Relations in the family - the highest value of married life

How often we forget all what is and what is given us good in this life. And often we do not see, do not appreciate and do not notice what good that does for us partner. It happens, sometimes it's easier for us to compare it with a fictional character, invented by Prince and demanding his "accomplishments and achievements", while not notice and appreciate even a small concern, let a very small gift and, in our opinion, very little action.


To think that "bad luck", require, expect, compare - and not appreciate, do not rejoice that he does for us now. Not to appreciate him, his REAL, as IT IS now. Probably much easier to come up with a fairy Prince, and to expect from him every day "great" deeds and actions, not realizing that real life is different from what we have come up with myself, being young girls, when I was watching tales and read novels for women.




How to save a relationship? How to keep love and family? Too many women believe that a man needs to remember his resentments, ugly deeds and mistakes. But to whom are they doing better behavior? Sooner or later, and the man bothers to endure such treatment, and he often leaves the family. And the woman then offended. But if you every day remembered all your mistakes and failures for several years, you would be able to live a normal life next? Would you like to change something in yourself?




If you constantly criticized that "10 years ago you had been scorched potatoes, tore the package, and the products are spilled on the ground, you answered neighbor and I forgot what's the name of my colleague at work - unless you would have a good time? Understand that the family is not a battlefield!




Here, as elsewhere, need to understand that there is a happy medium, and that we are not talking about a crazy zakalivanie and admiration, we are not talking about manipulation through praise. We say that if you are not going to appreciate and notice, if you do not learn to celebrate your man such as he is, you will be hard with him to live his entire life. No one will be able for you to create your happiness. And it is useless to expect it from men, if you do nothing will be done. Start working on yourself, begin to change your way of thinking and attitude to what is happening around you and everything will change.




You will wonder where did the resentment and frustration, and why so much began to change your husband? Will be surprised how quickly you will start to grow and increasingly to take responsibility and initiative. Will be surprised and "change" with the people around you, how you became easy to communicate with them, and all you have started to love and respect. That's just not the people the change will occur, and you. You will learn to see and accept all of what was seen and what was not appreciated before. And will help you in this Diary of Gratitude and Success. Choose, the choice is always yours. I can say that "everything is useless and not in your case" - and then in life you will have everything as before. Or you can try. Well, what do you have to lose except your chains of confusion and resentment? Try it, I'm sure you will succeed and your life will gradually begin to change, you will begin to enjoy and appreciate what is given to you, you will fill the feeling that you live in Paradise.




I tell you one secret that the diary of gratitude I like to lead not only to my husband and family relations. In the second diary I write down all the good, nice and good that could be done for the day. Record miracles, fulfilled desires, successful completion of a project, compliments, words of support and attention. Keep a diary of his life, which helps me to feel joy and to appreciate life, myself and the people around me. Make records that increase self-esteem and learn to love yourself, other people and enjoy life.




It is amazing how much change has happened since then, as I am every night (or morning) I find a few minutes to remember the past day and make a few entries in their Diaries. Sometimes there is a desire to re-read, something to remember, to laugh. It is particularly interesting to read sometimes these entries husband. He always embarrassed, a little bit blushes and pretends that it is "well, not hurt". So funny to watch him when he turns into one big ear, while trying not to give anything itself". Oh, these men, with all their courage and strength, with all their confidence in the business, in the outer life, socializing with friends, they sometimes are sensitive to women's love and tenderness, before our gratitude and appreciation, before accepting them for what they are. However, reading the man his record is not often, maybe once every six months, sometimes even less. The main thing here is that you are able to appreciate and see its strengths for themselves, and it is sure to positively will appear on your husband's relationship.




Remember, to thank her husband or other people, it does not mean that you "bend or adapt, although it is sometimes necessary to do, especially in the family. To be thankful means to be grateful, it means to tell the person that you notice and appreciate all that he does. Many people, after their marriage and lived together for several years, just stop to appreciate and respect their partner, they begin to perceive his care, support and attention for granted. And I don't understand how sometimes a person needs to hear that it is appreciated, loved and that value family relationship.




How important is it to hear your significant other, whether it be a husband or wife that you see and appreciate what they do for your family relationships and for you. But, that is to say, first of all you really need to see it all. When we focus our thoughts on the fact that "he again did so-and-so, and she has told or laughed in the wrong place, and yet it's and also these...", that in our brain there is no place to see the positive in the people around us.




