How to get rid of a rival and endure the betrayal

Cheating thing "thin", and not necessarily the sign of fading feelings, no. Perhaps the reason is different. But so far, it doesn't matter. It is important to destroy the "enemy No. 1".


Want, but you cannot




Of course, first we need to calm down. No scandals, a post-mortem. You are not 100% sure that he is cheating on you. Hands in the pockets and play spies shouldn't - it can only annoy her husband, and perhaps that's what you will push it on the last step.




It is also worth to control myself and not to stutter until about choice and ultimatum "either me or her". Understand, until you found out who she is for him, you run the risk of 50: 50.




Up until he says that he has no one, save his nerves. Act independently. In the movie up until there are no titles, things can change. Therefore, the scenario of your relationship will have to write to you. When you'll bring her husband's suspicions, and he recognized the presence of other ongoing women, playwright - he.





What to say... friends


Nothing! Be silent. And generally take in the habit of such things with no one to share. Family problems should stay in the family. You to anything "advisers". Think, because at the peak of grief, you can say, "I'm leaving" and then head down and to mutter something to himself the question "why left? ". This is your life and your own business how to act in such situations, you should not afford to live someone your life for you.





Act!


To tolerate deception, not telling anyone, not facilitating the soul, it is difficult. Share your concerns with people who are not part of your normal circle of friends - create a forum thread or go on reception to the psychologist. Do not discuss what is happening with the family. After all, cheating, husband, maybe spare your feelings and not going to ruin your relationship. Very often a man, repented himself, remains true when aware of the threat to his marriage.




The next step is to talk with her husband. Quietly, without scandal, without hysteria, without tears. You are the best, he's not worthy, so you just have to be on top. Try to understand why this, why this double game, why he was lying to you. The word "divorce" it is quite possible to say, for some men it works sobering. And as if no further unfolding situation, the main thing is not to let yourself self-deprecating feelings.




It will not hurt to talk to her. With the opponent should be short and to the point, without abuse, physical abuse, and dramatic scenes. The point is that she has learned once and for all: you need to avoid. Keep dignity and not lose your temper and you will compare favorably with any opponent. Most importantly, remember to be silent and even more to smile in response - it is impossible. You need to immediately show the degree of rejection of this situation, do not be afraid to Express their discontent.




And finally, be better. Changes in a woman was always attracted to men. Your beloved will not be able to resist your new image. Make a new hairstyle, change jobs. Devote time to yourself, this is your chance to rethink a lot of things and to understand why you live.

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