Modern man is talking with colleagues more than friends. Every day we communicate with dozens of colleagues: drink tea, share gossip, discuss books and movies and just be friends. How to maintain a balance in relations with them? Collective creativity
Of course, if your professional activities involve only the use of technology, for example, the collection of computers, the question of friendship with colleagues does not arise. In all other cases, not to make friends or at least friends in the office is simply impossible - we have here a third of his life.
"What work are knotted friendship, quite naturally, because the people with whom you day in and day out make common cause, share the success and accept defeat, can't you be very alien, human nature", - said Ksenia Borodina, PR-Manager of a large company. But also that the very nature pushes us towards closer relations with colleagues, the majority of companies holds a special policy, then to a vacancy among the advantages you can specify a "friendly staff".
"Most often, including this paragraph, the employer wants to show inherent in the company values such as mutual respect, the General atmosphere of goodwill, " says Margarita Tagawa, key account Manager. - If people know how to be friends, and in the work of these relationships may be useful. Especially if the job involves project activities, team interaction".
According to Ksenia Borodina, creating a friendly atmosphere contributes, for example, informal communication style: "In our company is not customary to refer to "you", not adopted surname, even when communicating with the Director, and it does not harm the subordination and coordination of the work of our team. Moreover, it has a positive impact on productivity, because healthy friendly atmosphere helps people to feel very comfortable and at ease to implement their projects".
Keep your distance!
The interest of employers to employees to easily communicate with each other, clear. But what pushes them to create an atmosphere of alienation in the team? "On my last workplace was not taken together to eat, to send each other funny files, even the cake to bring in birthday, " says Anastasia, Manager of one of the banks. - This is the opinion of the authorities: informal communication is not welcome, personal correspondence endure reprimand, and reports to colleagues appoint a good prize. And all sooner or later drawn, if not quit - decent salary, foreign travel, free training". This policy may be dictated by the desire to staff at work thought only about the work, not discussed management action and not spend Internet traffic. Have employees who are satisfied, and companies that are successfully developing, applying such methods manual. The main thing is to prioritize.
To be or not to be
But how to arrange, if a colleague to movie you want to go, and the idea that friendship is friendship, and service by service, not haunted? And then there's friends talk about how friends quarrel, when they begin to work together. To decide on convergence with a friendly colleague becomes quite difficult. "How would the company nor encouraged a friendly atmosphere, one cannot rape. You decide with whom to maintain neutrality, whom to love, whom to be friends, " says Margarita Taiowa. - You need to be yourself in any situation, but, of course, be aware that you are at work and comply with the scope of business ethics".
Ksenia Borodina confident that with the right approach friendship with colleagues does not interfere with the work: "If the company employs well educated, people with clearly defined priorities, problems with erasing the coast between friendship and work will not be". Indeed, the most difficult thing in dealing with colleagues to choose between duty and personal relationships. Especially if we are talking about a situation where your friend, boss or subordinate.
"Of course, great, if relations with manual fold warm, " says Tatiana Ivanova, head of the Department of personnel. But I would advise both sides to be careful and still not cross the thin line of subordination to the side of camaraderie when an employee decides that he can do anything, and the head allows him to think so. In this case, affected primarily the interests of the company and fellow friends by becoming more difficult to work with".
If a friend was suddenly
If communication is one of the main pleasures in life, and your choice inevitably fell towards friendship with colleagues, have to follow some rules. Do not confuse work and friendship - it is impossible to divide colleagues on professionals and non-professionals and assess them depending on how you line up your personal relationships. Don't spend most of your time in friendly chatter, all the personal questions are better discussed outside. Not to be friends against someone, not to build coalitions and parties. And, alas, be prepared for the fact that not all your friends will comply with these rules. Often someone forgets that the office is the office, and tries to use personal situation. For example, constantly asks to do his work. To help understand some complicated subject is one thing, but constantly to do his work so he could early to go to the driving school, it is quite another. And if you refuse another colleague will not be easy, there will have to say no to someone he.
"If a colleague has become a good friend, you should openly talk about it, " said Tatiana Ivanova. - You can use the principle: Well, I'll help you, then you help me to do part of my work. It seems to me, a colleague-friend still hint will understand".
"If a person abuses and manipulates you, it is worth considering, but the friend is he, " says Margarita Taiowa. "Maybe he's just in advance consciously build relationships that opportune moment to use them to their advantage. I recommend in this situation to understand thoroughly with a colleague and find out the reasons for his behavior." Importantly, this conversation is not to be afraid: if the friendship is real and sincere, a colleague will always understand you, if not, long to regret the lost relationship is not necessary.
Of course, each of us decides with whom to make friends and how to do it. For someone in search of friends with no boundaries, and someone I am sure that friendship has no place at work. But it is worth to remember that friends don't have a clear binding to the place where you brought the fate. And if this wonderful person close to you in all respects, you met in the office, not in a cafe, do not give up friendship just because he works in a nearby office.
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Women's information and entertainment portal WDay.ru
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