Porn

Forbid your husband watch porn or not is your decision, only accepting it, remember that every person should have a choice.


The relationship of loved ones is a difficult thing that hasty decisions can not only hurt, but also serve as a detonator devastating explosion. Trying to elaborate a common position on certain issues (or, rather, trying to adapt the world around under developed personally by us position), we should not forget that differ in age, Outlook on life, profession, educational level, financial and social status and, finally, of sex. What some think is a tragedy, for others sometimes not worth a damn. And try not to understand but to guess the position of the other person often leads to the opposite result.




Not so long ago broke up very strong, at first glance, a couple of my friends who were not married, but met on a serious basis over four years. The fact that a College classmate of mine (let's call her Alina) in the absence of his close friend decided to restore order in his house... and with deep surprise found in the closet a decent collection of porno cassettes. Surprise her, in General, is quite understandable, because the people they are young, handsome, with a violent temper and a very rich sexual life.




After watching several tapes, Alina found that most of these "Actresses" of a certain type that are engaged in a certain kind of sex. Since we studied together and the education she is also a psychologist, then immediately decided to put into practice the skills acquired. Because this kind of sex they never did, Alina immediately identified diagnosis - pornocasera served a compensatory function, replacing the lost feeling, and myself wrote a prescription for treatment.




While her friend on a long trip solved business issues, she changed her hair color, bought in the store erotic lingerie all the necessary things and even rehearsed in front of the mirror, based on the impressions viewed tapes. When her partner returned, she met him in the armor.




To say that he was shocked by recent change is nothing to say. In the morning, Alina called and gave me an enthusiastic impressions - everything turned out like it was on tape. But... since they no longer spend time together, and her long-time friend, who all seemed perfect pair for Alina, just started it openly to avoid. That's how it all ended.




Foreign private life (and sexual preferences and features are its real part) is too subtle to start to reshape and rebuild. The unpleasant discovery that the husband (partner), in addition to vivid sexual experiences from communicating with you or instead of, wants to get some extra "doping" can permanently to deprive a woman of peace of mind. And the perennial question: "Why is he watching porn? " is more difficult hamlet.




Actually, the reasons can be a big set. And not always ignore the situation. In my practice there was a case when a perfectly good man threw his clever wife, two children, an apartment and went to the Striptease dancer. Examining things in the Cabinet husband abandoned wife found exactly the same carefully selected collection of porn. She then long he reproached himself that failed to recognize sexual dissatisfaction husband and could not keep the family together for the sake of the children.




Indeed, in some cases, the preferences of men for such activities help to improve the situation in the family and to establish sexual harmony. The only question is, how ready respectable mother of a family of unconditionally implement all the erotic fantasies of her husband, peeped in porn, and whether it is necessary to save this marriage, in which the well-being of children is dependent on the temperament of their mother in bed?




It's pretty sad the development of family relationships. But, as a rule, all costs less dramatic. Someone is looking at porn experience, someone is trying to overcome or compensate for the natural stiffness because not all men tireless stallions, and someone really needs such a dope. By the way, sometimes joint viewing partners are able to give additional flavor to long-established relationships.




Still, if you are not able to overcome their understandable disgust, seeing porn as something shameful and wicked - no feel myself breaking. But it is not necessary to break and your partner, if you realize that this is not a threat to your marriage, your relationship and your future. In the end you acknowledge his right to the Friday trips to the bath with friends, Saturday fishing or Sunday lying in the garage under disassembled into parts car. Think of it as just another unavailable women's consciousness a form of male entertainment, that part of his private life, where you access is limited. Because in the end you don't make him walk with you seasonal sales of underwear, gatherings with class mates or the tea party for my mom.

Author:

Pokrovsky O., psychologist


Source:

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