"People-procedures" life lies in the here and now and consists of continuous processes. "Say, this young man knows a lot, " said the Master of one of his students. - Is this true? " "In truth, " replied the Wizard, the guy reads so much that I can't imagine how he can take the time to know something! "
Another example of such a "man-procedures". Once
my friend asked her husband for the first time to sit with the child, who was then three years. Approaching the appointed time the husband began to get nervous: "What I need to do with it? How much to feed him, and in what quantity? What book to read? How many pages? How much time to walk and where exactly? You were going to leave and not even leave me instructions! "
In many psychological typologies this "procedural" scale one way or another is present, because it is very big differences exist between individuals in this respect. On this occasion, frequent scandals and conflicts: "You're such a slob!!! "You superficial people! " Meanwhile, it is quite useless to blame both.
If, having read this far, you say, "Well, I understood everything! "you - "one-man opportunity." If you ask: "it's All good, but how exactly to communicate with other people? "I congratulate you, you - "man-procedure" or at least at the moment are procedural interest.
I remember when I first bought the phone. It was very important that the phone was able to send email pictures, listen to music, record on the recorder and another fifteen functions related to video processing, currency conversion rate. But when after some time I changed this smartphone to another, I realized that I didn't use half of these opportunities! However, in the next smartphone all of these options are still present. And suddenly I need? How exactly to hang in grams? It's all about them, "people-procedures", for them it is important that all was done. They are the implementers.
Conduct this experiment: ask a few of your friends from different fields to talk about past holidays and listen carefully! "People-opportunities" say "Wonderful trip! It was possible to go there, could you show! " Although it is possible that further bar the person has not moved, the very idea is so tempting unfolds in his mind, and to ride no longer necessary. The opportunity has a price and self-sufficient!
"People-opportunities
In the women's locker room a lot of strange clothing, cocktail dress, although no secular parties are not planned, beach dress, still with the label. Or - Holy! - a few things three sizes smaller: what if I lose? Men, too, can zavalatica in the attic tent, never assembled, the rod or hockey shape: what if I want to go fishing or play hockey?
If all inclusive people sell-opportunities", they say, you may at any time to use any of 80 bars! They will go in one, but knowing that there are still 79 opportunities that will make their stay unforgettable!
- Many books are on the shelf unopened.
As my grandmother said: "Tell everything in order, starting with "it said, "hi! " And "people-procedures" will tell you: "We flew to Antalya, we were not planted in the first terminal and the second. Then there was a big queue for Windows visa. Once we were in the bus, we drove three hours to our hotel, when we arrived there, we boarded the bus and arrived at reception at..." Note that this is only noon day of arrival, he has 14 days ahead! Any attempt to speed up the process: "Say, how's the sea, how's the weather? " - will be stopped, "Wait, to the sea I'll come, first I tell you about our number will tell! "
If you at the moment read already set on edge in the mouth (as you can! ), you - "man-able"! But calmer! Notice how rich the world of "people-treatments", there are so many amazing colors, details. They have a lot completed, they are really all to finish until the end, they clearly know what, where and why. Unlike you, people-opportunities" that can't really describe any of your event! You are not connected to each other details: hot sand on the beach, a stranger in a bar, watermelon for dinner. And according to the report "people-procedures" you can go as a ready guide.
Another type of people motivated by the possibilities.
They, in turn, is very easy to infect others ' ideas, drawing these wonderful prospects. In the end they can not to go out anywhere to sit and gush ideas. Or as the joke, when a drunk tourist, after a long flight, leaves at the airport and asked the attendant: "please Tell me, where am I? " "You are about terminal baggage claim," replied the Minister. "To hell with the details! What I country? "
To hell with the details! "People-opportunities" often will buy all together at the travel Agency, so as not to fill the paper. This is the prose of life! They are good where you want to talk about higher things, they are fine in the ability to run "diamond smoke", which you will travel along the corners of the janitor. Came the mouse to the owl and complain: "We are small, we all hurt, what can we do? " - "I need you hedgehogs become. Jerzy too small, but no one hurts! " The mouse was delighted: "Hey, great idea! " And then thinking, "how can we become hedgehogs? " Go back to the eagle owl with this issue. "I don't know how, I'm a strategist! " - that answers.
