Although many women are hating female friendship... This is mostly for those who were fired. Someone drew her husband or loved one, someone has posideli" at work, someone threw in the most difficult moment in the life of best friends. But here someone for life harbors resentment and close in heart won't let new friends, and someone eventually thaws out, because not all girlfriends - traitor!
Friendship are different, they can be any reason. Someone just need a shoulder, someone may not be one, but most often women converge with the same fate. Agree, a single woman is easier to communicate with unmarried than that, anyone in the family are all well and full house of children. This correspond to the profession: if friends, they are similar, and to talk more. And if they co-worker - there is a direct road to friendship. No wonder in the workplace happens so many novels and so many ties of friendship.
But there are female friendship, which bear some resemblance and even substitution, as psychologists say. That is, the woman chooses a friend what she would like to become. Meet the so-called beauty and the ugly. Remember how many of these girls couples were in your childhood and youth, when beauty chose a girlfriend not a very nice girl, to look favorably on her background and like the guys. In the face of a friend she was always the object that tirelessly to be admired, worshipped and strongly supports her self esteem. But the plain with his hand reaches to the level of a friend, trying all she like, do the same haircut, then visualize the "community beauties". Actually such girlish friendship, based on the difference between appearance and can often be found in adulthood. You've probably seen women, one of which for many years trying to reach the level of a friend, this is based all their friendship. When such a relationship does not pass frames (that is, beauty is not completely suppress his girlfriend, and plain not trying to make her idol and puts it all my life), then it's OK. Then there are friends became friends because they are fun and interesting together because they are similar. The main thing that was not full of "substitution". By the way, these friends become the main enemy, as in his imitation just can't stop, besides the beauty and well-being, they want to seize and husband, and friends of his girlfriend. Therefore, it is important to see the pathology in the relationship and try to move away.
And there are friends who do not like, but over time become bosom that already do not know where to go. They are constantly calling, come to visit, you know all your relatives, friends, and the result is already so embedded in your life that you don't know how to discourage them. Although initially such attention to our lives always flattering (as we like, when we and our lives to someone genuinely interesting). But when part of this "friend" goes beyond all limits, it is necessary to try to reduce such relationships.
Just a good, true friends, like men, need to look for, to weed out, something to be wise and don't be afraid to incorporate them. Many women, fearing treachery, do not try to be friends. But this is a very erroneous opinion! Still, the woman should not live without friends, who are usually very emotionally supportive. Someone many years on friendly terms with her childhood, which are fully tested and trusted all (but here we must be careful and not to trust everything unconditionally, because no one can predict how a friend behaves in some situation). And some prefer to be friends with those who interest them at the moment.
Many women, once married, refuse from friends, or as I fear, that a friend can put eyes on a spouse, or simply not take the time to communicate in the midst of family life. But to dwell ONLY on the family in no event it is impossible. It is even dangerous! Of course, any family with time develops a certain circle of friends, with whom the couple have been friends together - often there are also couples. But to forget her friends cannot. First, blasphemous as it may sound, families tend sometimes to collapse, so to the first person you run to share, is your old single girlfriends! Not your common family friends, they you just do not understand. Those who have had their circle of acquaintances and friends, quickly come to their senses and easier going through a divorce. And secondly, when you have your own outlet in the form of friends and his own life gives you a kind of mystery, any man will appreciate the fact that you do not become a housewife, a conductive homes in the apron 24 hours a day, and the beautiful and fragrant can vyporhnut to meet their girlfriends. Let prevnet!
Of course, with time after your marriage many of your friends go into the category of friends, you will have quite different interests, and to discuss with them baby food and how your baby grows, it will be interesting. But for this and there girlfriends! Go to a movie with them, discuss new cosmetics and feel again young, single, desirable, just live a different life. It's so important for us!
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Telemania
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