The role of breadwinner is to kill the mammoth and bring him home - in our time is no longer relevant, because many women are able to provide for ourselves, and some of them earn much more than men...
The role of the lover it is not the main, because a man may be coming and leaving...
So what is the main role of men in the house?
My family was full: mom, dad, my sister and I. So to give an objective assessment of the role of men I didn't get it. Then I decided to conduct a survey among their relatives and acquaintances.
And here's what I found.
My mother is a teacher in the kindergarten, with a huge experience behind him, pupils, with whom she had to work, simply do not count. She had on this account has developed its pedagogical view: boys who are brought up without a father, more capricious, cowardly, often crying, habenicht and, most importantly, do not know their place in the house.
I sat at a children's festival, which took place in the garden. All the children were there, at a glance, all the boys I mentally, visually divided into two groups. In one group were "little men": and posture, and gait talked about this. In the other was dull, cowardly, inactive boys. When I shared my observations with my mother, she said that she was surprised there was nothing, and that I shared them correctly: the first group is the Pope, and the second, unfortunately, no.
Example: in the first group there is a very active boy, he has a mom and dad. It strongly developed such qualities as courage, determination, (it's in his 6 years! ), fairness, responsibility. Now, on his birthday, all the girls came dressed in dresses and gifts!
Another example. My first husband was raised by his mother and grandparents. It was never a sense of responsibility for their actions, and conscience on this occasion he was never tortured. Yes there conscience - he, generally, it is perceived as a normal phenomenon. And in many situations he simply lacked the courage and determination. Now, I understood the problem at the root, when his relatives brought the dog. It should be seen! The bottom line is. All, of course, her (the dog) like. But, if she starts to do something bad to chew shoes, get paws on the table and t.n.- now the plan of actions of owners: one begins to scold the second overlaps the first and second begin to quarrel among themselves. The result: about the dog forgot, she was not punished for his act and, accordingly, did not even realize that you cannot do it. I concluded that in my childhood my first husband was raised this way, when the caregivers there was inconsistency in opinions, hence the sense of responsibility for their actions in the husband never developed. And all because the owner of the house was not.
The result of the survey among the friends of men, those that grew up without a father also gave cause for reflection. It turns out that many men said that they themselves notice the disadvantages of such education: "something I have to do intuitively, and not as others - those who were raised in a happy family!!!! ". So Mature men still feel the pressure of his father's upbringing and feel comfortable.
I thought about it and came to the conclusion that the man in the house plays two main roles.
The first role is the role of the fatherbecause the word of the father - significant "awesome" factor, with father sabalauski. I grew up with my father and know that mom could "easily manipulated", but with his father this number never took place. Or a very convincing and effective phrase mother: "I will tell father! " And immediately, without talking run to do what you said. And it does not mean that I am the father was afraid, no. But the awesome factor of the image of the father still was!
And the second is the role of defender. It is only in the presence of the defender, in my opinion, the family is considered to be full.
Source:
Lady.ru
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