Women who don't love themselves
They are easy to find - look them deeply sad, smile - WAN, head lowered, shoulders scatolini, the gait is shuffling. Such women have no luck with men, they are often abandoned and betrayed. His dislike of themselves they alienate men, their faith in themselves and that they deserve more, they attract tears and humiliation.
Fear leads these women fear to be alone (that's why they cling even for unworthy men) fear that they would betray the fear that they will throw. So they descend, they pray, and walk through its I, they cater to men, they turn into their nannies and servants. If only they had not been abandoned, but would not deprived of their love, but would have been pleased with them.
These women are victims, victims of bad relationships to ourselves, hostage unloving to yourself. That is why, under the onslaught of emotions and impulses, fears and experiences, they constantly make mistakes and make their relationship is far from perfect.
How to recognize the syndrome of Baba Yaga?
If you are constantly afraid: afraid of losing her man, not afraid to please him and to cause resentment, fear get bored and become a burden if it is fear pushes you into all sorts of crazy things, like rolling hysteria (it's miserable), or fawning and try to please all his whims (in order to persuade and convince him), if you see obvious signs of discontent from his men and the deterioration of the relationship, if all your actions are totally opposite of the intended reaction can rest assured you're sick with a terrible syndrome - syndrome of Baba-Yaga.
The experience of one of my close friends know which it is. Fearing the loss of his beloved, she always tried to do for him and their relationship something "useful" and "necessary", something that would have forced him to be with her! She did stupid things, she broke the relationship and the feelings that the man felt for her. Attempts to bring it to a serious conversation had taken another woman's Caprice, all her questions is a sign of infinite stupidity, all of its actions is the desire to annoy and ruffle.
And it worked for him - cooked and cleaned, washed and cared for, waited and worried. But one day, after yet another scandal and requests not to get his eternal calls and control, she realized that she was completely wrong. She realized that she lives in constant fear (largely invented by herself), otravljus all her life. And she decided to stop being afraid, for fear should lead the life.
Yes, it was difficult to realize, to understand, to overcome, but after she became just live and enjoy relationships, she began to do things simply because SHE wanted it, just because she is nice, and it worked. And you know what? Since then her family there is harmony and peace she calmed down, revealed love and opened a beloved brand with a new hand - confident, self-sufficient, believe and, more importantly, appreciate it, and not afraid to lose.
Another example of a classic syndrome of Baba-Yaga - women, not respecting Women.
Another friend of mine, getting acquainted with men, having with them a few pleasant evenings, starts to panic and do everything possible to scare them constantly nazvanivaet, takes questions, insists at the next meeting. Naturally, men are afraid and concerned over such behavior. They don't want to be with a woman who so openly impose itself. And she's just afraid that favourite man will disappear...
I.e. fear again! Fear attracts negative and results in life in the most terrible manifestations. After all, what we are most afraid will happen if you think about it going constantly. Negative attracts negative - that is the law, unfortunately.
Another manifestation of the syndrome unloving to yourself - the problem of personal ineffectiveness - women's all good only when next to her man. As soon as he appears in her life, all her starts ladisa, it becomes livelier and grief do not know.
But why is it so? What disturbed her to live well until men? The answer is simple - for myself it prodavatsa and slimmer there was no, there was no need to cook, to make repairs and to relax. Because she does not love himself and sees no reason to improve their lives. The meaning of life is to find a man for whose sake it is possible to do it all. She is constantly in search. And when it finds "that one", then all the forces trying to hold it and, alas, very often fails.
Driven by the fear of losing such a long-awaited goal in life, she is ready on all for the sake of HE was beside her. And therefore does not pay attention to bad attitude, humiliation and insults, well, rude and dislike.
Still one of my best friends for many years waiting for a proposal of marriage from her boyfriend. She endures all and ridiculous excuses, and requests to wait, and just plain "frost". Any attempt to open her eyes to the real state of things she rejects. So we have to watch on the sidelines as the bright and confident girl she is turning into sederhana and not believing in themselves create.
And this is very sad. This guy is simply asserting itself at its expense, understanding how it is important, he pulls her strings, playing and blackmailing. And she just need to look at ourselves, to understand and to send it! Because she deserves more, she is worthy of love and respect, and not the status of the chief ornaments of mediocrity and nothing representing men.
Conclusions
Unfortunately, many women do not pay attention to bad attitude, they are ready on everything if only there was a man, and let him not good enough and not ideal, the main thing is he is near, and there is someone to wash my socks.
These women are deeply unhappy, deep down they know that they don't deserve the best, and this conviction confronts them with worthless creatures.
Not everyone is able to diagnose in itself syndrome Baba-Yaga, not everyone have the courage to see him, to recognize and eradicate. But those who dare, to radically change their lives. So once changed it and I.
Advice
All girls who are suffering because of the lack of love for yourself, I can give this advice: make fear your ally. He appeared not just as a means, the subconscious mind tries to tell you that something is wrong, that life must be changed.
And if you nothing will change if you let fear get to its essence - normal relations to build you will not succeed. A man will feel your fear, and it will sooner or later be forced to leave.
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