Everything was perfect: you are almost at the same time liked each other, and immediately found interesting topics of conversation, a pleasant place where you can enjoy a coffee at lunchtime, and General Hobbies that are so brought together. And suddenly after the next meeting, you feel that somehow all wrong and isn't that why is not clear. Or it ceases to call himself and sluggish supports dialogue, referring to the case when calling you. Maybe the reason one of the unfortunate, but these common mistakes?
Far-reaching plans
Light - girl serious plans in advance. Writing in her diary is always done in a month or two ahead, and the day is planned by the minute. Having got acquainted with a young man, she immediately decides for himself, it is worth spending time or not. In the case of an affirmative answer indicates the level of severity and begins to act. "On Wednesday we'll go to a new movie, good? And during the weekend for birthday colleagues, that all pairs will be. And in August, the first half of my vacation, you can skip the sea. On the way back to uncle Joe and aunt Lena will stop, they long ago I was invited to". No, Light is nothing bad in mind, and has no on anyone's personal space does not encroach, just want to know for sure than to be busy on a weekend, a month or two with her favourite man. But young people get shy and timid after the fifth "come on" look around nervously and start looking for the door. The truth is not all: once in Svetenoy life happened just the same as she, Vitalik. He gladly agreed to all of Sveta suggestions, and went much further - after two weeks of relations included in the plans of buying a car, mortgage (15 years), kindergarten for future three sons. In kindergarten the Light of thought, and she turned to the relationship, saying that such unfounded far-reaching intentions - a sign of frivolity.
Do not hurry up with plans and conclusions as soon as he met "her" man. Perhaps you will live together to a ripe old age and will be together to raise grandchildren. Maybe, will give up after a month with good friends. Or will ruin each other's lives and break hearts. And he can loud snoring, to pick one's nose, to count the things in the store and love Petrosian. Life is so unpredictable that "far sight" all spoils. Not least because in any case are not as we think. Maybe just relax and enjoy the here and now?
Total control
"Where are you? And what are you doing? And then what will you do? "this is a list of short questions, slightly varying depending on day of week and time of year, Olga daily sets all the men who had the temerity to ask her out on a date. Thus, as it seems, it shows his concern, interest, and keeps abreast of emerging novel. But the pulse rate decreases sharply, as young people become increasingly nervous and secretive. Olga too nervous and offended. Maybe the object of love married? Has three children? Is on the international wanted list? And why did he not disclose their plans for the evening and not telling detail about the health and menus in office canteen? It ends all the same - the showdown on the empty place, flaccid excuse for young people and by Olga's grievances. But everything started!
You should not act so the man decided that he so guarded personal space is being threatened. In addition, the more control the situation, the stronger the feeling that she is out of control. The solution is simple: take care of your life, collect impressions that you had something to share at the meeting. Then the need to control others will disappear by itself.
The desire to please
Marina loves an active lifestyle, skiing, vegetarian food and Strugatsky. Or maybe a relaxing evening watching TV, steaks and detectives. Sometimes even the students in the club, margaritas and Beigbeder. It all depends on who is close to her in the moment (or at least just cute). Is the young man to stutter that he appreciates feminine images, Marina runs cheat curls, on the way bought a long skirt and a bouquet of daisies. Praises athletes - it looks like the dust from a climber and violently shakes the press. In addition, she is cute, not happy scenes, agrees with everything and always in a good mood. However, these good intentions to conform to the ideal, as with all good intentions result in personal little hell. Marina waits dividends for their efforts. The man takes everything for granted, and then another, and sincerely puzzled to know what Curling with him she looked solely out of politeness.
Not worth someone to pretend to like it. Sooner or later the truth will be obvious and not very honestly pleasant. And the most astute men (there are) feels false immediately, which obviously will not add points even the most attractive girl.
Tongue-in-cheek cynicism
"Relationship between two people is always a bargain," "Love - trivial physiology," and "Want to meet me, think about what to amaze me" is a favorite phrase of Alena. Soft and vulnerable at heart, she covers it all cynical maxims. And then the terrible suffering that its propaganda relationship without romance, sex without commitment or feigned indifference taken seriously. Building relationships thus, most of the girls in my heart I dream to conquer, love, and dissuaded. And receive feedback, male is by nature more straightforward. Position "conquer me, and I will sit and see how it'll come to you" can mesh men-hunters. But the trouble is that this game is interesting only in the process, and succeeding, they often quickly grow cold.
You should not hide their emotions and feelings, portraying presidency, cynical woman. Up to a certain age it just looks funny and then sad.
Commercialism
For Wikis security is synonymous with success. If a man doesn't have a decent salary, his apartment and car, then spend your time is just pointless. Vika and she was held as a professional, in addition clever and beautiful. That's only in your personal life catastrophically unlucky: a strong and successful Mercantile approach rejects and promising, but the beginner is really frightening.
Not worth it to admire the position and the number of zeros in salary, even if the man himself is proud of the above. Much nicer when it is called mind, hard work and dedication. And they say that money can't buy happiness, though, of course, much more comfortable.
Source: lady.mail.ru
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