Say happy may consider himself the man who in the morning happy to go to work, and in the evening happily returns home. Perhaps, in fact, few can boast sincere desire to be involved in the morning at work. And if you are often in the early days catch yourself thinking: "I don't want to go there! "it is time to think about the reasons for such sentiments.If you are satisfied with the work you're doing, you're doing the thing (or one that at least does not cause you dislike), get a decent salary - so, it's in the relationship with colleagues and management.
What kind of relationship in the workplace is quite suitable for us? Each performs his part of the work, to colleagues you can ask for help, the bosses objectively evaluates the successes, supports, directs and instructs subordinates. But why do people often give their work team such epithets as "hell", "zmejushnika" and so forth?
This happens if personal relationships in the team prevail over the business, if not replace them. In such a situation in the group arises structure of emotional needs. This can be split
- by gender, if predominates the number of men or women;
- on the basis of the success of the activities ("upstart");
- according to the preferences of the Manager ("Pets" and "pariah").
In many cases these relationships distinguishes internal imbalance, the presence of micro-groups, conflicts between groups and within them.
As in such groups system of business relationships is virtually absent, and their structure is very unstable, largely depends on the circumstances, from current events and relations. For them, the typical emotional conflicts, relations on the principle: "Here I do not like you, and all! "but the most common way of solving them - select "scapegoat", which assumes all the negative emotions of others.
Who often gets a similar role?
Common sense dictates that in "Les Miserables" may be credited people with certain qualities and features, which do not find the approval of other employees. But actually both personal and business qualities may not be almost any value.
The real reason is the presence of "vacancies" pariah. When relationships in the working group and its structure was not built on the principle of professionalism, none of the employees could not be one hundred percent sure of his position. Therefore, the presence of someone in the group hierarchy is "below", to some extent, this supports confidence. If the position of the "scapegoat" already occupied, then the next, say, a newbie, you must have a pronounced negative (from the point of view of the staff) features to "win" the rejection.
Figure "rogue", "rejected", "scapegoat", "the boy", etc. necessary for the affirmation of the other team members, to maintain their self-esteem at a level high enough for their confidence in his position. If this "position" is not present, then the others are deprived of the opportunity of winning comparing yourself with someone less worthy. Man allegedly possessing a pronounced negative traits, is a very convenient excuse for all who are not deprived of these features, serves as a kind of support. Almost always it attracts all the negative accumulating in the team. In the group where business relationships are substituted emotional, this role helps to balance the socio-psychological climate and relationships within the "ecosystem".
So, if you suddenly appeared in the new team in the position of "scapegoat", it is not necessary to despair, to consider himself a loser and search in itself the cause of all ills. Should calmly and carefully consider the situation in which you are trapped.
There are groups where the role of the "bring-bring" automatically goes to every beginner.
It starts to load, may not burdensome, but not connected with the main work and takes a lot of time matters (to buy cakes or paper for your printer, disassemble the accumulated mail, water the flowers, and so on).
How to behave in this situation?
The easiest option is silently perform all these duties until the next "new" and with relief then blame them for it. But where is the guarantee that the release will come soon and the next "boy (or girl) running errands would be the same without a murmur? If such a prospect you are not happy, you can select a different line of conduct.
In the first embodiment, it is possible to consult with superiors, clearly outline the scope of assigned duties and hard to stop all attempts colleagues this circle to expand, making the phrase "I am not paid" and "it is not my duty" as his calling card. But in this case, you almost certainly forget about the friendly disposition of the people who work with you, or go to the category of rogue-type "upstart" or "the most intelligent".
If this does not suit you, look at the situation differently. Some requests are not consuming too much time and effort, it is possible to perform. From the others to move out, otshumevshimi (say, today is not my turn), or asking for help (who is not experienced Maria Ivanovna, knows how to put paper in the closet). In this case you will have and the time to complete tasks, and the team will develop good relationship.
It also happens that lack of respect is due, on the one hand, with your little experience, and on the other, with the fear that you will be better and expel someone from the old-timers with "familiar place". In this case it is necessary, do not hesitate to ask for advice, to learn and to demonstrate their loyalty to colleagues. Of course, within reasonable limits, not forgetting about their own career development.
Finally, if the displeasure and criticism in your address caused your personal qualities, you have to change something in yourself. The basic rules of communication has not been canceled and, following them, you can get the location of most normal people. Very often it happens that others not irritate traits of our character, and how they appear (e.g., the inability to quickly switch from one case to another, and demand the same from others). There are just to adjust their own behavior.
The exit status of outcast can be found. However, it sometimes happens that it is very, very difficult. In this case, not worth wasting time and try to improve the relationships in the team, it is better to say "goodbye! " to colleagues and to try their hand at a new place, certainly considering your previous experience and correcting their own errors.
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