No loud litigation, perestrahovaniya dirty linen in public and "carve-up" children TV presenter was able to part with her ex-husband without scandal. In an interview with Tina shared with us their thoughts about what should be the ideal divorce.April 23, 2010, the famous TV presenter officially divorced from her husband, a businessman Andrei Kondrachine, having lived with him married for over 11 years. The couple grows older two children - 10-year-old Nikolai and 9-year-old son of Leontius. However, despite the complexity of the pre - and postresponse period, Tina and Andrew managed to maintain friendly relations.
- How did you manage with Andrew Kondrachine to stay friends?
"We didn't have with Andrew so deep contradictions to end the relationship. This absurdity, stupidity and nonsense, when people lived for 10 years side by side, parted enemies. Why to remove from my life the past years, for which acquisition was much more than losses? For this great decade I have had two wonderful children - how can I forget it and throw it away from your life that is directly associated with their birth?
- How you think, what you need to do to not hurt children? Or, at least, the damage was kept to a minimum?
- Loud parting hurt, first and foremost, children. Parents can always find support in someone else. They are able to walk this path with less painful consequences for one's own psyche, rather than the children.
Having children requires, cannot come only from one's own ego: "I don't want to see you, bye! ". Need to consider the interests of children who need a father and mother to complete an adequate education. At all times children growing up in broken families, had attention deficit. Today, due to the employment of both parents lack of attention typical for families. After the divorce, this deficit desaturase.
You need to leave peacefully, so that when my father came home or the parish of the mother to the father with the children was not a demonstrative way of solving their own problems. Most importantly - do not take children hostage to their problems, they are not to blame. They are not to blame that your husband gave you the gift you've been dreaming of, on 8 March 2003. Not my fault that you forgot to congratulate him on his birthday or congratulating him, not as he wanted or did not let him go to a football match with your friends... Your children are not guilty of that at some point you no longer understand each other.
- Do you single out a special time when children can communicate with his father? Maybe some kind of schedule for children from mom and dad was?
We are in a good relationship, so that Andrew can come at any convenient time, and children can come to him at any time. The main thing is that the relationship is not turned into the form of meetings within the prison, when there are certain hours that you can see your own child. I believe that both parents if they are adequate, physically healthy and sound mind, should be able at any time to see their children. If you have children is not a tool to clarify the relationship, then access should be unlimited.
- Are there any exceptions when you want to ignore your advice about the peaceful, intelligent separation and to end the relationship as quickly as possible?
- If your partner is at risk, then we should leave as soon as possible. Such couples break up is always in conflict, because if you hit, you spit, if you were set on fire, and so on - then the question - why do you live with this person? These stories we all heard and saw, right? But the question to the woman or the man - why are you such a partner suffered? Well, if tolerated - at some point all the same enlightenment come from? Thank God that parted, that's all.
How do you think, can a marriage contract to become the cure-all during a divorce?
Culture of separation we are now only just being formed. Why? Because we have no laws in this area. Abroad for marriage people already understand their responsibilities in the separation - how will the separation, division of matrimonial assets. In Russia this culture there - hence fights, scandals, showdown, redistribution of property. But if we come to the Western form - the form of the conclusion of marriage contracts, then we will leave otherwise, because the contract clearly States: what is the responsibility of the parties.
People are already for many years in my head, "put these items and know that they love married, but if you go, each of them will do so-and-so. Previously, it was ironic and laughter, now people understand that it is correct.
Catherine Zeta-Jones made a Michael Douglas in the marriage contract that if your husband is not going to live with her during the week, he pays her something about 3 thousand dollars. Actually there is a certain understanding that Michael Douglas, married with a young actress should be aware that he will be forced to be a man until the end of his days (approx. ed: now the couple completely different problems, in August of this year, the actor was diagnosed with cancer of the larynx, he will have an 8-week course of chemotherapy.) The age difference gives rise to a number of questions - how can a man of sixty to meet a woman forty years old. But once he marries, he takes care of all these responsibilities.
We women, unfortunately, are not protected from physical violence, and it is also very bad. If in marriage contracts is taken into account, and this practice would be introduced in all segments of the population, the issues would not have been
Is it hard to leave without a fight?
I think that the situation each time a individual. Some people are Mature enough to not be make the situation of conflict when leaving. But, by and large, part of the world is much more difficult than to lose the war. There is a good phrase that can be touched each and naradovatsja can only angels. As well as to naradovatsja we don't know each other, especially when we are talking about spouses who divorce each other wants will cause pain. From own experience I know that the biggest problem in relationships is the ability to part with the world.
- What, in your opinion, the global causes of the collapse of marriage?
- Instantly vanishing interest in relation to another person became the absolute trend of the time. Previously, he was stretched out in time, but today is rapidly passes through your life and the social network in which you communicate constantly, using mobile phone, Skype and other things, " your relationship "compressed" to the limit. So many marriages fail. People all said and all done. If people have some common global goal, they say, have the same perspective on the world, they technically together just physically easier to survive, they are merged.
More and more people still tend to have some personal space. The time spent together and individually, is becoming the same, it is only after a certain time separately, it is possible to wish to spend time with someone. Need a healthy balance is often not enough.
Author:
Eliseeva E.
Source:
Woman.ru
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