Excitation between partners is lost, is lost sexual interest. This can occur at any stage of a relationship, even in the first three months of Dating.
Boredom in bed does not mean that it is time to leave. Man does not see the beauty of the world in which he lives, he looks like from his cell to the outside: there nicely! And maybe, just there, and cell, and you're outside. Everything is relative.
It would seem that the easiest option in this situation is to change the partner. In the end, it is her nothing binds, and he is ready, if you suddenly start having some problems, to stop this marriage with a bored wife. But the output? Hardly - boredom inside, not outside, you can't get rid simple change of partner.
It so happens that, while non-sexual interest in each other, the two are trying to save including intimate relationships.
A false path?
In this case, as a rule, we advise you to arrange a romantic candlelight dinner, to wear erotic lingerie. But what will it give? Nothing! Partner is not exciting. Whether it is someone's wife, no panties, in evening dress, man it has long been persuaded. And its so sickening... Because they will come after that a romantic dinner home, and there all the same boring: mother-in-law, children, dog.
Another tip from the same series, as you say, before I collected stamps, and now try to collect tropical butterflies in their habitat. Went to Papua New Guinea, the Dominican Republic, then to Tahiti. The couple have the same interests, the total excitation for two, so the shock will probably pay partners to each other.
Women are advised to change everything: hair, clothes, image, power, expression, hobby. Suddenly the husband will bite on this?
Behold the root!
Sex need feeding interest constantly. This does not mean that once a month the husband with the wife doing something like. Interest must be constant: I like you to make love once, do philately - two - and skiing, especially in the summer season three, so I wasn't bored.
In fact, our interest in another person is a very selfish person uses the people around him as auxiliary tools to understand who he is. With one it funny, others sad, the commander, to it, on the contrary, suck up. This can make the meanness and not be meanness, and over those shakes - God forbid hurt him careless word.
The same applies to sexual boredom: it was interesting with this woman, he made her like this, she is so. Thereby allowed him to know yourself: it turns out that he can TA-AK to get a woman that will now try to continue. Finally had enough knowledge of yourself. "Good you aunt, but, you know, with you so hard... " In fact, he became bored with himself, he was horrified or surprised, subregional what I saw in the partner, as in a mirror. And does not want to accept this, and that to save themselves, he loses desire for the beloved.
So we must first start with yourself. Do I realize what's happening to us or not. I understand that we are each other so that our sex has anything to do with love or lust: in the evening we do specific movements, but it doesn't start. I at this point I think they will give me tomorrow award, the wife of whether to whitewash the ceiling or not. This boredom. And if I realize what is happening, I suggest, but let's think of something beside the bed, in bed, during sex, after sex. Here within this else I may be, I will try to do what I once wound up in a relationship with this woman a long time ago.
Erogenous zones
Pervichniy (lips, tongue, Breasts, nipples)
Secondary (earlobes, nape of the neck, coccyx, the area of the hip joint, inner thighs)
Tertiary (the outer surface of the little finger, hands, navel, anus, nostrils, ear, heel, big toe)
According to tantric principles is it right to encourage secondary, primary, tertiary zone).
Very difficult for a person to take and change. Always went to specs without saying anything and tie, and then suddenly came a rapper. That will make the wife? Type "03". Do I like myself in this new form? Or in this way I will feel even sillier than the specs without saying anything and, accordingly, will be even more unnatural? I don't want to be a rapper and never feel with a Mohawk haircut freely and quietly. But I can of the costume to go with a jeans or, on the contrary, from jeans into a fashionable suit, only provided that it somehow attracts me and partner.
What does it mean to change their behavior by 180 degrees? I always woke up, kissed his wife on the cheek, saying, "good morning, honey." Now I in the morning cicau and scraping breathing: "Hello, old woman! Coffee is ready? "
Exercise to increase potency
Freely lie on your back, bend your knees, bringing the heel towards the buttocks. The index, middle and ring fingers of both hands, with an exhalation, press on the area between the navel and the pubis in the midline of the body 4 to 5 seconds (9 - 18 times).
Of course, it is necessary to change both internally and externally, in order to maintain interest and in relation to the partner. Change me and stimulate my interest in her, she suddenly saw me the other day and suddenly have done so. But as I am new will react? Will I be able to participate in its reaction or not? And to control this reaction? To enjoy it?
A good solution will be any sexual techniques, ranging from simple to the brink of some kind of perversion, and then generally in the framework of this distortion that like both. Because they like both partners, and is the norm for this pair. But again, for this we need to Mature. Man, changing the situation, changing yourself, changing yourself, it changes the situation around him.
For exacerbation of interest to each other, it is very good to do something sexual, but not intercourse. Mutual fondling, massage, visits to strip clubs, that is all that stirs up desires, but does not promise instant satisfaction.
For example, you can involve intimate massage, which awakened so many emotions. It turns out that I like it so interesting is the reaction of why I didn't know it before? For example, men can breast massage back women, this position is very good may be the contact of the genitals, it is only necessary to apply some ingenuity, and not just lay on top of her and try to move back and forth, and the poor little thing there is breathing slower and sadder.
The same thing (anything) a woman can do with a man, most importantly, not to finish a massage or other sex sex. Let it be "unfulfilled" excitement. Say, you want to conquer temptation - join him as soon as I submitted all the energy of this desire disappears. While the desire is not fulfilled, it has great energy. Same here, played, show affection, relax a bit, maybe sex will again, maybe not.
To do massage or caress mandatory before intercourse is not necessary, it can lead to even more boredom because of the commitment of such connection.
So if people hold together such worldly considerations, as children, General business, joint hobby or laziness, fear of the unknown, the marriage can be saved. Another thing that is a huge internal work primarily on themselves.
Expert opinion
Leo Teternikov, Head of the school of "Art of love", the author of the books, the teacher of Tantra yoga
Views on our sexual nature and principles of relationships in the family have become obsolete. In my opinion, this is the main reason that couples disagree, not having to get married.
Stay together year in a trial marriage. During the period of courtship, it is unlikely the future husband can know how to behave his fiancee two days before menstruation. As a woman I would like to see at future husband, how he behaves, for example, when a little drink. Then the decision to create a family with a possible birth and upbringing of children will be more balanced and responsible. Perfect, if you can agree on what you allow your partner what you can afford. Well would immediately agree that you would afford and what restriction of personal freedom for you is valid.
Dissatisfaction with sexual life is one of the main causes of divorce. All of this suggests that people begin life together was completely unprepared, with some illusory expectations, with a complete lack of skills, how to build family relationships.
Excerpted from "Family Union: does he have rules? "
Author:
Prokopenko Yu
Source:
Psychology
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