What not to do deceived wife?

To survive the betrayal is very difficult, but possible. If, despite the betrayal, you still decided to stay with his man, these 6 rules for you.


Already don't care how you found out about her husband's betrayal: found evidence itself or they found you. The main thing that it happened, and now you know that you're the third side of the love triangle.




The first time after infidelity is the most severe. It is especially difficult if the husband has not yet undecided, home and never came back to apologize. One foot there, the other foot here. This boundary position is very hard to bear.





Rule 1: don't be a victim


Imagine a husband who comes home. Already plagued by doubts about mistress - is it worth it destroyed families? And then he meets on the threshold of a wife in the suit of the victim. And it pours tub charges. But the guilt in men, not rubber. While it will tolerate such attacks, but eventually will go where smaller charges, less tears and lamentations.




Of course, you're a victim. Sacrifice the weak husband, a victim of polygamy that the victim tolerant of male infidelity society. But we must think once, sorry for yourself, and forget about it.





Rule 2: do not razoblachil it


This is the most common mistake women: caught husband once, we want to catch it again and again. Without even thinking: why? But what we want to know? The husband is unfaithful to us? Where and how was it? To sting itself piquant detail, so that then, unable to bear the pressure of emotions, wash at her husband with a new portion of the charges? Meaning in it. Guilt husband will experience short-lived. And then it will escalate into aggression. No solution to the problem of speech can not be.





Rule 3: do not seek contact with his mistress


Yes, she is also a woman, Yes, she, too, wants love, but hope for women's solidarity in this case it is not necessary. You are on different sides of the barricades, and the trophy you have one - your husband. It is foolish to hope that after the conversation she will enter your position, and it speaks to the conscience. Most likely, it will take on the role of the meek stradley, and you in the eyes of man will put an angry owner.





Rule 4: don't put an ultimatum "either me or her"


Anyway, try as much as possible to delay this moment. Now, when your husband is absorbed by the passion of the lover, and former feelings to you poisoned by guilt, he can make the choice not in your favor. The ultimate form nobody likes, the more the man who used to make a decision without the pressure of women.





Rule 5: do not vozbuzhday it jealousy


To provoke jealousy in a man can only be confident that he is afraid of you to lose, and that he is watching your actions. Besides, men consider that cheating men - it happens, is a widespread and common, and therefore not as bad as cheating female. Even changing wife, no man will want to wear branchy horns himself. And he will not forgive thee thy treason.





Rule 6: do not close eyes on their mistakes


Try to analyze what and when your family has gone wrong, and where you lost control of the situation. Look for their "gaps" and immediately their lati.




If you do these 6 rules, it means you are aware of the situation, able to think sensibly and start action. From the edit no one is immune. And from the kick, which put our men of his childish pranks. Life is so versatile! Where there were losses, there will be victory. Patience you!

Source:

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