The child grows up, he becomes an adult? Not always.Sometimes people say: "You're great! " So you have big hands, feet, body, head, but it refers to size, not psychological adulthood. In other words, great uncle or aunt may remain a child for life. You have met? It is interesting to consider, and who then can be called an adult?
In children the main motto in life is "I want! ". This determines the actions, relationships, beliefs, what is good and what is bad.
All just want to play, a tired - looking cast. Like another child or adult - will be; tired, not interested, hurts - I don't want! I will not be. The candy I want, porridge don't want!
Wise teachers know that in order for anything to teach a child, it should be of interest to you. In other words, to make so that you have his "I want". But life goes on, and requirements of the children grow, increasingly, there is the phrase "you should". Ugh, this is in contradiction with the usual "I want"! You have to go to school, to learn, to respect their elders, to do exercises, to clean, to help parents, etc. But I don't want! But who cares, now you have! If the child protests stronger authority, suggestions, educational impact adult, then the child has a chance to win the right to continue to act, guided solely by the motivation you want to or not". In this case, the person will become large, but not adults, which guarantees in life big problems for him and others.
There is a good word - responsibility. Adult only the one who is responsible for their actions. Whoever, being aware of your own "want", can be guided and other words must, should, can, will do.
Adult begins to care not only about themselves but also about others: "he put the porridge on the table". Children run in and eat without thinking where and what is taken, they are, because there is an adult who cares about them.
And another definition.
Adulthood and financial independence and personal freedom, but also responsibility for the consequences of the taken (and not taken) solutions.
Financial independence is the ability, based on knowledge, skills, experience, in any situation to get enough material (financial) benefits for their own needs, and to support our neighbors and other decent people.
Personal freedom - the ability to make decisions regardless of the opinions of others. To act in accordance with their beliefs and take full responsibility for the consequences of their actions. Of course, it is worth considering the circumstances and the opinions of others, but the decision must be made independently.
Let us define by example.
The young man wanted a girl, they happened to love. Everything is normal. Beautiful words, romance, sex, fun. But over time he began to notice that she is somewhat annoying ambitions and whims. Sex with her like, and the communication is not very. In other words, want sex, and claims not want.
They say that from the fellowship are children, and it's no wonder they say. In short, the girl became pregnant. Now its claims are very specific: you should marry, you bastard! I want to get married! What should I do now? But the young man is also guided by their desires, he says, "And I don't want, goodbye." Here is a real life situation. To be clear, these children - one 30, another 23 years.
It's the big kids. Both he and she. The guy wants sex. The girl wants to get married. They are not responsible and their children "want". However, adults?
Let us return to the definition. An adult who is ready to bear the responsibility, including financial, for the consequences of their actions, saying to himself: "I must, then I can do". But these kids only know their "want", so claims have each other.
Whether the girl to marry him? Not the fact. Should the guy to marry in this situation? Also not a fact. The child born to the two of these children will most likely be very unhappy. He will be born already with his "I want", and it will meet two of the parasite, which can not cope with their own "want". The situation is complicated.
Solutions may be few, but someone will have to take responsibility. Think about how you would hope, adults - have solved this problem?
However, the definition is given, and how to stop hurting "childhood and become an adult?
- Start earning money. Understand about how to do this, you need to write three books. This is a separate issue. But all the same. Money is resources, tools adult to support himself, relatives and other people who need help. If you are very careful, but poor, then your possibilities of an adult is very limited. Because children can be all sorts of ambitions, desires, but if they are not provided with financial opportunity for adults, it will remain just a fruitless desires and dreams.
- Be self. Without the first paragraph (earn money) is unlikely to succeed. Than greater financial independence, the more opportunities to make decisions for themselves.
- Start to worry. The range of concerns of an adult much more than the child. Help, invest their knowledge, skills, experience, finances, their loved ones, find other worthy who need your care. It may be worthwhile to create new and exciting projects that will make sense of life and will stay with other people. So did all the adults and great people, so we can remember them. Than remember you?
- Be responsible. An adult is responsible for their actions. Not the way our government defaults, the theft of the Treasury, bribes, in words, but in reality: money, time, energy, investment in fix wrong decision.
- Be mentally healthy. Adult-child not in control of their emotions, often makes the claim that the people around him should all, touchy. Because he wants to get and can not happy to give. Mentally healthy adult is aimed, primarily, to transfer knowledge, skills, experience, finances decent people. Just had this a lot, he's an adult, and what can be done with the child?
A good phrase: "You're either part of the solution or part of the problem". Now, adults were the most likely solution. Adults / children, most likely the problem. Look around, look, you are surrounded by adults? And you who?
Source:
School of life
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