Irritation for no reason

I want to rant and rave... And why, and I don't know


It happens like this: Wake up in the morning after sweet and sound sleep, but after a couple of minutes in the chest appears a little lump voltage. Reasons like not yet, but experienced women know what it usually leads... First homemade stupid fuss, getting tangled under his feet and making it difficult to get a job. Then transport all jostle and come to his feet, and if, God forbid, you're driving, it seems that all the other drivers conspired to disturb you. Finally at work colleagues amaze you with stupidity, and the bosses exasperates stupid orders and instructions. And now in the evening the child, frightened looking at it is unclear why the screaming mother, hardly understands what they require. In the end, going to sleep, you feel as though you spent all day fighting with windmills: nothing complicated to do not have, and forces and nerves had gone terribly much.




Isn't that sound familiar? Though not in detail, but similar sensations experienced, perhaps every woman. And here it is quite natural question: "What is happening to me"? So why do we spoil the mood of themselves and others?




In fact, such a term syndrome wanton stimulation in psychology there. Yes and irritation for no reason really does not happen. Another thing is that the reason we are not always able to recognize, and hence to explain. But the comprehension of the causes is the first step to remedy the situation. So what could be the basis of our allegedly "unreasonable" irritability?





Causes "unreasonable" irritability


The new role of women in society

. In his time the main task of the beautiful half of humanity was to keep the home and raise children. The modern woman carries on her fragile shoulders double burden: 8-hour workday and household chores. From what suffers. It would be to relax in the evening, lying on the couch with a magazine and a box of chocolates, watch TV. Where there! She is the mistress of the house and therefore need to: a) feed; (b) maintain (wash, iron, clean); to listen; to comfort and so on, of Course, is the daily violence has an impact on the nervous system.



A sense of inadequacy and self-doubt. In General, the same problem, but on the other hand": often the woman is not social life and career, she does not play a significant role in the service and the material is largely dependent on men. And there are so many examples of successful, independent, know your own worth ladies!


Norms of behavior in society.

Act on the nerves can anything from an unspoken code of conduct to the accepted way of dressing. Why should only need all day long to smile, to listen to the comments of the upstream work colleagues or respectfully to endure the harmful attacks of the head. And then there's the ladies wearing spectacular costumes, and you take them as an example, alas, no funds allow. Annoying these things can be awful, but to demonstrate it does not. Home is also not always behave as you want it: to cry, to speak directly and openly or take place all day Saturday in a Bathrobe and no makeup - and look, at risk to earn the honorary title of "market women" or "lesser black-backed gulls". Needless to say, the need to constantly hold back does not go unnoticed.


High expectations towards others, and to life in General.

Often, sincerely hoping to get something, we are so confident in the validity of its claims that, having something different (and even more so, not getting anything at all), you instantly lose the ground under their feet. Psychologists such a state is called a graceful word frustration - deception, hope, failure, disappointment, i.e., "bummer". It is usually accompanied by oppressive tension, anxiety and feelings of hopelessness. Agree, a good "bouquet" to irritation and even a nervous breakdown.



The inability to plan time. That is, most of us have not learned to properly correlate the work, rest and sleep. Although the principle of "8 hours work, 8 hours rest, 8 hours of sleep" many well-known since school. Alas, the vast majority of women do not know how to relax, deliberately sit back and enjoy the dream. We usually slept during the weekends and relax (not completely) just being on vacation. In the tormented constant voltage psyche reacts uncontrollable mood swings.


Physiological causes

. In this case, women are particularly vulnerable. In particular, the notorious premenstrual syndrome has long been a byword. Excessive irritability can cause fluctuations in hormonal levels and increasingly important in recent times the chronic fatigue syndrome. In addition, our behavior is often affected by some diseases of internal organs, in particular, gynecological disorders, liver and thyroid gland. In this case, the "causeless" irritability can be an alarming symptom requiring treatment from a specialist.



So what to do?


The main thing is not to succumb to inertia and apathy, taking all the "personality" or "hardship". Imagine the Arsenal of tools that you can use in this case is quite wide.





Properly prioritize. Determine what for you is important, and what does not. Do not hesitate to admit things that are not too fit into a common framework. For example, you are not interested in career. Or, on the contrary, work is in your life the main place, but the cooking or the role of the mother of many children you do not attract. Believe me, you won't love or pans that would force myself to do it. It is easier to determine priority direction, and minor works to limit it, putting them in line with objective necessity: for example, such as wash or wear warm clothes in winter.



Rethink your routines. Resources of free time for rest and good sleep can be found under any circumstances. This, however, need something to learn. For example, to put off until tomorrow the things that is not necessary to do today to reduce the amount of home Affairs (due to the refusal of cooking stuffed chicken or multi-storey Kulebaki and Ironing of bed linen and shifting part of their usual duties on the family), to include in the list of their "sacred rights" view of the TV series, reading books and magazines, going to visit a friend, theatre and other pleasant things, giving the opportunity to disconnect from the daily routine.



Change the settings. And do not demand too much. People are not obliged to behave as we'd like, but fortune is to smile and to give flowers every day. Learn to accept what is happening as a reality, and if reality you do not suit and you certainly want to change something, start with yourself. So this process is entirely in your hands and with diligence, you can achieve what you want, without making excessive demands of others. In the extreme case (if something will not work) you will be able to fully appreciate all the invalidity of their inflated claims: if you do far from ideal, what can you demand from others? Irritation will be over.



Learn to switch. Learn several ways to escape from the "external stimuli". Try, for example: (a) multiply in the mind of two - or three-digit number; b) to remember what movies were filmed one or another well-known actor; C) list the capitals of the republics of the former Soviet Union; d) to analyze the contents of your fridge and figure out what meals to prepare - but you never know what else we could puzzle! The main thing is to send thoughts into a different channel, and then, suddenly, the anger will pass and return the ability to soberly assess the situation. That is to say, immediate ways. From "long-playing" you can recommend a gym, swimming pool, Jogging around the stadium, meditation or watching a movie with a gripping storyline. However, you just need to understand the principle, and then create, invent, try...



Increase self-esteem. You could even say this: educate yourself in the proportion of healthy self-love. Methods - mass. Here an adequate level of awareness of own values. In this case, you can hardly allow myself beloved, to be upset because of something trivial and harass strange doubts. And often try to be attentive to her.



Take care of your health. Enough sleep. Eat properly. Take a multivitamin complexes with the addition of trace elements. Visit the doctor for a comprehensive inspection. Sign up for a massage and water treatment is available in most clinics.


So, are you familiar with "no cause" irritation? Well, now you know what can and need to do something. It is important to understand that this state is not natural for you. That constant tension, anger and nervous breakdowns - a direct path to chronic ailments and early wrinkles. And to top it all off - the reputation of the nerds, scandaletti or person with a quarrelsome nature. Is this what you expected, once again giving free vent to his irritation? So to work on it is worth, the more often after realizing the reasons the output is itself.

Source:

A psychologist

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