A woman, even the most infantile, not wants, and will never accept that she had been brought up. She's not a child. The marriage relationship is completely different, as if they were not similar to the relationship father-daughter.No, I understand, there is devochki and homemade chicken that life led people or just type "submissive Oriental woman", the very love from time to time to play this. Especially when in a good mood and my man deserved it, no bad word, it is better to say, made me wish so behave and make him perfect his respectful and gentle towards me. And I did not feel his behavior is not an ounce of desire to dominate or to educate, especially to train.
In short, no extensions on top of where you are now is not ordered or allowed to do in specific situations. Otherwise (sooner or later) will be a normal variant of the possible responses: the escalation of the conflict, a concealed resentment, neurosis-psychosis (that one doesn't exclude the other), and, in the end, or people will leave, or will the lover.
Quote:
Message from N. And. Kozlov, "If you're mad and I'm bad, I'm not satisfied. If you want me something to discuss, first, calm down and take the blame. Cope? "
If people love each other and cherish each other and their relationship, sooner or later they come to an agreement. Rather, they have a chance to agree.
What happens to those who oppose the process of education and self-education?
The story of life.
There were two of them, mother and daughter. The mother I could not see, did not know, and with his daughter worked in the same organization, it was a nice friendly woman, caring and reasonably fair, not gossip, not a whiner, not lantaka, careful of "friendship", as the employee was in good standing.
One day she suddenly wrote a statement on the immediate calculation and resigned.
Some time later we met on the street and she told me that she was going out of town.
She is had a difficult relationship with her mother, and they lived all together - the family of a daughter and mother, living conditions allowed, and after another hypertensive crisis daughter patience of her husband burst and he literally forced her to make a decision about moving to the village, where he had an old house inherited.
Complex relations was the fact that the mother had no education nor daughter nor son-in-law, what can we say about the grandchildren.
She was so selfless self-sufficient, that did not allow even the thought that someone something it can teach... even the same communication, responding extremely unflattering about those who tried to offer her some other style of communication and behavior besides, who was once selected to herself once and for all. "I don't need anyone, I know it all" and so on - that's its normal position, not counting the endless accusations and all the names of all in the world or in detail.
To arrive daughter mother reacted coolly and calmly.
The daughter did not take anything from the house. Nothing.
The family left with a couple of suitcases. New life, why take the old stuff out of the house, where everything, even bought her daughter the mother had appointed himself her.
And a few months later the mother came to her neighbor and asked to be a mediator in establishing contacts with his daughter. Surprisingly neighbor said I understood what loneliness... and I realized that I love my daughter, I have no more friends and I want to tell her what was wrong and hope to establish our relationship.
The neighbor was surprised because this woman, with her bezapellyatsionnoe've shut myself off from everyone, sooner or later, including neighbors.
Metamorphosis occurred with the woman let the mother and daughter, with the participation of a mediator to restore the relationship.
Distance also contributed to this.
Needed drastic measures... to mother heard quoted phrase from the article.
And it is good that she still could hear...
But many don't succeed...
According to the materials of women's forums
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