You got nothing happens - let me do me!
Psychologists say that this phrase injures toddler and pre-programming to fail. He feels stupid and awkward and in the future already afraid to take the initiative, thinking that the mother will again scream.
Take, just calm down!
Hard for some parents to endure long mournful "Oh please, Oh give". But, agreeing to give the baby what he asks, parents, unwittingly, give to understand that whining and persuasion can achieve anything, and my mother's "no" should not be taken seriously.
Once again, this will see you I will get!
As shown, further threats are not an issue. Neither mom nor dad will not carry out the punishment, and the child will only be scared. Similar phrase in children causes only resentment and bewilderment. Don't scare your baby. The child should know exactly what to expect in a particular case. And sudden breakdowns parents to no good will not.
I said, immediately stop it!
Not so sharply to talk with your baby! It's your child! If you fell, it's best to apologize. The child after all offended, feeling absolutely powerless. And instead of stop - starts to protest: the kids are crying and capricious, teenagers silently leave and turn in on themselves. In General, like it or not, this phrase does not help to achieve this.
You must understand that...
Many children a protective reaction to this phrase and its boring sequel. The kid doesn't understand morals and not listening to you, switch to something else. Worst of all teachings are perceived by the child when he is agitated, upset, or angry. Remember, he is a man, who was having some kind of problem, and at the moment he is concerned about it and does not accept your even the most sensible and correct reasoning.
Boys (girls) do not behave that way!
Constantly repeating this, parents are vaccinated child certain stereotypes. And in adult life already grown boy will perceive their own emotions as something unworthy, and the girl felt complexes about not female profession or insufficiently cleaned the apartment.
Don't get so upset because of nonsense!
Perhaps for the baby is not nonsense! Remember yourself as a child! Yes, the child may be upset that his machine was not given, or the house of bricks crumbled. Because in his own little world in exactly the typewriter and the house is the most important! Demonstrating a disregard for the child's problems, you risk losing their trust and continue to learn about others is not completely foolish problems your baby.
Take care of my health!
Often some moms say it to the kids. But understand, sooner or later it all stops to be taken too seriously, like the story of the shepherds and wolves. And really feeling bad mother child the habit can not be ignored. He'll think mom complains if only he stopped making noise, jump, play.
No, we do not buy - no money (expensive)!
It's hard to explain to the kid why you should not buy everything. But it turns out, if mom or dad will have the money you can buy everything! The kid understands exactly this phrase. Isn't it better to say: these toys you already have, a lot of chocolate is harmful. Yes, it is always difficult to explain! But the child needs to understand why his parents he doesn't buy.
All children will be children, and you...
...the Lord's punishment, messy, clumsy, etc. do Not have such labels to hang on kids! They lower self-esteem, and the child really begins to meet them.
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