"The Director is the Director goes!.." we could hear whispers in the office. - A plate of cookies is moved in the locker, close the "window" "Classmates" or electronic versions of your favorite magazine, complete personal calls, smiles carefully removed from the face. At the sound of the door opening on the back runs a chill. Why are you afraid of the Director? How to overcome this fear?..
Causes of fear
Self-doubt.
No matter how trite, but most bosses are afraid of people with low self-esteem. If there are any "nuance" at work, it seems that the dismissal now down on their poor little head. And if they get fired, they will be for months to find a job. Before the eyes appear dark images associated with unemployment and lack of money...
What to do? First, try not to overreact. To get you fired, should be a really good reason. Everything else - the so-called "working points" that need to learn to be philosophical. Secondly, the self-esteem need to be improved. How to do this, you will prompt the articles and books on psychology, counselling by a specialist. Third, maybe your insecurity stems from the fact that you are not their business, and their job is not at the proper level. In this case, you should consider the fact that you really understand.
Fear of disapproval.
Fear of disapproval fear of perfectionists - people who in everything and always want to be the first to perform at a consistently high level and never make mistakes. They barely carry their own mistakes and blunders, and if that's the head, not discouraged.
What to do? First of all, to learn to understand that Not mistaken only one who does nothing". Then every error you need to learn how to learn. Don't concentrate on his boner, better focus and energy on how to avoid similar incidents in the future. By the way, this could be useful when you begin to read head. You can quickly and, most importantly, structurally, to switch his attention from what happened, it is possible to prevent such errors in future work.
Psychological pressure.
There are bosses who constantly "crush". Pressure over small things and in the case of pressure regardless of the quality and speed of work. They find themselves in such a situation, employees struggling not to give reasons for dissatisfaction of the head (even tea in the office once again not drink), once again not to fray his nerves.
What to do? To deal with this fear help various psychological methods. For example, while your head is screaming, imagine him in costume or with a bucket on his head. You can imagine how it pours a bucket of pasta or as he, waving his arms, takes the role in the Opera.
Unpredictability.
Sometimes fear arises from ignorance. For example, a new employee who just doesn't know what to expect from the boss, as he reacts to tardiness, personal calls during working hours or delay in solving the problem.
What to do? To solve the problem easier. Ask your colleagues, which is significantly longer work for the company, than you. And they are not skimping on words, 'll post you the lowdown head - starting with his habits to family situation.
Not so afraid of "hell"?
The chef is not God, but man
Knowing that your boss is not extraterrestrial deity, but an ordinary man, should help. Understand, he was appointed head not because of what he has seven spans in a forehead, but simply because he was a little faster than the others, he has connections or Cambridge education (thanks to my parents, who had paid it). And probably he acts the way, because this is the behaviour of the head. Treat your boss like a normal person, like any other colleague or friend. Communicating with him, imagine sharing your idea with "brother in arms'. So it will be easier to formulate their thoughts and to overcome their fear of the head.
Nothing lasts forever, nobody eternal
What is the sense to be afraid of the boss if he can at any moment be deprived of his post?.. Some employees leasat and curry favor with the leader, hoping that this way will ensure a long and happy existence at work. And when the "tyrant", which they moaned and who constantly complained, shoot, survive more than others. Because I've got used to fear and fawning, and with a new head, you would probably need a completely different way to build relationships.
Psychology commands
In "battle" with the head of the victory which is the key to victory own fear) often helps team spirit. Not disparate groups, some of which are still struggling to please the leader, and others are in the so-called "opposition", and a strong team. The team, which not only listens to the instructions, but every day in various forms itself dictates the boss, how to be and what to do. This means that no decision of the head should not be taken for granted. You should know that you have the right to their own opinion. Especially if you and your colleagues are confident that it is correct. In the end, you are many and you together, so you too can take part in decision making.
Any fear is justified. And to get rid of it, you need to find out what it is you are afraid of and embodiment of what YOUR fears is "terrible" boss...
Author:
M Tomovska
Source:
MYJane
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