Pick up any men's magazine and you will find the article like: "Satisfy it for 40 seconds." Take a women's magazine. There certainly are a hundred and one recommendation on how to become the object of passion for all men without exception in your environment. From the darkness of bedrooms sexuality took to the streets of cities. She no longer hides.
And, it's probably good. People should be free to live in his pleasure. But try to find the scent of sex in real life. Then for some reason it's not so glamorous and glossy...
Are you satisfied with how your sexuality expresses itself? Do you feel that you are sexy?
As a psychologist, people trust me in what sometimes are afraid to admit even to yourself. And I can confidently say that the vast majority of men and women hide and suppress their sexuality. Moreover, they don't even realize it. As a result of their sexuality hidden - as if it doesn't exist at all. And hides it in asexual (i.e., devoid of sexuality) behavior.
Meanwhile, all the people from birth to sexual. And therefore sexually attractive. If you have sex and can not reproduce by budding, you sexy. Sexuality is an internal quality, the ability to feel attractive and ability to enjoy sex, not in the narrow sense of the word, and at its widest. After all, sex is not just something that happens in bed. Sex can be charged all the space around you: your actions, your voice, movement, clothing. And this magic is attracted to you not only with individuals of the opposite sex. Success and money, as noted, also love sexy people.
I will describe here are some common signs of asexual behavior, through which many women make themselves into an asexual being. Interestingly, in order to stifle his sexual charisma, women sometimes spend more effort than that to develop.
"What I have is ugly. Beautiful is out there"
This setting is 99, 9% of the female population. Of course, you do not look at these ethereal creatures that languid smile from the covers of glossy magazines. And no matter what on this doll-like beauty worked first beauticians, (it is not excluded that plastic surgeons), then makeup, then master of computer design. Anyway, this is supposedly a model of beauty and sexuality. And you come to the conclusion that with your body, with your appearance, you cannot be sexually attractive. You don't have sex need to be involved and veiled to wear! You even flirt contraindicated!
Do you think that your body, even if not very big - it's just a bunch of flaws! And those beauties with covers eyes povolokoy, hair - kg three, butt convex, concave belly, legs start somewhere right below the chest of the fifth dimension. And you got what?
Yesterday you got a pimple on his feet. What is on the back, you know about it!
Or, for example, your butt (you probably call not so affectionately). Well, tell me, with such booty on someone you can show? Those who look, don't count. They have poor eyesight. Or bad taste.
Now. Instead of thinking that you are beautiful, you think constantly about these failed parts of your body. Especially when you look concerned glance of a person of the opposite sex. Do you think something like this: "Well spotted me... Now he will see what my nose and lose interest in me... Well, turned away. I told you! "
You don't even understand how all men admitted to your body, managed to have fun. If you were in their place, you would run away immediately. Strange they are!
Remember that a sexy woman should not look like celluloid poopsie cover (this, by the way, many men repels). Of course, if you think that your body is a walking shortcomings, covered overweight and covered with cellulite (which is now almost incompatible with life), then you will come to the conclusion that to please a man you can't. Well, except that, in total darkness, and not touching...
And such attitude should be "asexual" behavior.
"Outputvoltage"
Every second woman beating men desire to tell her compliments. As you know, a compliment is the impulse to converge. The desire to establish a little more close and trusting relationship.
Check: you, casually, not one of them? You honestly surprised that you can call someone's admiration.
If you, God forbid, made a compliment (which in itself is weird), you raise an eyebrow and say something like:
"What is it, seriously?
"Do you think it's beautiful?
"You seemed...
You would only have to play a joke on me.
Gross flattery!
"Well, what are you saying, it is not necessary (and I never washed it, Yes it's an old blouse, I just became unsuccessful, I, on the contrary, gained weight, etc.,)
Some even pretend to compliment emphasized unnoticed. Also acts as a cold shower.
She is not willing, you can make it so that he was embarrassed that he regretted said that he understood that went "wrong address". And he would never have any desire again to utter such nonsense in your address. Someone else who is infallible sure the irresistibility - Yes. And you - no!
Pushing the compliments, you are still stronger affirm that you are unworthy of admiration, because you are walking a bunch of disadvantages.
What is a compliment? It's always a step forward. You make it clear that closer to you is not worth it.
Good, clever girl
Some women skillfully transform a normal sex... intellectual.
Usually the plot develops. You meet someone, and this someone you become like. But the situation in which you have to know each other, well, neutral. You have not met in the night disco, not in the bar and not on the beach. And, suppose, in the office, on a business trip, visiting friends, etc.
However, in the air "smell of sex". You may also like this person, but you are not sure. You want to please him as a woman. And you fully admit that in the right circumstances, your relationship could get interesting twist (further - don't try to predict anything). And also you understand that, you may need only file a "green signal" that you don't mind to talk more and neformalna. Here is the time to engage in intellectual sex.
In the presence of an interesting object you are putting on yourself smart. And your communication will be caught in intellectual conversations (otherwise, why are you all this stuff in my head hold? ). You try to seem like you are smarter, you're presenting yourself with the best hand".
Perhaps your partner is discussing with you clever topics very interested. And he actually do if he got involved in this game?
Yes, you will make him / her impression. But not what they had expected. Instead of paying attention to yourself as a woman, you will see an intellectual, intelligent, educated, sociable and enlightened man. And stick to this man with primitive sexual claims even as something embarrassing.
And then, when your relationship is already rolled on the track, to destroy this stereotype of "women for intelligent conversations very difficult. Moreover, if you try very hard, next to you, a man will feel like a fool. Or underdeveloped. And what is still possible to feel like you are next to a walking encyclopedia?
And the exciting fluid, flying between you, gradually evaporate.
In antisexual behavior there is another setting, which is typical for almost all women. Namely: if your field of vision appeared attractive stranger, you hide your interest to them. You apostate themselves modest (arrogant, disinterested or self-sufficient). Avoid eye contact, but this could be the beginning of your relationship. You pretend as if you did not notice, even if your heart beats a drum roll when it comes to you. In the end, you get numb and silent, even if you're around, and you will have the chance to start a conversation. Well and certainly, you cannot assume that you will be the initiator of Dating. And convince yourself that you can't be, because...
Surely he is married (and in any case, not alone).
- Most likely, you are not in his taste...
- If you speak with him first, and he does lose interest in you.
He seems younger than you...
"You look terrible today.
- What if it's about you do something you think?
If you noticed installation described here, you should take measures to avoid becoming a theorist of sex. And review is primarily an attitude. Observe yourself and notice how you hide your sexuality. In your power to stop doing it. After all, we all in our lives ourselves. Or don't do. No one will reward you with sexuality as a gift of magic, if you do not allow yourself to be such.
And then...
However, it is quite another story.
Author:
The Sviâša Yu
Source:
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