Learn the language of love

If you don't speak English, and I say: "I love you", " you will feel nothing. If you answer me in German: "Ich liebe dich", and I have never studied the language, I'm just surprised look on you. So sometimes we talk about his love and understand each other. After all, everyone does it in their own language.



The language of gifts


We talk about our love making other gifts. I say I think about you, you're important to me. Souvenir of the trip, a bouquet of flowers, rare book, of which only mentioned a loved one. All this opportunity to say "I love you". If the partner does not appreciate our gift, we believe that we don't like.





Language acts


It is spoken by people who love it. The word is just "blah-blah". They do not believe in words, if there is no corresponding action. To clean the apartment to meet a loved one at the airport when he didn't expect to cook a favorite dish for her husband when he later returned to work. And accordingly, they do not believe in love, if another does not commit such acts. Whatever sincere words sounded, without careful gestures they do not feel loved.





The language of words


For those who are fluent in this language, there is nothing more valuable and more accurately than words. Their love is evident not only in lofty phrases and verses, and words of approval: "I like a movie that you chose for us". Conversely, the absence of sweet words said to them that they don't like.





Language leisure


For such a person it is important to be together. And no matter what you do. The main thing - together all the time: a restaurant, a movie, a walk, a single program on TV. Its much can hurt, if you go to the meeting with their classmates or relatives without him. All. Therefore, it is not love.





The language of touch


For such people the words "I love you" emotionally mean nothing if they are not accompanied by stroking, hugging, kissing. It is important for them to partner always combined his gestures and words, if it's not, it means that there is only loneliness.




Of course, in the period of passionate love we use all languages. But some of them always is leading for us and some for our partner. If we look closely, when he feels loved, we will be amazed by the results. Usually we expect that the partner will speak our language. But actually this is a rare case.




Maybe for many years we talk to him about his love, and he doesn't understand? For example, he makes me unique gifts, but all the time lost at work, and I get offended - he loves me not. Or he complains about the lack of love, because we don't spend time together, and I all this time telling him "I love you" when you have children in the weekend, so he had time to work on his thesis. And everyone feels unloved. Now it is clear that we can do? Let's try to understand the language of the partner and to give him the keys to our. The results will be amazing!

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