Sooner or later comes the time for parting with your baby: the first hike of the child in kindergarten, nursing mothers to work, visit or in the store. How to behave in such a situation, what to do to the child gradually learned how to spend time without most of the man he loved?
Naturally, the child must be configured for separation from her mother. This is done primarily through confidential conversations with your child. This point is very important. And, unfortunately, many parents it lightly to miss it. It is impossible to secretly run away from the child until he was distracted by attracting his attention to the subject, for the following reasons.
Why not just go
1. Thus leaving the child, the day you have to worry about how the child is feeling, and not unreasonably!
2. The child begins to perceive the parting as a tragedy, which can lead to fear of Dating, as well as enhanced control of the things and people around him.
3. You may experience jealousy and contempt of her mother's personal business or employment activities.
4. Throwing suddenly the child, you can make the child feel cheated, weak, deprived of attention.
5. Possibly even the formation of negative traits in a child, such as aggressiveness, propensity for manipulation, the habit of not letting go of mom a single step.
The stages of preparation of baby care mum
1. Before leaving in about 10 minutes confidently and simply, without worrying that simple phrase explain where you are going and what it will do. For example, "mom goes to work to bake muffins" or "mommy will go to the hospital to treat teeth".
2. Tell them that while you are at work, the baby will stay with nanny, grandmother or aunt, and specify what exactly would be with them to engage the child. Say what you will come once the baby to play, sleep or eat, but be as honest and will fulfill the promise.
3. Tightening moment of parting is not necessary, everything must happen quickly and without unnecessary worries on your part, because the child feels emotional mother. Do not promise that you will bring a gift (because it will look as a mercy from him), but on the way back to the child can grab something delicious ("a gift from the Bunny").
Farewell ritual
Perfectly cope with separation help of the so-called farewell rituals. Namely: mother crouches, takes the child by the handles, says where it goes and when it comes back, kisses on the forehead, hugging, saying "bye bye" and blows a kiss. You yourself can come up with a moment of parting with your baby. The repetition of the same actions when parting calms the child. All these tricks are needed to reduce the anxiety your child about you and about myself. And remember, that in no event it is impossible to threaten the child, blame or punish when parting.
And of course, the moment of returning deserves no less attention. And when the child runs headlong toward the mother, showing their joy, it is very important every time to meet your baby with a smile and love.
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