When you are on someone angry, offended, nervous, then destroy the protective power of his own body. Hence, long before the disease.Scientists American Richmond spent a recent experiment suggested that the group of students to think about revenge on their oppressors. After 15 seconds measured experimental blood pressure: it soared by each participant of the experiment, except for one girl. However, all except the same girls, increased heart rate and increased muscle tension. In the second part of the experience students were asked to think about forgiving their abusers, and they quickly returned to normal. It later emerged that the student body which at the time of the experiment was calm, simply no concealed wrongs.
Many doctors notice that those patients, even seriously ill patients who do not fall into despair, but, on the contrary, optimistic and find the strength to enjoy life and believe in the best, usually recover faster. And in HIV-infected patients who do not succumb to despair, for no one get angry and do not build plans for revenge against those who were infected, the immune system is stronger and does not allow the disease to progress. It was also established that people irritable, chronic feelings of anger, resentment or frequent depression increases the number of red blood cells in the blood. Because of this, the blood thickens, which increases the risk of heart attack or stroke. The inability to forgive, irritability, depression increases the risk of cardiovascular and many other diseases.
And the reason is that negative emotions are forcing our body to work in an extremely busy schedule. The brain at this produces stress hormones that increase blood circulation. You probably noticed that in a state of resentment, anger and more anger you can't sleep, not hungry and unable to work. If anxiety, resentment or irritation does not stop for a long time, your body is like sticking in an emergency mode: resisting negative emotions, he loses power. Old diseases have increased and as the immune system weakens, developing and emerging diseases - from the common cold and flu to heart failure and cancer.
In addition, stress hormones - norepinephrine, and cortisol have the ability to accumulate. Therefore, the result of daily nervous disorders is not immediately, but only after some time. And one should not presume that lead to disease only a powerful negative emotions arising out of serious trouble. No, even small, but sparring with her husband, conflicts at work, in transport, store, etc. and promote the development and accumulation of stress hormones. And those are its destructive work in the body.
Of course, just to get rid of negative emotions is impossible. Their short-term and rare flash will not lead to disease. But from a long, continuous bouts of depression, anger, irritability and resentment, you need to get rid of. For this it is important to avoid an evil feeling in our hearts and peacefully taking tests, which sends you a fortune. True believers to cope with this task considerably laid che. Gospel commandment to love not only loved ones, but also their enemies for them, not empty words. To love, to forgive, to humbly accept and joy, and sorrow, not to complain and not be offended - these feelings are from God. Anger, irritability, revenge, grudge, sadness is a sin, to overcome which the believers Church. What about someone who has yet to become a truly faithful, and perhaps it never will be?
Well, psychologists advise first of all to be honest with themselves. Remembering the offender or any non the likely think that you too have made mistakes, too, were wrong about someone. (By the way, if you find yourself in this plan is infallible, then you have something wrong with your self-esteem - there are no infallible people.) Remember how you needed the forgiveness of those whom you have offended, even inadvertently, and what a relief you felt after reconciliation.
Try to mentally put yourself in the place of her abuser, look at the world through his eyes. Think about why he did so, and not otherwise? How would you behave if in its place? Maybe he never thought that causes you harm, causes resentment? Find in this person's positive qualities, specify five reasons why you could forgive. Do not forget yourself and ask him for forgiveness, at least mentally. Surely he, too, you hurt. And also suffers. So you let go of resentment, anger, desire for revenge, any other negative feelings - imagine that took them to a handful, and threw out the window, and even better off a cliff into a bottomless abyss. And stop it, finally, to pour, as they say, chitchat: constantly think about trouble occurred, endlessly to speak to her alone and aloud with friends, to engage in a mental dialogue with the offender. In addition to foolish spending of your energy, these dialogues and monologues will not give you anything.
Of course, forgiveness does not mean that you have to put up with injustice, to find an excuse. Or to believe that you deserve it. No. But it's important not to allow negative emotions to control your life and health. Get rid of them, straighten your shoulders, smile and breathe a full breast.
Author:
Nudelman, N., doctor of psychological Sciences, Professor
Source:
Psychological center
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