The new Pope. Stages of adaptation.

You cannot ask a child, so he immediately began to call your new husband dad, especially if the child is perfectly remembers my dad.

Divorce in the family is a huge stress for you and for your child. But gradually you build your life and on your way by a man worthy to be your new husband and a new dad for your child. However, the creation of a new family can be for a child even more stress. How to avoid it?

To become a family, it is not enough to decide to live together. You cannot ask a child, so he immediately began to call your new husband dad, especially if the child is perfectly remembers my dad and he loves it. This will lead to a negative reaction. How to help your child cope with the situation? Do not demand too much from him. Of course, you would like to immediately and unconditionally loved your partner, as you like it, but this is hardly possible. Help them to meet and get to know each other. Even if your man loves children and is great at dealing with them, you still need time, that he felt himself to be the father.

Of course, the younger the child, the easier it is for him to get used to the new Pope. But even with the older children, you can find a way, if your man is really interested in it, trying to learn about the child, find out what he likes, what he wanted to do, pays attention to him. Well, if you can find some occupation, which they can do together: go sledding, play computer game, to find my mother a good birthday present.




Unlikely to avoid a child's jealousy. Only that my mother belonged to the child entirely, they were so good together. And now she can't pay him the same amount of time. Show how much is needed in the family a new dad that he needed not only to you but also to the child. Come up with interesting activities for the whole family, let them know that the new husband is not taking you, the child, and that all together will be much more interesting than it was together.




Whatever it was, the appearance of a new person in the family can lead to stress in the child. Children experiencing stress, react to it differently. The most common symptoms:




* the return habits of an earlier age: thumb sucking, bedwetting, baby talk;


* refusal to eat, loss of appetite;


* headaches, frequent colds or other minor ailments, abdominal pain, digestive problems;


* silence, isolation, refusing to communicate with friends, apathy;


* poor sleep, frequent nightmares;


* anger or rage, causeless tears, hysteria, restlessness.




To help the child cope with stress, it takes time and patience. Stress in young children (under 5 years) best contribute to the game. Older children a good way to relieve stress is rapid, mechanical drawing using bright colors. Do not forget to give the child enough attention to joint book reading and discussion of the characters of fairy tales as well as possible impact on the child's psyche.




Not hurt and advice of a child psychologist, who will suggest ways of solving this or that problem. Perhaps the doctor to reduce stress and help the child to calm down, recommend you give it a soft and effective sedative. For example, "TenTen children", developed specially for children. The product is great for students - it does not cause retardation and daytime sleepiness, improves memory and attention.




Let patience, love and attention will help you to cope with any difficulties!

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