Rule 1: listen and act upon their own
With wrong side podroikina tips each of us is faced on its own. "Well that's what you found in this Sashka. A short, bespectacled, came from the middle of nowhere, friends from neighboring colleges. And I here something about him told... " I only entered the first course, and a friend convincingly persuaded to dismiss cute classmate. The idea I left my people in the seventeen years I want to look funny? A month later she called me and started chattering into the phone: "I'm so happy! I Sasha offered to meet! "
It is enough to look around to make sure that the fatal women, successful enslaver and seductresses no one close friend. These women best friend, mom, sister, goldfish in a fishbowl, a private kitchen. As a result, their acquaintances men much more than women, and relations with the latter close to the ideal because of their race.
But the happy owner of a dozen close friends who frequent the heroine of Hollywood comedies. They get together a couple times a week in order to discuss the incorrect men and their chronically idle life. Each stage of a new relationship is thoroughly versed on the phone meetings. In the best case they feel the characters in "Sex and the city" in the worst - strange company "the diary of Bridget Jones".
If a movie about rock women you like most comedies about old maids, for a start, refrain from this glorious tradition of meetings with discussion of your personal life and collective decision making. And unsolicited advice about respectively by not always visible.
Rule 2: the vicious circle unmarried girlfriends
Married girlfriend lost for the female community. Therefore in maiden company, the marriage of one of her friends often seems to be something of a voyage of Noah's ark - happy couples go beyond the horizon to continue life, and others will have to wait for the sea weather.
And so to escape from a circle unmarried or divorced friends sometimes difficult. I watched this process before the wedding of a close friend to be his bride reckless trust your experienced friends. Those first tried to open his eyes: "Yes it is you set at naught. He's a Mama's boy and in General - since when do you allow yourself to sink to the level of the cook? " - they scolded her friend, which in the morning to cook a favorite Breakfast.
Then, carefully remembering the slightest complaint, giving wisdom to the surface and at every opportunity tried to remember the mistakes of the groom. At some point itself there is a choice - or husband, or friend.
Folk wisdom believes that "married free no girlfriend", but the typical female conflict can be avoided, if not fall before the wedding from public life and all the tips to safely divide in half because a friend just is afraid of you to lose.
Rule 3: a friend in joy
The phrase "a friend in need has always been completely baffled me. Its author is one of the ancient Roman poet, who clearly had a very specific experience, but we somehow easily and without hesitation to believe.
In trouble just be friends. To complain, buried in a friendly shoulder, easy and pleasant, and the room for many hours of conversations in coffee houses: another womanizer, wages, plotting zavistic colleagues and the tyranny of the chef. These conversations is half of your life and what besprosvetnoe life, the fuller and more colorful conversation. Among women who like to empathize a lot more than among men.
Now imagine: you reach the pinnacle of a career, marry the handsome businessman and all free time is spent on finding workers for your new home somewhere on the Costa Blanca. You every day - if not a holiday, at least its preparation. Tell me honestly, how many friends sincerely be happy with this situation? Most of them lost whatever common topics of conversation, and all because of friendship - especially women - still known in joy and not in trouble.
Therefore the accelerated test on the quality of your friendship: I will be happy if a friend tomorrow if you win a million? Fulfill their biggest dream? In your own life can make the biggest dream girlfriend? And would be glad if you for a friend in a similar situation?
Rule 4: "the best friend a Cup of coffee"
Hardest can betray the one who is too much about you know. "Betrayal" is actually only about a close person with whom you used to live with a soul wide open. The most banal story told to the wrong address secrets and taken men. The better plan is to usurp someone else's way of life, including dreams, goals and aspirations.
Swedish psychologist Hans Leibman many years studying women's intrigue - women behind the game be better. The main advice is to keep your secrets to yourself, because the only way you can save the really important information.
"My best friend a Cup of coffee," answers to questions about the friendship of one of my friends. And this is a good Board choice of whom to ordain him into an important secret. By the way, the heroine of "the Bible of female friendship" - "Sex and the city" - never lived with soul wide open. To expose the most secret and share the events of his life is radically different approach to communication. The only possible prevention of betrayal - not to prepare himself for his soil. The women's friendship a very good ear and a good memory, and this is just to remember, regardless of the length of the relationship.
Rule 5: a friend on-site family
"Keep it in the family dirty linen in public" is the necessary hygiene and family life, which even our grandmothers taught their mother. And it's not even that beloved friend should not trust territory of the family of any stranger sooner or later turns out to be odd man out.
A flurry of activity girlfriends in the framework of someone else's family - a special conversation. And attempts to take the husband is the exception rather than the rule. Much more likely to desire Union to destroy, and of the most noble of intentions, in the name of saving your blinded by love the soul.
"This all looks very suspicious", - warn a friend, looking at your too perfect novel. "Or he's hiding something, or he has a lot of bad habits, but he'll obviously morocha head. You deserve more, you he is clearly unworthy".
The distance is actually a natural phenomenon. Friend will not come to our house with impudence, family member, if we do not invite. Free tips for improving the quality of life will not happen if we don't ask. Indeed, apart from these tips, there are things much more important-understanding without words and desire a little bit to make today better.
And whatever is said by psychologists, for this indeed sitting at a table in the café fit perfectly. Talking about fashion, sex and men, but with a clear red line for discussion. Maybe this is a universal recipe weekly strengthening of female friendship?
Author:
Pechorin D.
Source:
Леди@mail.ru
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