance.
Fourth. There is a fairly stable and justified by the view that change in order to find and have more good sex. It can even be mistaken for the truth. Just remember one proverb "Better all the strange woman. And now I see less beautiful man in the role of lover. I don't know what love technique he can give. But I see it much the worst external data. This automatically means that I am so bad that the wife has to find at least this, if only he was better than me in sex. So what I represent! The emergence of a more beautiful lover puts everything in its place. In this case, I am a good partner, but sex looking for something more, so she found a partner prettier than me. The appearance of a beautiful partner, as such, was not surprising, for there is absolutely beautiful or not beautiful people. Everything is relative.
People live according to certain patterns. And resentment cause only the facts out of the ordinary range. After all, no one to resent this fact that people die in 70 years. Death in 18 years is on everyone's lips. If you take the examples of non-marital sex, cheating husband, lived with his wife a few months, there will be more to excite the minds of the people than the news that changed a man who lived with his wife a long 30 years. Behavioral thesis crowd "Him God himself commanded". Of course, this event is unpleasant, but we are talking about the secret strings of the human soul.
Fifth
. As if I wasn't nasty cheating wife, I wish her only good because we have lived for years, we have family, pretty good kids.
The good wishes, have a nice shop around. Probably, this is dictated by the attitudes of other women to their husbands. No matter how insulting, but there is a subconscious appreciation loved one amid hatred for treason. If that changes, let him come across beautiful women.
Sixth
. Lover, bursting into the family as if it forms an invisible triangle. This triangle is real. An understanding that I like to share my wife with another man, whether I like it or not. In this case, you want to in the triangle consisted of beautiful, worthy man.
Similarly mirrored and women think about the mistresses of their husbands, which they hate, but want to see only beautiful, clean, and good. Not to say, "Well you found yourself! ". Although still say, no matter how beautiful was not the mistress. But you can say anything, but to think and desire of the lover for her husband, if evil is inevitable, a woman always wants beautiful. I randomly drew attention to the fact that the triangle is real. Get the difference in few hours and mentally slide the wall, and as if in one bed on the queue will be: wife, husband, lover, husband. And my wife does not want to see a man with an unpleasant appearance.
Nothing never comes, when you think about the explanation of the cry of the soul "To whom he me has changed! ". However, the question arises with the first two arguments about competition and danger. In the sense of rivalry is nothing humiliating, horrible, no. Leave the competition only those who have nothing tends. Look closely at interpersonal relationships. Everywhere else will see or direct competition, or its elements: work, school, sports, games, even at home. In relation to the actual act of treason to talk about the rivalry would be wrong, because, having laid my husband in bed, mistress, at least temporarily defeated the wife, and the dispute in this case between them is complete. The danger of family relationships comes not from his mistress, and from a lack of love between the spouses. Married love is not essentially can interfere with even the squad clever mistresses. Short communication, like low waves, unable to overturn a giant family ship. Any small leak will always be filled. And only the loss of the love of a friend, such a loss of navigation equipment on a large ship, which promptly flies to the terrible iceberg.
Chapter from the book "Games for adults"
Author:
Lippies A.
Source:
WWWoman
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