If you have a whole day focused on the weaknesses of your spouse, that he forgot, not said, or did, but not so", then you do not have the strength and desire to see what he did, he remembered, presented, organized or bought. And the diary of gratitude helps to look at your spouse, will help to focus on his strengths, to see actually the reality for what it is. And helps you gain real happiness in family life!




Another pleasant surprise for running such a diary, like some kind of extra bonus from the Universe, when you make such records begin suddenly felt a wave of tenderness and desire to do something nice for your husband. There is a need to understand it as a separate Universe, as a person, as an individual, not as a person, to which we are accustomed to think that we know all about him. There is a desire to find out:




"What he likes?


"What he likes to aspire to?


- What are dreams and what would you like to receive as a birthday present?




Here we realize how little and how bad know its closest person. We begin to see ourselves, to see their mistakes and errors, instead of all black wife, understand where you can be more flexible and wiser, and where and firmer and more confident. Begin to understand that our man is an independent person, with their aspirations, their thoughts and attitude towards life and the world. We become interested in his world, and we begin to learn to ask openly: "Beloved, are you happy with me? ".


The more we work with these Diaries, the stronger and more confident and become the happier and happier making the world around them.




Letter to our readers "Solar Hands" sun-hands.ru. Text edited:


- How do you do that? You're with me all my life and never learned to say to me "nice words". But now I'm so grateful to you for it, because my words you've put in those actions and care that enveloped me. And thanks to which our family is growing, slowly moving among life's storms and thriving. All can't forget, as a couple of years ago I was returning from the store, and you called and asked where I was and to what stop go. Working day, well, the question is, why do you need this? Coming up, look out the window of the transport and not believe you stand, but in the hands of such a beautiful and delicate rose. Lord, why are you such a wonderful, how many years you live, but I still can't "guess" what will you think of next to me to please.




Thanks to your article "Diary of gratitude or a happy family and its secrets", became closer look at the man (live with him for more than 30 years, two daughters raised). Although we and retirees both, but I continue to work, not like the house to sit. And the man in charge of the house, garden all on it. Previously, I did not appreciate it, but now I understand, now he grows berries, fruits, vegetables, and then the vacationers sells. It has regular customers, a few years restaurant on the pier he buys cabbage, tomatoes and herbs. It would seem that money is not regular, but it's a big help for the family budget, and how much his labor and time he puts into it! And as for us, for me trying, no wonder that he says that one he would not need.




During this time that we are together, I got used to how much it home just does. Sometimes, tired to come to work, irritation for the day will accumulate, and so they begin - and it did, and the shirt sticking out from his trousers, and Slippers are not in that place are, and how the table will sit down, all of his jerk: "What do you chambeshi; don't get a piece in jam, eat the same spoon; shred again, you can't watch it there". - That was my husband recently to avoid dinner and Breakfast with me. Early in the morning get up, tea is one drink, and in the evening, as I will feed himself sits down to dinner.




I saw myself from the outside, became ill and unpleasant sludge bad now in the soul, I think, why I'm so with him leading, well can't you differently, why only scold and criticize, Yes is there because you can?




I haven't told you about that while I was at work, he always will cook dinner sometimes, and your lunch to work will bring. It's okay, now time for him more. Why, he's always been like that. And when shifts worked at the plant, daughters, and hospitals, and sanatoriums, during the summer my grandmother all the time he. How was North to go on watch, always will come, money will bring and it is necessary for me gifts, books, what I like, once even a few thick, warm Gamache had brought. I all the time something was dissatisfied, all grumbled at him, "not so spent, but I wasn't done."




He, of course, is also not present, everything in life was. But I lived - he was expected to change when he will change and do something. As it turns out, he did, but my spirit was not enough to recognize and appreciate. Yes, and most obvious, change is not wanted. And now read Your articles and see how much you have missed in life. Well, there's still time, we now have daughters of their own lives, their families, and now we with the husband have decided to live for yourself. He recently became ill, and I realized where I am without him! All the proud Princess went, and now don't want more, and want him attention and affection to give, I don't behave cold and unapproachable. Thank You.




Thank you. Thank you for not just read and forget, and that is something in your hearts and your minds. Thank you for that change themselves and change their relationship with my beloved. Thank you for what you begin to enjoy life and enjoy the time spent at this beautiful, amazing planet together with my beloved man.

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