You have a daughter? Please support her self-esteem!

Your daughter is upset when failures? In kindergarten she craves leadership? How to improve self-esteem your daughter? Do not postpone this issue to the back burner. After all how would she refers to himself as well in the future it will be treated and the surrounding. And because of the resilience and confidence of women, depends on many things in her family.



Meets Anastasia Komarova, child psychologist Montessori centre FLOWER:


1. To create an environment of success.




At home, out walking, deliberately create situations in which your daughter is strong and manifests himself confidently. Be sure to mark its success. But it is better not praise, and talk about her and her feelings.




I am so glad that you did... I'm glad you.... Do you like, what are you...?




The main thing is to be sincere in their feelings that the daughter felt your joy because of her victories, and felt his. At the same time her confidence will grow.





2. When the failure - to cheer and encourage you to try again.


"You're upset (angry, offended, and so on) that you have not worked the way you wanted?





3. Listen to her response.


- Yes, really unpleasant, but not always as we would like. Try again. After you ask if they like the result? Rejoice together with it.





4. Try not to use evaluation of its actions, crafts and so on.


Assessment (good, good, good) puts the child on it (evaluation) other. Whether a parent, teacher, friend, teacher, and so on. The more important the person, the stronger the relationship and the desire to get "good" rating. This is often lost interest in the process itself perform anything, and increased fear of error. After all, if I make a mistake - I do not boast, do not appreciate. Better give voice to their feelings - joy, delight, pleasure from your daughter. Often address her self-sentiment from work: - do You like?.




5. Call yourself a minimum of five qualities of his daughter, which you like.




When she manifests these qualities, celebrate it necessarily fix them.




As I am pleased that you..... What you have me caring... etc.




Good to hug, to kiss his daughter. Or to do something that tells your mother's heart. But be honest with yourself and with her daughter. Celebrate the qualities that really appreciate it.





6. Do not forget about reasonable criticism.


After all, if only to admire, it can creep distrust of his mother.




- Yes, I like, but I know here can....




It's your daughter will also increase the confidence - after all, mom takes seriously its work, gives valuable advice on improving it.




7. Play at home in a game where there are winners.




Failures need to be introduced gradually. It's not always going to win. Here it is also important to show their feelings: grief of loss, the joy of winning. But the most important thing is the joy of interaction, will not win unless you play.





8. Ask the teachers talking to whom your daughter and see if she has a girlfriend, how she communicates, did you manage to get close with someone.


In this age of huge importance to the relations with each other, the rules of conduct in society, role-playing games. Maybe you need help educators in establishing contacts between children.




The fact that your daughter is now in the group, the youngest, is also a plus - it has room to grow, not to compete with others, because the rest is really older (and she can't explain it).




She can feel the support and assistance to older children and with them something to study together. Yes, it is a new situation, but a wonderful experience. And it is a wonderful experience. Enlist the support of teachers.




Gradually, with your help, the situation will improve. Please be patient, because the changes will not happen for a couple of days and even weeks.

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