They say that in the winter need to be with someone increases. But loneliness is not a reason to feel alienated and not cosmetic defect, which urgently need to disguise the concealer.One and happy!
You can live alone and be happy, the main thing is to realize that happiness is an internal state. Any man happy so far as he allows himself to be happy, and love is not a guarantee of happiness is not.
All depends on how you perceive the situation. The fact that someone seems to be the end of the world, may be the ultimate dream of the head of a large family. Compare: "God, I'm one! " "Really, I finally have one! ".
To see positive things we usually prevents the pressure from society, which did not seem to notice that men in our country is becoming less willing to divorce more, and firmly believes that the phrase "and they lived happily ever after and died in one day" describes the typical happy family. Actually, as a rule, men die before their wives, so that even a married woman is not immune from this period in life, like loneliness. Just this period in her life may begin later than yours.
Do not envy the couples, the maximum benefit from the situation!
5 reasons to enjoy the solitude
- Think (based on my personal experience), how much mental strength and energy in people to be together, to establish a way of life, to smooth, to quarrel about, and then re-establish relations. All that energy you can now use exclusively for personal purposes. Live as you wish. Build a career, as it deems appropriate.
- You don't have to worry about what your man is: a) has found himself another, b) has found himself another and wants to go to it, found another, g) drink d) drink (very suspicious! ), (e) uses you. Items on this list may be much more than letters in the Russian alphabet.
- You - on its own. There is no need every day to think about where to take two kilograms of "the male food (particularly unpleasant to do, when I sit on a diet), fold solitaire from socks, to land the most delicate part of the body on the cold porcelain, because once someone forgot to lower the seat, and in three hours the night sad to think about, is curable if male snoring.
- Now you are independent from men, his opinions and wallet. Many women feel the need to share responsibility and to feel protected, but sometimes so much fascinated by the process that they themselves do not notice how to lose individuality, "dissolving" in the partner. Typically, the next stage of a relationship in such a pair is divorce.
- And finally, happy women attract men which usually want to immediately solve "the secret". This condition is much better than "running lines" on the forehead with a red inscription "I need to marry! ".
Without losing composure
If you are alone, on the horizon, sometimes there are willing to destroy your inner harmony is "sympathetic", criticizing and bocause.
- The closest people - moms and dads. Pointedly sigh, happily regurgitate news about who knew whom begot, married and gave personal life. Then (or immediately) begin to ask very direct questions. Better with them "slippery" topics not to discuss. The best option is not to admit at the beginning of this constructive conversation, translating the conversation on neutral topics or asking counter questions about life - health of parents.
- Girls, women, friends and acquaintances. Doesn't matter what the women said, all the talk, in the end, will still boil down to discuss men. "You're lucky", "Maybe it's time to stop being so picky and reduce the level of claims for these words sometimes and you can't understand, what emotions they are experiencing - whether sympathize with, or envy, or try your own self-esteem thus to raise. The main tactics of the conversation is always agree with what you say, but stay honest. "Yes, there's a good guy, but how will you imagine how much he needs to focus and time for the meeting to spend! I work on so many interesting things (important) that the relationship build - just lack of time. I sometimes feel unhappy, but exactly as long as the neighbors behind the wall will not start relationships to find out".
Spotted: the most difficult to unsettle the man, confident in his innocence. If you know that you live the way you want and you feel good number Mochudi plummet.
We do not encourage anyone to immediately divorce, to partake of the pleasures of life "for themselves", just wanted to remind you that loneliness has its advantages. If you were in a similar situation and want to share your positive experience, welcome to the commentary to article!
Author:
Khaki So
Source:
Woman.ru
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