About the jealousy written almost more than about love. Jealousy study, classified and divided into types. That jealousy is a feeling - there are no differences. It is true that to deal with feelings is useless, but to learn how to manage it is possible.
But before you want to control your jealousy, let's see what sense you absorb? Jealousy is different and if its a good "taste", it is very similar to the cake. Surprised? Imagine a sponge cake with a layer of jam between the cake and plenty of cream in the form of rosettes on top. Now place the different types of jealousy in this sweet design.
Jealousy light
Each cake has a layer, without her it would be just a piece of dry biscuit without much taste. Similarly, as a thin strip of jam gives flavor to the cake, and so easy jealousy, as an indicator of interest, gives the sharpness of your relationship. It is said that "the fire of love feeds on the wood of jealousy. It is important not to overdo it. Moderately played the game in jealousy confirms your commitment to each other, increases the interest and shaking the relationship. What to do with this jealousy? To take and turn in the game.
The jealous sound
Such jealousy is based on irrefutable evidence, so place it at the base of the cake is the bottom crust. If you have a reason reasonably be jealous of, this is exactly the case when it is necessary to clarify the mutual relationship and decide for yourself if you need and if Yes, in what form. In any situation there are three choices: change the situation, change yourself, or leave it as is.
Jealousy pathological
Actually, the jealousy with many shades - from obsessive thoughts, "where he regularly delayed after work" to pathological suspicion and total surveillance - occupies the entire top of the cake. The intensity of feelings increases with approaching the top of the cake liberally decorated with cream. Crowns cake delirium of jealousy as the extreme manifestation of pathology. This clinical case, it should be treated.
Jealousy obsessive
Usually most in life prevents us from not pathological jealousy, and obsession. "Not too much he pays attention at the party the brunette in the red? Since when do Friday night began to schedule meetings? Again, the computer, the table and the machine is more important than joint trip to the cinema..." When these things begin to dance with everyone in mind - this significantly impairs the comfort of life. This endless piece of cake to chew hard, in the end, I want to say to yourself, "enough" and how to control manifestations of feelings of jealousy.
How not to overeat jealousy?
To start, decide what excites your jealousy.
First option: there is a real woman that you are jealous. Second option: you jealous partner to the world (work, friends, Hobbies and even the dog).
In the first case, make your opponent ally. The paradoxical advice - make friends, or at least make her his sovetchitsey (possibly hypothetical). She is able to care for themselves? Let them advise you on a good cosmetologist. Knows how to cook profiteroles? Let it motivate you to look for culinary website and learn how to cook, for example, carpaccio. She enjoys photography? Book your family photo session.
When you are jealous husband everything that happens in his life without you, is not superfluous to recall that the husband is not your property, and he swore every minute to entertain you. He has a large piece of private life and the same piece you have. Acquire own work, spend time with your friends, find a hobby, become a specialist in some field, for example, in the choice and preparation of coffee.
What this gives effects? First, is somehow not relevant to sit in the gloom, waiting with her husband and chasing around a circle of thought "where is he and who is he: you at this time have something to do. Secondly, that did not happen in life, you will be the winner. Relationships can be interrupted, but your well-groomed appearance, culinary delights, success in work, Hobbies, friends and even the dog will stay with you. By the way, about the dog: if you're lucky, you've got it, watch how selflessly she shows his love. Animals do not know jealousy, they can learn a lot. And, thirdly, all these efforts make you interesting and desirable woman you want to be near you.
And finally I want to wish you a taste from the cake jealousy is only a small piece to be added to taste in a relationship, but it did not affect your figure and comfort of life.
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Female customers Belarus
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