One wishes to see every day a new girlfriend, and the other wants to find and win the girl of his dreams. How do you do it?
Coach Denis sallnow will put all points above and i will give the answer to the question "Why can't I conquer a woman? ". So, the Top 10 most frequent male mistakes when dealing with women. Fasten your seat belts... fly!
1. To indulge her at all
The easiest and most effective way to get girls is to try all her please and do whatever she asks. Ladies love the henpecked husbands. In common it is called "the rag". Such women will use to solve their everyday problems, feeding his promises and advances. "Nick, darling, will fix my computer? " or "Dear, will dobroist me to the airport? " And many men sometimes perform all requests girls in the hope that, if he does everything she asks for, they are going to start a novel, which, incidentally, is unlikely to happen, because the henpecked husbands do not excite. Never opened and will not bring in the next century.
But do not confuse the henpecked husbands with gentlemen. They always care for women. Shake hands when leaving the transport, to move the chair in the restaurant, to help put his coat on and just to provide a service is a normal manifestation of your gallantry and care. Just the difference is that in the first case he wants to get something back and ready to please, if only to please, and in the second case he was pleased to help the woman, he does not expect anything in return.
2. To convert a date in the interrogation
Many people think that asking a woman how many questions they will quickly achieve its location. Where do you work? And long ago? As the rest? Where was that? And did you like it? Why? Girls love the dialogue, when it is told them things evoke a lively response in the interlocutor, not another question.
The ideal scenario of communication when you are attentive to her and interested in her life, but at the same time you communicate on topics that concern both of you. Tell her that will make her survive or will cause curiosity, joy or compassion. Share these details of your life, from which she will take your breath away. Make her listen to you, mouth open, swallowing your every word. The brighter you describe your image, the more she will want to know you better.
Ask her about what you really is. And after hearing the answer, respond.
3. To show the uncertainty
Women still before strong men (and I'm talking not about the muscles). They love leaders, charismatic, "warriors", who has an opinion and their own rules. They love men who know what they want and know how to achieve their goals (even if it's a she). Therefore, the constant search for approval of your actions a woman, behind which lies the uncertainty and timidity, is also a great way to achieve it.
Stupid looks when a man asks a woman whether it agrees with him. Even sillier when a man does not know what he wants, and when every decision he needs the approval or support.
Why does she want to stuff my head with questions, "where will we go? " and "what are we going to do? ". The girl is much easier and more enjoyable to feel close to a man who takes the lion's share of responsibility for your leisure time for themselves. If any of your suggestions would be for her unacceptable, she will tell about it.
4. Trying to buy her gifts
How often did you take the girl in the restaurant, gave her gifts and flowers, and she preferred you another guy who did not give her half of what you?
Method "Now I'll show her what I am generous, and she is sure I'll fall in love", perhaps a long time ago and worked. But nowadays there are a whole generation of girls who graciously accept the gifts of men, smiling and biting his for the cheek with the words "You're so cute". As practice shows, this approach operates on a very limited circle of girls, and acts, I must admit, very poorly. If man is only a bag of gifts - it will always only take the gifts. Not reciprocating his feelings.
This is easily explained. As soon as you start to salariat" woman, she immediately suspects you the following: "I don't think I'll like it as I am, so I will try to buy your attention and location. Your intentions are beginning to play against you and are perceived by women as weak attempts useless male to get a beautiful Princess - it.
Another thing, when you really want to make my girlfriend a gift. You saw a soft toy bear you something very much like a girl. Such gifts must be done! Because they give unforgettable emotions, they make her smile every time she remembers about them or sees. And here works all the same principle. Gifts should be done from the heart. Not because you begged, and in any case do not expect that you will be something.
5. Too early to tell her about his feelings
Another very serious mistake is to reveal their feelings at too early a stage of your communication.
Beautiful women always use the increased attention of men. Typically, these women often meet with men. They have a great experience. And they know what to expect from men in relationships. That is why a guaranteed way to get the woman to run away from you with all the feet will be the phrase "you Know... you've been very... very much like" until a woman is not interested in you. These words, for it is a sign that you are like all the other guys who fall in love with her too quickly. And can't control myself. With such clear. They are not interesting. To communicate with the girl must be so until the last moment, she wondered: "do I like him? And I'm a good enough for him? "
6. Not to understand the difference between you
Have you ever noticed that very often there are couples where the woman is insanely attractive, but a man cannot be called as such even in the most optimistic comments? This explains the fact that women attracts a certain set of male qualities that she feels great next to the chosen one. And the appearance is not the most important of them.
