Sex for men and women are two completely different things. Roughly speaking, for it is a commonplace prose Leo Tolstoy, and for her intimate lyrics of Sergei Esenin. If men sex is the only way to discharge loaded in the rhythm of work and rest (this is actually so, sometimes on the match of your favorite team expends more energy than a month), that for women sex is a way to find harmony and dive into the whirlpool of passion.
Because the man is not generally important feeling, a passion he is born not in the head, on the shoulders. And if there are exceptions, they are, for the most part, end as quickly as it arise. Of course, you can argue, but it's true.
According to statistics, masturbating 80% of men and 50% women. I think, in reality the numbers are higher. Let's not talk about the beautiful half - this is the topic of a different article, but for men... are Not engaged in self-satisfaction is that the impotent and the sons of religious fanatics. Thus, it is actually possible to reach 95 percent of masturbators.
And masturbate not only in the absence of a partner, but in the presence of his wife (girlfriend). Why? You can highlight 10 reasons of such behavior, and also to figure out what to do if your favorite "betrays" you this way.
1. Stress
Relieve stress man are two ways to have a drink or have sex. And the second two options are possible: with a woman or with your own hand. Each, of course, chooses that close to him. In favor of Masturbation could play a factor less expenditure of effort and energy went into the toilet, took out the unit for a few minutes - and stress as there was.
A great role is played purely physiological aspects. When nerve stimulation increases blood flow and erection occurs.
What if your favorite is doing? Try to gently explain to him that you understand him very well: his work is linked with stress, and you will be happy to help him forget them.
Show that you care not about their own pleasure, and how to make him well. Otherwise the man will just get used to Masturbation, and it will not only relieve stress. Masturbation will completely replace you!
2. The wife became uninteresting
After marriage, you got ten extra pounds, makeup, only when go to work, walk around the apartment in greasy Bathrobe, shower in the morning instead of before bed - all this somehow affects your relationship. The man that sex is all you want, but not with you.
Then he will buy erotic magazines and videos, often and for a long time to be alone in the toilet with a fresh issue of "Playboy". Thus the case could end up and cheating with other women.
To the question "What to do? "the answer is simple. No need to calm down and raspolagalatsya. The main reason of adultery and divorce is when the routine absorbs passion and romance.
And committed to a similar outcome both partners. One - their behavior, another silence. Therefore, when a man begins to retire, be sure to talk to him, find out the reason. And if she is into you, then you need something urgently to change.
3. Not enough sex
In General, a rather rare phenomenon. Usually the woman is not enough sex: male, having made his case, turns his face to the wall and sleep, and the woman sometimes own orgasm. But sometimes the opposite: when a man wants a daily basis, and my wife only from time to time. Of course, when you want, but you can't, you still somehow need to exist. Therefore, the output is Masturbation.
First you do not notice it, then begin to guess. And when I catch him doing this - shy. You can't ask him about the reasons of such behavior, and he don't even start this topic.
Because if you understand that do not satisfy a man, try to give him more pleasure, use other poses, lubricant (such as grease to increase the duration of sex).
If you have sex in the missionary position or in a position where the woman does almost no active movements, all the tension by having a partner, a man will be more tired and the effect of sex will be more.
4. Don't want to strain
Or, in other words, a cause of Masturbation can be elementary laziness. I wrote above that, for the most part, sex for men is actually just the process of introducing the withdrawal and no more. Because he thinks such a man, why work hard to deliver more pleasure to the partner than yourself, when you can just masturbate?
Eventually, after this "sex" anyone to see and hug no need - you can even safely roll to the side and go to sleep: no one word can say.
The reason for this behavior - psychological, therefore, to correct it is quite difficult. Except to explain in practice that no Masturbation will not replace sex with you.
Finally, make sure that he understood the basic rule of sex is the main thing that was good for both of you. Only if he is aware of this fact, you will begin to change. If not, it will continue to be selfish, which is unlikely, you should continue the relationship.
5. Can't get satisfaction from sex
Again a psychological problem. Moreover, only fiction that sex pleasure is not, and from Masturbation. The reason is quite simple: small penis size, self-doubt, some inner resentment.
All this leads to isolation, obsession of inferiority, and, ultimately, the marriage with the first woman that will show sympathy for him and about him to worry.
Being morally "scored" such a man will not be able to get pleasure from sex, and the only joy for him to be banal Masturbation. That would not make his wife, intimate change the Outlook of a loved one is difficult. He will probably remain the same introverted and shy, if not increase their self-esteem.
What to do? There are three choices. Or try to change something, to show him what he is a good man, to use the new poses to do in bed whatever he wants, or to perceive things as they are and to calm down. Or just to get rid of such a man.
