Find your "Long. Happily. Together" - this is largely how to care for the garden. You sow the seeds. Watered. Hoeing weeds. Gnesi back. Rejoice when something grows.
Then you do another. Do, because one grown berry is worth all of the hard work that you have invested in the cultivation of these grapes, which have not grown. And marriage. You are working. Work hard. Something is successful. Something - no. If you will persevere, you will constantly see things grow. But always want to do everything well sure, how do you learn this material.
Step 1: Find yourself
It's easy to blame in his unhappy life of her husband. But the truth is that unhappiness man gives himself. It comes from within. You are in charge of your mood, happiness and good health. Take care of you - not your husband. Take care of yourself - your work. Your husband here with you to support you in this.
Step 2: Identify your problem
What in your marriage works and what doesn't? Look into your own future. Imagine a beautiful day in a beautiful marriage. What does your husband? How do you communicate with each other? Imagine the sex. Love. Happiness. All this together. Then make a plan that will lead you from point a "to Desire the death of her husband" to point B "the Perfect marriage".
Step 3: Engage in the work of her husband
Tell your husband about your feelings. Explain what you want to do and why. If he resists, insist.
Step 4: Forget old grudges
Everyone likes to accumulate resentment. If it were not so, none of us this would not have worked. Each time a new quarrel we disturb old wounds and say this: "I am better than you. It's all your fault. See? See? See?! "
But your husband may not be at fault. Partly is your fault. And, more importantly, memories of old grudges interfere to improve the marriage. If you're stuck in the past, we will never be able to create a better future. Nobody argues, very hard to forgive. But you should try...
Step 5: Do sex
If you don't want to have sex with her husband, then something is wrong. You can have a health problem that makes sex painful. Contact your doctor. If not, it is usually women do not ISF sex because: 1) indifferent to her husband; 2) can't stand her husband. With this need to do something.
Work on your marriage. You don't want sex with a man whose presence you can't stand. Talk to him about what's wrong. Then set a date to resume their sex life.
Step 6: Learn to be romantic
Arrange a date. Touch each other. Animates. Saying "I love you" and Express their feelings and actions. Remember the early days of your relationship. What he did then and does now? Think about the husbands of her friends, especially those who are romantic by nature. As they are romantic towards their wives? Think about romantic men from the movies and books. As they care for women?
Step 7: Learn to speak out loud... but not too loud
Stop that require him to read his thoughts. He has no psychic abilities. He never was and never will be. It is better to deal with problems sooner rather than later. If you're going to leave then, to solve them will be harder - it's like trying to scrape off leftover food from the dishes, which is already a week lying in the sink.
Step 8: feel the understanding
Aim to know your husband better than anyone else, and let him, in turn, better to know you. If he doesn't want to talk about the meaning of life, let it. You're married not for Iodine. Your husband - man. Appreciate it. Instead of the meaning of life find out what concerned him the most. What are his Hobbies? What he loves the most? What he imagines a perfect day? What are his favorite books and movies? What he's interested in on the Internet? What's his favorite food? Where in the journey, he would like to go? What kind of living the dream he always wanted to make? The answers to these questions will deepen your relationship.
Step 9: Write a solemn speech, devoted husband
Work on speech devoted to her husband every time a little. Try to notice what he was doing right. For example, every day, feeding the cat, because the smell of cat food cause you nausea. Save it in a solemn speech. Think that your husband may impress other people. What good would they say about him? Finish the sentence: "If someone truly knew my husband, he would then knew that he..."
Step 10: If necessary, repeat their attempts
You will be tempted to quit. Can lose the desire to work on the marriage. You will cry out to heaven: "does It really have to be so difficult? " Yes, it is. Most importantly always remember, the marriage can not be healed completely. This Project of a lifetime. Spravljaca with it.
Author:
A. Bowman
Source:
obozrevatel.com
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