Men's attraction as a switch. There are only two positions - "On" and "Off". It appears as quickly as it disappears.
Women's libido can be compared to a balloon to be filled with positive emotions instead of air. If you look good, properly communicate competently consider yourself, "ball of emotions" is gradually inflated. If you start to make mistakes, the ball is formed a hole through which extends the whole "air", and attraction to you falls.
To convince the girl that you like her, almost impossible. If she doesn't feel attraction to you, to explain to her what you are good and unique, it is useless. Unfortunately, many men do not understand this and begin to run after the girl, to pursue her and beg about meeting, falling asleep its arguments. This is a terrible strategy, never bring the desired results. No belief is only a deception.
7. To think that they are attracted by money and beautiful guys
Another fairly common mistake that many guys end up trying, even failing to start. Without a doubt, women with pre-defined selection criteria exist. But most women are much more interested in the personality of the man than in his wallet or how it looks.
In any case, don't give up on the beautiful girls, if you have a Villa in Spain, your height is less than 190 cm or you are not as handsome as brad pitt.
Money is just a resource, and possession does not force others to love you. The real reason for the success is your personality. Your inner world. And those emotions that you can give to your beloved.
8. Behave unnaturally
Now let me tell you a terrible secret. A woman always knows what you think and what you want. Women are much better read our body language, tone of voice and intonation than we.
I know this is extremely hard to believe, but, when you sit on a date with a girl and want to kiss her, she already knows about it. And if you do nothing, in order to kiss her, and just sit, look at it and get nervous - it will not help you. Moreover, she will think: "why he does what he wants? "
If you crumple and not know what to do in each situation, you can lose everything. And you know it. You need to clearly understand what to do in each moment, how to get what you want.
9. Consider it a special
Sometimes in the life of every man a very special girl. Well, not such as all. Man forgets about everything and headlong rushes into the maelstrom of her beautiful eyes and gentle hugs. And then the worst thing happens. He forgets everything. It had to be tempting. It had charm. Why, he "fell in love without memory" and is willing to sacrifice everything for the sake of one. As such, as it no longer exists. And it must be achieved at any cost.
It becomes too bewitched by it. Not sleeping at night, thinking about it, always looking for meetings, scribbling SMS and messages online. Simply put, he begins to act like a complete idiot. Forgetting friends and work, he begins to show her his attention, making mistake after mistake.
Unfortunately, when she sees that the man is obedient to her (her beauty, a smile or a mole above the lip), she immediately realizes that she is completely in control of the situation, and her play becomes boring. For her there is no intrigue. Like a kitten, which is given in feet bow, which he usually ran and could not catch. For her the party already played. No passions, expectations, emotions, unpredictability, which are so necessary to the girl for the formation of her attraction to the man. For her such a loving boyfriend, not a man.
10. To relax, she liked a
There it was! Remember the ball? As soon as you cease to seduce a woman, she feels it, and the ball begins to deflate - attracted to you abruptly disappears. And in her head is born a terrible idea: "what if I wasn't so much like? " Women are most afraid of being rejected. It is much easier to retain their independence and not get a man that she likes, than to risk the possibility of being rejected by this man. Moreover, she just wants her wanted to be seduced. She does not want to "do it herself". This is the reality, and in it men seduce women, and not Vice versa. So think thrice, whether you find this girl? And if Yes - continue to give her emotions and get pleasure from talking with her and in any case do not stop until you win it.
Expert opinion
Anna Andrianova,
writer-the image maker
Biologically and psychologically, woman looking for a strong male with whom you can relax for procreation. Even if it refers to the relationship as to the intrigue, even subconsciously she will look the best and strongest. Procreation is a powerful program that determines the choice of women. "Better and stronger" means "able to love, to care, to financially support". Female libido, as well as male, does not develop from the constant interaction, and from imagination. And when many joint reality, there is no place for the individual dream, the ability to find the line between "to be near" and "to be unattainable" - the secret of success long sensual relationships. But this distinction should not be created artificially. Often two want to fall into a relationship with the head, but a huge disappointment comes, if someone out of fear of losing the interest begins suddenly to disappear, to go headlong into work or to disappear at friends. One such relations presses the gas, the other on the brake - it is exhausting and usually ends with distrust and antagonism: "you're!. Then I am so!." Favourite from male to female is waiting for dedication. One phrase: "I will not go today, to football, to dine with you, can touch a woman's heart that no more seduction and will not need.
Author:
Sallnow D.
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