How to communicate with Teens

The mood swings, increased attention to their appearance, the appearance of idols, "mass individuality" - all this is a period called adolescence. On the one hand, what would the child have anything he wants, just cry, but what if after any of your words the eyes of the child on the wet spot?



Self-defense: nobody understands me


It is very hard to catch the moment, when a docile child, grows a teenage bully. Any request of the parents perceived with reproof and advice cries. For the adolescent desire to separate themselves not only from this world, but primarily from parents, to show that he knows what and how to do.




The desire to separate partly a natural stage through which passes a teenager, and it's called "reaction emancipation". However, it is typical that the rejection of the adults and the desire for separation from the teenager, the stronger, the more we sponsored a child and deny its independence.





The actions of the parents


But not only the teenager "to blame" for his excessive aggressiveness, parents often do not understand that "baby" has grown up and now perceive it otherwise.




For the harmonious atmosphere in your family, you should follow a few basic principles:




- determine the range of decisions that a young person may be taken alone


- to determine the range of decisions that you will take together


- the decision should be consistent and not change depending on the whim of one of the parties


as "Mature" should increase the volume independently of the decisions


where right there and responsibilities


- no sharp statements




Most importantly, remember: the maturing of the body - energy-intensive process. Yesterday baby, the body of a teenager for a short period (couple of years) undergoing tremendous changes at the level of physiology, it is not surprising that he gets tired - both physically and mentally. He needs time to "master", "digest" all the information on him down - so he dreams, dreams, plans, develops his philosophy - that is, doing the things that we, the parents, clearly umemem in the phrase: "Lying on the sofa and spitting at the ceiling".

Source:

Women's Magazine

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