6. Thinking that you can lose weight
Yes, it really is one of the reasons. A friend of mine read somewhere that 5 minutes of Masturbation replaces half an hour in the gym. And he somehow has calculated (based on wasted during "practice" kilocalories) that, if he's going to masturbate three times a day for a month, lose 12 pounds.
Further - more. Since training in the gym provide strain on different muscles, he felt around on the Internet and found a practical manual onanista. There was written, in what positions need to masturbate, so that was simulated anal sex position top, bottom, side and things like that.
And, you know, instead of regularly have sex with his girlfriend, he exhausted himself daily Masturbation, expend a lot of energy and so much ate and drank. Eventually, he gained 5 pounds. And enrolled in the pool.
Of course, the man who believes in such amazing properties of Masturbation, not to say its better than actually do in order to impress his new figure. But at the moment these workouts he, of course, do not have the energy to satisfy the wife.
Therefore, it remains only to sympathize with and advise if not to convince the mountain-man in the absurdity of his classes, then at least some way to wait some time until he was convinced of the futility of Masturbation as a means for weight loss.
7. For him it is in order
Most interesting in this item. Man believes that he should masturbate. As well as eating and drinking. Well, such is its nature, what is there to be done? The woman, of course, will not understand this logic. Her Masturbation is already a sign if not treason, it (women) imperfections in the eyes of her husband. To explain to him that he is wrong, anyway, what to hammer in a nail with a computer.
Because in that case, use his hobby for the benefit of your relationship. Tell me what you like to watch him masturbate, and you will be happy to join him. Ultimately, look at it as one of the sexual games are incredibly exciting and unusual.
8. Want another woman, but I don't want to betray
I have already dealt with the question of psychological infidelity. It really is natural for men, as not cool. Even if you look at the history of mankind, we see the harems in the East and courtesans in the West. Of course, a man who loves his wife and doesn't want to make her hurt, will never betray.
But if he wants something new, he could not give his wife, he can find a simple way out. To sapodownloads can, looking at the photo or video desired them women, is also presenting at this point that he makes. That's kind of cheating without cheating.
Hardly a woman in this case it is necessary to do something. The man left, not walking - why the extra buzz? The only disadvantage is there is a certain probability that this "sex" will eventually become like him more than normal, or cheating will become real.
9. Urgently want to have sex, and no one near
When a man wants, he tries somehow to satisfy your desire. For example, if you come to work before he wakes up, the husband, feeling a morning erection, can calmly masturbating in the shower, whistling the national anthem of his beloved football team. Of course, this is not a trend or disease, and the usual lack of restraint.
Unlike most previous cases, to fight this pointless. And it is not necessary. This man is quite sure of himself, he understands that Masturbation is temporarily. Simply because there is no women. And if you do, and Masturbation are not necessary.
10. Masturbation as exercise
Yes, teen masturbating because thus he trains for the transition to adult life. Some men reading manuals Masturbation (there are, don't be surprised), begin to imitate all sorts of poses. So get used to it that they continue to do it as adults. Roughly speaking, any new such man tries to yourself, and then doing it with his beloved.
To avoid this, think of sex not only as to the physiological needs, but also as to the connection of two hearts. Not only must you have sex, you need to learn to speak the language of sex and desire. After all, sex is a dialogue between the two bodies and hearts, this is a game and passion. Sex is life itself! I wish you to live and enjoy life.
Expert commentary:
A practicing doctor-sexologist, psychotherapist Eugene Alexandrovich KULHAVY:
"In sexology considered normal Masturbation in puberty, substitution and Masturbation as a way to better know their body. Sometimes Masturbation is recommended as a therapeutic tool. For example, men are to improve control over ejaculation, women with anorgasmia. The division is also conditional.
I often recommend that women be able to "help themselves" in the process, and the men explain that this can be quite good. But you must remember that Masturbation is what I it was only a small part of sexual life.
Excessive, compulsive Masturbation, preference masturbatory contact with the opposite sex as a boundary condition and talks about psychological or even psychiatric problems. Or is it a difficulty with communication and low self-esteem. Or is it fanciful imagination. Or is it a way to get out of stressful situations.
Anyway, if people were late adolescent stage, he needed help, because sexual life is still not only movement, and the relationship of anticipation, excitement. Unfortunately, the format of the "fast food" penetrates into sex.
Some people - especially in cities - just no time to do everything beautifully (although actually it's a question of priorities). Sexual attraction is implemented as "going to the toilet". But we have a free country and everyone chooses their lives.
A good sex life is a quality that is sometimes a luxury. Someone can afford healthy food in the restaurant, and someone only fast food. Someone nature allows to reproduction, and someone vybrakovyvat. It is important to understand this and at least strive for the best... I Wish you all more love and less Masturbation! "
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