Today we can say what I think. But this does not mean that we got rid of all the old habits. As if we didn't call - to end, to reach the highest point, to conquer the summit, a great shaking - it all sounds like we are talking about the daunting task of climbing the mountain. That is why, in my opinion, many women can't deal with it.
I get hundreds of letters every week. One of my most educated correspondents brought to my attention by a charming way of thinking about the orgasm, which she found in the French translation of the novel by Mary McCarthy's "The group". In the English version the man says to the girl: "you came" ("you came"), and in French he says (and, note, do not use the familiar "you"): "vous avez joui", literally translated: "you played". One of the reasons why people have problems in the exciting game lies in the fact that they are trying to not play by the rules. And it is not surprising that it all becomes more like work than a game. First, let me address some of the misconceptions and incorrect concepts that many take for rules. And then I will introduce you with a new set of rules for this "game without rules".
Misconceptions about orgasm
Here are some of the most common false ideas about orgasm that men and women tell each other, never referring to themselves:
Any woman can cum if man will last long enough. This is partly true - but in this case you lose the amazing part of sex that delivers most pleasure to their partners. The most intense orgasms usually occur within the first five minutes. Twenty or thirty minutes monotonous "pump" that try to do many men will likely make your woman feel as if she was handled in an automated store. Maybe it eventually will end, Yes, but it will be "almost-but-not-quite" orgasm. Technically, it is an orgasm, but practically is weak burst, after which she will feel even more upset than if she had not experienced anything at all. The answer here may be more pedigri. Remember that almost spoke hamlet: "The foreplay''s the thing... (Prediger that's it...")
When a woman starts to cum, the man should start a "strike" that there are forces. No! Quite the contrary; he must move as silently as possible. In this case both of them will be better. I received many letters from women who ask why their orgasms during Masturbation is much more intense than those they experience during intercourse with a man. The reason is that during Masturbation woman can feel the spasms of her vagina, because it weakens your touch, when you feel the beginning of an orgasm.
The man who starts with all the strength to drive his penis into the partner as soon as she starts to cum, making her vagina the same thing that we usually do with our nose when we want to avoid sneezing, tightly pressing his finger to his upper lip.
On the other hand, continuing to move relatively calm for her, and yet, using gentle rhythmic tremors letting her know that he's still in the game, he will not only allow her to feel her pulsating vagina, but he can feel her spasms. Beating the penis cannot feel almost nothing but his own sensations.
"I'll give you orgasm! " One of the latest issues of the sexual revolution lies in the fact that too many men, knowing that the woman is now supposed to have an orgasm, assume vowel responsible for it before even they will be in bed. Promising her sexy pink garden, you give yourself and her a disservice. The ability to give and provides the opportunity to select. And not only so. As soon as a man puts on so much responsibility, he begins to worry: but can he really deliver the goods. His concern is transmitted to the partner. And they both make love in order to please his male pride, and not for each other. Remember, this is her orgasm. And he never leaves, she has it.
Simultaneous orgasms are the best. Again, no! The joint end of the sexual act is something that everyone should experience. And it usually turns out to partners who know each other and many times already slept together. In other cases it is better if the first woman cums.
Many men believe that, "ending without it, they make a woman feel used. Others believe that once a woman first had finished, she immediately loses all interest in what is happening.
Both of these assumptions are incorrect. Satisfied the woman can relax and enjoy a strong male blows. Still trembling vagina at this point will be much more sensitive to pulsations of the penis, than during his own orgasm. A woman who has already experienced an orgasm, can now focus on feeling how ready to cum penis swells in anticipation of an orgasm. And she will anticipate that second, when will the eruption. The feeling of how a man cums inside of her, may be the most amazing thing for women.
Some men also believe that a woman gets hurt, if they were still in shock after she had finished. But it is also a misconception, following from the fact that the male penis remains sensitive for some time after ejaculation. Women, however, and emotionally and physically different from men. As I already said, after his own orgasm a woman can enjoy their increased sensitivity to male. And believe me, she will not feel any pain. She might even want to indulge in additional psychological pleasure of using the imagination to put yourself "taken", as the ancients said.
And, finally, a woman who already had finished, can enjoy the contemplation of the face of his men when he cums. During this time she also can do what you secretly dream of many women: dirty talking. Now, when she had finished and again can harmoniously to think, she will be able to build a beautiful colorful phrase.
And, of course, now, after the woman used the blow and is on second base, she will be able to enjoy the opportunity to "enter the house", at a time when her partner is still on the way to first base. (If this sounds too confusing, don't be very strict to me. That can know uneducated Dutch girl about the American game of baseball? )
"Her breathing became choppy"
This is my favorite line from one porn novel. She talks about why so many women have difficulty with orgasm: they hold my breath when I feel it coming. Any strong emotion causes people to catch her breath; we all instinctively do when we are frightened or surprised. In some women, there is a subconscious orgasmagoria is expressed not so unusual statement: "It's a bit like how if you die! " Orgasmic agony they associate with what they think should be like the death throes, and it causes agitation, which causes them to catch her breath.
Smooth rhythmic breathing helps to relax any tense situation. Ideally, the orgasm should be like breathing - something that we cannot stop. Inhale as deeply as possible, then exhale it with desperate sharp sound. If it looks like an orgasm, it feels like an orgasm, sounds like an orgasm, there is every reason to believe that this is the orgasm.