"Man-opportunity" gives the idea shows that there are many options. And then in the process included "man-procedure", which says how to do it. They got together to work all the time. They are partners. "People-procedures - as rhinos, they go straight without turning. If they joined the process to terminate, it cannot, it will resume at any convenient moment.
I, as a "man-opportunities", has always been difficult to write structured training program. In the end, we entered into a kind of contract with one of my colleagues. She just detail wrote down everything I do in training, and then we did the program.
"Man is the procedure gets pleasure from bringing chaos to order: from the fact that there is a clear sequence of actions from the fact that he does not miss the smallest detail, from the fact that it makes possible real. There's even a profession - debugging of business processes. Without a "man-procedure", which will write technology, still nothing happens. Technologist, editor - someone has to be, to be clear, "how to hang in grams". Lawyers on the training very visible: they ask procedural questions, because it's their ability, their profession, that is why they are successful. Accountants, too - not financial advisors, who invent the "scheme" and honest accounting.
"People treatments"
- Do not understand what it is about. Will need a tent, buy! Lose weight - will replace closet!
- On vacation prefer tour package: met, held, settled. They need to make a schedule of vacation, to prescribe: Breakfast in the restaurant on the ground floor, lunch on the beach, tour at 9: 00.
- Buy the book and immediately read it, and when you read, buy another. And even if they are two or three buy two or three and read at the same time.
"Human capabilities" it is important to describe the diamond smoke a new perspective, and he already felt. As for "man-procedure" the main thing is not to give in. I well remember how one firm employees complained to their supervisor. Today he enthusiastically shares plans: we will have it tomorrow begin! But tomorrow comes and says something completely different: so, then it is not already doing, I have another idea. And if "people" buy into "the diamond smoke", he may be disappointed, especially in family life. So you can just sit and procedures to talk with the person about what he wants. And implementation is in process.
But if you are a "people" understand that "people-opportunities" are not idiots, they know what they want. Just all the time they are in the world of ideas and get pleasure from it. Conversely, they even amid the most favorable life, when there is work, money, home, family may experience depression because of the lack of opportunities. Even if the money necessary they will be, they may suffer if they run out of money in excess. In contrast, people have treatments there is always a meaning in life and a vague dissatisfaction on the empty place they don't do stupid stuff.
Actually, if it were not for ideas, the world would have never evolved, but if there were no procedures, he would likewise remained in place. We are different - and that's fine!
Very procedural kids. When parents give a toy, for example a machine with a remote control, they can throw it into a corner, while the machine remains for them a strange possibility. So they started to play it, adults should teach the procedure - how to manage, how to stop. And it is very important not to miss the moment of transition from the procedures to the opportunities the school is bad does! But not less procedural and older people. Grandfather grandson on the beach: "What do I know? Come relax, lay here and relax! " Not about whether this is a parable:
Once said granddaughter grandmother:
- All men are the same! Grandmother, it is only to tell me the first time, "Hello", and I already know how it will behave on what jokes to tell, how to smile, how to touch, how to quarrel and leave.
"You're not right, granddaughter. All men are different. Do you like modest "home"? Then why do you complain that again caught brat who didn't want to leave the house? If you choose the man "soul", then don't be surprised, I have to share it with friends and often with friends. If you love romance, then you have to be ready not only to the candles, poems and champagne, but also to periodic depressions and disappearances, which he will explain the "creative crisis". Choose the man, which can be as behind a stone wall, " don't be surprised that you will not be able to find within these walls doors at will. Women are like men, and then are surprised that they are all the same.
Author:
Peasant T, Belcheva And.
Source:
Our Psychology
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