The question of whether you can successfully combine career and personal life, is women's gloss, probably from the first day of its existence. After a series of arguments, the authors, as a rule, come to life-affirming conclusion that it is possible, and even give advice on how it's properly done.But is it really?
Where did kareristki?
Before that, it was somehow easier: sit yourself in the cave, keep the fire in the fireplace and wait for when thy blessed will come home, dragging a blade honestly produced mammoth. Or, say, WYSIWIG beads and polyray chastity belt, until he returned from the war, Laden with trophies. What kind of career!
But the time inevitably ran forward, mammoths became extinct, not obliterating abuse, modern geopolitics did not leave any hope for a small victorious war, returning with which our cute will provide the family a comfortable life for the next ten years. And women went to work...
More precisely, the work they had always, regardless of social status: it is to manage the staff of servants was not much easier than to cope with domestic animals. But now the ladies had yet to earn.
And here it was found that many of them (especially after opened access to education) can do no worse, and sometimes even much better than men. And I also found out that some of this damn like.
Besides, for anybody not a secret that in modern society the social gender roles significantly shifted. And the word "social climber" is not used in an unequivocally negative context, as it was a couple of decades ago. Men, though not without complaint, but he moved, letting women into a world that belonged only to them.
Changed not only the circumstances, but the young ladies. "The women were the now steep, long-legged, nephropidae tchotchke-packi they have gold, give them this and that! "sings tenderly loved me Timur, show. And will not be served - they will not wait for favors from men, and will take all by yourself. Because the woman wants to live in luxury, ride on a beautiful car, stylish and expensive dress is her natural needs. But if some, because of skills or education can be happy with what you have, others not finding one who will gain enough fat mammoth, take the case themselves.
Work ≠ career
One of my friends sincerely believes that family and career can be perfectly combined, without compromising one or the other. She even article once wrote, where by example is very clearly demonstrated that if you want, can be successfully managed with her husband, two children and work, and thus strengthen, the family budget. Strengthens it just on$ 200 a month working as a Secretary in a small private company. And at home she's all fine, nothing to blame.
It's just that we're not talking about work, and about a career, which, as you know, requires much greater investment of time, nerves and energy than just the performance of their duties from 9 to 18.
Genesis generates consciousness
As soon as the men let the woman in your world, and play she is forced by the rules of this world. There's no one you do not miss a bargain for great live will not give, the work plan for the year on the silver platter will not be served. Survival of the fittest. That was a confident, determined, uncompromising ladies, which, as you can guess, I would like to see no less strong and successful man.
But strong men need reliable support, encouragement and support, a woman that will help you to relax after a hard day, and not a competitor he is and at work missing.
And to come home, leaving the threshold of all work the case, and to turn from shark business in goldfish, ready to fulfill the desires of his beloved, ready not every. It is difficult to force yourself to obey, when he used to dominate.
To find a man who is weaker is not a solution, it is below the dignity of a business lady. It turns out that like everything in it, and worthy men is not. And most of forumcheck agree that a successful girl is not so easy to find a decent man.
Time or money?
As already mentioned, coming into the office on schedule and leaving it strictly on time, career does not make. If you really want to achieve something, you will have to sacrifice evenings and weekends, with all its pleasures: the trips to the cinema and theatre, shopping, walks in the Park on a warm night and a romantic candlelit dinners - it simply does not have time.
"I know, " complained one of my friend I found myself in a stupid situation when I had the money, but I just did not have time to spend it. Cosmetics did not fit in the bathroom, but there wasn't time to use it. I forgot, what is the TV, not to mention movies. Just came home, fell on the bed and obrasalas. I only thought about work, talking about work. Even if you do not work on weekends, forces were sufficient only to stupid to lie on the couch, her face buried in a book. Friends were talking on the phone in fits and starts, and personal life in General has turned into memories from the past. It was necessary?!
But any relationship - with a man, with friends, with family - we need to support. This requires not only time, but also the emotional strength to take which often simply no.
Who didn't, that does not work
All you need to do on time. And marry - including. And it should be done as early as possible (within reason, of course), because if you dedicate yourself to the work, I didn't have time to build relationships, and then simply lost the desire. First, because of nominees will be much less. And secondly, because it accustomed to be alone, you will emerge a "bachelor" habits that do not want to change for some men.
Or... or...
So, we have a successful career, but we have a problem with the free time - it is not, by nature, we are not reminded of the fragile muslin girl who needs care and protection, and finally, with the motivation - why me man, if I can do everything myself?
It turns out that to fully combine career and personal life almost impossible. Always have a choice to make.
Despite the fact that any woman, except absolutely burns feminists, always seeking to be the next was a man...
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