Everybody lies, and not Dr. house invented it. Each of us have become accustomed to explain the delay tube, unfinished business - busy at work, and laziness - lack of vitamin D. Why do we lie and what to do with it, you should ask the psychologists.All people do it
To embellish, to hide or distort information capable, but the desire to lie is not characteristic of all people. As a rule, the need to lie occurs when other ways a person can not achieve. For example, he wants respect from friends and acquaintances, but nothing to boast of, and therefore begins to lie about that "single-handedly saves the world".
However, the desire to lies can be pathological: in this case the person is lying around, even in small things, and denies that does it. Such person until the last stands on its own and proves that he is telling the truth. He lives in a world of illusions - as if he wanted to live, and wishful thinking, wouldn't know reality from fiction.
Good or bad?
Do not think that a lie is exceptionally bad. The lie is necessary and even useful, but in some cases can only do harm, psychologists say: "I Can share my experience and say that when I see that man is in a very difficult situation, but doesn't realize this, I never tell him the whole truth, so as not to scare and not to aggravate the problem. In such cases, the person better not to know everything - it is easier for him to go through a moment of crisis and to get out of the problem situation. However in this case can "kill", deprived of all hope. A lie will strengthen, mobilize and inspire people on their actions. This is what is called white lies".
Doctor, what do I do?
If a person notices that he "understates" or "embellish", it means that he is able to control himself, and this is a good sign. To stop regularly to lie, one must first understand why there is a need. I keep back because of the fear of evaluation, judgment or conflict? I embellish, because I want to be braver and smarter than it actually is? Everything has a reason. Everyone can admit to myself, what he fears, what is protected, what he wants to achieve. Now you can eliminate the causes and, as a consequence, false.
Keep your distance!
In the relations of men and women use false or to manipulate, or out of fear of being under total control. Some people think that telling the whole truth, they allow another person to control yourself. Therefore, strive to close, move away and keep your distance.
In pairs, this situation is often played on the little things that, at first glance, does not deserve attention. For example, a woman in a fit of care is reminiscent of the beloved: "You have not forgotten to drink the medicine? " "No," says he, and then it turns out that the pills he never took. In response to outrage the better half he blows up and says that he was tired of her eternal reminder that he is not a child and that she is not his mother. Such examples, when in fact it makes no sense to deceive many. They point to unresolved issues between men and women, which provoke the need to lie.
If a man is lying
If you suspect that the young man is lying to you, the first thing you need to do is to talk to him. Voice your suspicions without blame and aggression, tell about their feelings ("worried", "worry", "that scares me") and ask them to explain the situation. It is important to remember that true love does not tolerate lies: people accept each other for what they are (they don't need to hide something or to exaggerate), and do not seek to obtain any benefit (so not resorted to deception).
In General, steam is the place where lies should not be. The less cheating in the relationship, the more stable the Union. Strong pairs of people don't need to lie to each other. So you can always check yourself criterion lies: if you need to talk to your partner wrong (even in small things), it means that your pair is not sustainable and can be destroyed by the slightest problem.
Source:
Women's information and entertainment portal WDay.ru
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