Orgasmic spasms. One of the most difficult things for a man's understanding is that some women need to orgasm to ease cramps during menstruation. On the first day of the menstrual period, when these spasms particularly strong, many women masturbate, even if they never allow yourself to engage in self-excitation in a more favorable time. Men can't grasp how a woman can experience sexual pleasure when feels geletko pain. It has nothing to do with masochistic perversions, as many mistakenly believe men. The fact that women achieve higher sexual receptivity during or shortly before the onset of menstruation, is a well documented fact. And the stronger cramps, the more attention the women concentrated on the pelvic region. Cramps are nousou, rhythmically pulsating pain. And it makes the woman feel as if her heart was suddenly down. And then there comes a time when a strong sense merges with a strong sense. This is why many women who have difficulty in achieving orgasm can be quite easy and fast to achieve it during such a spasm.
The man who becomes his woman "good Samaritan", masturbating her during her menstrual pains, often receives compensation in bed a few days later. All he has to do is to moisten your index finger with saliva and potestati her Clit, bringing her to orgasm.
Imitation. Proud puritans and some feminists argue that women should never do this, but allow me to disagree. Most women from time to time pretending. And, no doubt, hypocrisy much more suitable method than recourse to the famous phrase: "don't pay attention, it doesn't matter, go on! ".
If you are going to "play" dear lady, do it as follows. In any case, do not smile. Remember that orgasm more than anything, like a convulsion, and nobody smiles when they meet spasm. Freeze, strain and squeeze your thighs and buttocks, Flex back, gamesnokia his teeth, as if you are tearing the finish line at the Olympic round.
With regard to the different conversations during simulated orgasm, then you probably will sound like a heroine of the porn novel, if will be: "Yes! Yes! Yes! Yes! Yes! Yes! ".
Do not bother. The reason porn heroine do it, lies in the fact that the writer can't wait as soon as possible to finish the book and get a check; six "Yes" occupy a whole line and help the writer reach the end of the page.
You should not use other porn monologues. Still no one who actually commits, will not be able to fluently pronounce.
Compensation of damage
Suppose that a woman is not finished and not simulated orgasm. Most men want to help them. And the only obvious solution is to replace the no longer capable units thumb.
Begin to act as soon as the penis is left in the vagina. Still excited woman can take at least two fingers. Use the index and second fingers, simultaneously rotating the thumb around the clitoris. If you thumb is extremely large, it will be similar to the penis more than one or more other fingers. Put it in the vagina, and then type the index finger in rectum. When both fingers are placed on the bottom, gently pinch them together so that she felt a tugging sensation on a thin partition separating the vagina and the rectum. Enter each finger alternately - first one, then another, and so on, But until you make it, lick tongue and clitoris. You don't have to wait too long.
Finished it?
This is a rare problem, but it exists. A man can simply lose an erection inside the vagina. This usually happens due to fatigue; sometimes it is a psychological reaction to any number of things that may not have anything in common with this woman. The inability to finish is called anorgasmia, if you speak the medical language. Cause of anorgasmia in the extreme for men is priapism - named after the Greek God of Priape that had a constant erection. Priapism is not happiness, but the trouble is, painful medical problem that, fortunately, is rare.
However, there are different types of orgasms in men. Described medical language, they all look convulsions, more or less intense. But the orgasm is, in the end, there is intense reaction - pleasure.
According to Dr. Alfred Kinsey, about 20% of men have moderate orgasms with very little ripple penis, ejaculation drop by drop, and not a stream.
45% of men tense the whole body, "convulsions cover one or both legs, mouth, hands or other parts of the body".
About 17% are aware of the muscles of the legs, "convulsive spasms, highlighting the eyes and have a strong eruption".
5% become "insane" and fall into hysterics, starting to talk and laugh.
The rest are "the strongest tremors, convulsions, change in complexion, and sometimes the full weakness". Others may shout and experience unbearable pain, if after ejaculation continued movement or just with a light touch to the penis.
What type is better? There is not the slightest difference, as it is obvious, men are hardly able to control himself during orgasm. I'm just telling you what group you (or your partner if you are a woman) belong to, if you're interested.
A woman should always remember that the man brings great joy filling her." Therefore, do not rush immediately to jump out of bed and run to the bathroom, even if you hate to feel sticky, and you're afraid to stain the sheets. Keep it in an accessible place near the bed towel and put it under itself.
Many women using diaphragms, particularly scrupulous and tactless in the "washing away" after intercourse. Never behave in a similar way to men, as it gives him a reason to think that he has instilled in you something dirty, unclean.
People in the refined society, until recently, did not allow himself to say much about orgasms. It was a secret, "Smoking" experience for all women and most men. This corresponds to the Puritan laws that still ravaging our society.
Even in today's "liberal" atmosphere about the most famous orgasm we know from the thirties, the Spanish civil war, when the radicals and revolutionaries from around the world together in a Holy war against fascism. It was then, as it is told in the novel-the novel of Hemingway's "For whom the bell tolls", the Spaniard Maria says the American Robert that it actually almost felt: "the Earth shook! ".
According to the materials of the book of Xavier Hollander "Orgasm: How to achieve orgasm"
Orgasm in men - 13 questions and answers
Male orgasm
Thursday, October 23, 2014
A great shaking, or how to achieve orgasm
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