It would seem, here it is - the same freedom as God himself commanded, and chief sighted: no need to carve in a tight schedule Friday, the other on a romantic dinner and a trip to the Opera with ladylove, an hour or two in the evening to see the latest blockbuster" and a minute or two in the middle of the working day, to send half atamasco "how are you? ". You can not be distracted by calls to parents, laying on beds kids and intimate conversations with a friend, which urgently need advice on a personal matter. No obligation, hassle, Pets, annoying friends. There's nothing to it. And even laptop to take with you is not necessary, and the phone can be switched off at the airport immediately after sent "we have landed". And, finally, to enjoy the company of a lover to whom you miss 90 percent of the time in real life.
Rest well - not distracting anyone
But in this place, just like in a fairy tale about love, which ends with a wedding, and the fun begins. When the allotted time to stay together and "alone together", it turns out so much, it turns out that not very much we know how to use them. Together. The great thing is once every six months to withdraw bored house wife for a corporate party and two hours to wait her nagging on the topic "I want the same dress as her"? And you should try to withstand two weeks of such nightly outputs in the light, while never providing resistance in the form of a timid, "maybe today I am in the room read the book, and you go...". How? You had waited for so long, and you together. Finally.
Sasha loved the extreme: dived with scuba diving, did rock climbing and mastered all kinds of freestyle ski before met with Andrew. Reasonable and far from the sport, the youth were enthusiastic about sashaís idea to go to the mountains, which he, indeed, never in my life had never been. Not thought to warn her, however, that the word "visit" does not imply "to conquer". And had a great time: Sasha - on the nature in the company of students climbers, Andrew - enjoy the power and grandeur of the mountain scenery from the window of the hotel. Here is the vacation together.
To find compromises, to throw the lot or to decide on the pastime by "you - I, I - you" is good and right. But it is not always meaningful. In the end, the vacation is really recreation and pleasure. And pleasure each can have their own. As a hobby. No one would think to attach a man to the cross-stitch or offended that he does not Express this enough interest. So why did he lie hotel sheets in anticipation of your return from mount Athos? Will come back and show him pictures, and he meanwhile, without leaving your marital bed with a Cup of coffee, read on the Internet just published and unpublished Pelevin, what dreamed last six months in office, dying on the reports and plans.
No rest for the wicked
Vacation generally is a very serious thing. In order to test close to you man on mental compatibility and understanding, we, thank God, no need to walk with him in the exploration. In modern conditions a long time ago have changed: I would like to quarrel with someone for the rest of your life - go with him to relax. Best friend will not necessarily be divided between a handsome guest - king of the beach, a couple of years maintained a "friendship houses", quarrels due to inflated prices for the rental of country houses painted on the shores of some lakes in Central Russia, but you never know... And in the relations between man and woman is one of the most subtle and gentle matter - and even more so full of slippery places and hot spots, the existence of which you to a joint holiday can not even imagine. The reasons can be very weird, but good, as they say, can linger on a little longer. The explanation of this phenomenon is quite simple: at home in a bad mood favorite you can and should be ignored, and there is always something to distract myself and forget about the incident. At leisure, you two spider single Junior Suite. To complain to the neighbor on the loungers on the beach - it's weird, time to cheat themselves, - as many have nowhere to run. Behind - the Black sea.
Natasha and Jane six months after the birth of first child, leaving him in the care of parents and escape to the resort, in the first days quarreled so that has come to the decision to divorce. As expected, it is easy to guess, repetition honeymoon. After the birth of the second child she took a firm decision to go away alone. "We are so tired then and worries about the baby, and from each other that and even go together to relax - it was just habit. I will rest in bed with a book on the beach, and he's at home will sleep well. At least you will miss an opportunity".
It is reasonable? More than. Halves halves, but sometimes (as with the current rhythm of life is increasingly) the man should be alone. Not because and because and simple. To go into another room with a book, to be locked in the bathroom with the player, walk along the boulevards with a camera. Well and leave the village to live with her aunt, in the wilderness, in Egypt. Just to feel the difference between their usual existence and some more others. And favorite person, though beloved, is also part of this - normal - life. It is can someone not like it, but grab heart and begin to look suspiciously him in such cases "did not cease to love? " - not exactly a reason.
Let
Importantly, not Vice versa. That is, to attempt to go away was not an excuse just not to admit that I really did not like. Or not out of love, but the thought of this already allows. To reflect on what is happening with your couple or with his personal feelings, is to assess to overestimate, exhale or re-breathe in the cooling love the inspiration. Is it easy to let go of a loved one in suspense and wait for the outcome, whatever it was? Of course, not easy. But him in this situation, not easier.
"Anton well lived, but at some point I felt that everything was faded, " says Masha. - Came to life and working with them. As they say, nothing more to say, and catch nothing. But when he proposed to relax alone, I supariwala. Persuaded him first, and then resigned. After the holidays we are still a month not seen - I went to my mother. And then he began to call more often and eventually came for me to return. It was touching. I still don't know how he spent this time, and don't even want. Now I am even glad that it is this situation something has changed - I myself did not dare".
In General, too many nuances, and they are known to all and decide. For example, if the offer vacation separately applies to both holiday parties is one thing, but if a man believes that women leave is to lead an apartment in order, until he develops a new technique of diving in society tanned tourists, it's worth considering. It's not a matter where and how you will spend your vacation, but with whom you later years will be to recall this.
Author:
Peregudova Yu
Source:
Леди@mail.ru
No comments:
Post a Comment