As we often hear complaints from parents to children! "Rose idler, houses a finger does not hit! It is up to the mother to help, lying on the sofa with a book or the remote clicks".So how does this work? Why young children don't want to help parents with household chores?
Back to childhood...
The idyllic picture of a young mother with tenderness watching hops on little legs her child. Baby all interesting, all I want to taste, touch, and even more want to "be like mommy or daddy".
But the idyll idyll, and domestic Affairs has not been canceled. And now my mom is cleaning and curious little thing that goes in the bucket, grabs a broom.
"What is this stuff so long? Mom is so cleverly it waving... And what is interesting to the floor where the mother waved... wet and shiny... "
And so, while her mother for a moment turned away - baby it pulls the MOP and... that was tough! It turns out that the bucket is able to roll over! But mom why then angry...
And his mother roaring hurt the baby while awarding a couple of slaps, Bubna: "What you lack? Here's toys! Play and don't! "
Here is the first negative experience. Adults mistakenly believe that children "don't understand". And in vain. Such things as mosaic parts, form a pattern - form the child's attitude to the world. First signal: "Mom wants me to not climb". Of course, the first time the result will not be achieved, and not once mom will pricenet and taken to the toys...
But the growing child is already a Junior schoolboy
"What are you doing there? Water poured around... " - angry grumbles mother. Not lez would not ask! You go over better take lessons or read the book! One confusion with you! Still should not do! Peredelivay then hundred times...
And the child meekly go where he was sent. To read a book, play or do homework... Why try to do something, if you still get in trouble... And all so well begun! Wanted so much to please mom made for her arrival cleaning...
Ten years later
Tired mom comes home from work, and the sink is a mountain of dirty dishes on the stove alone misses a dirty pan with dried remnants of yesterday's soup...
The room comes up the lad and Basit: "You'd Gotovina something, mom! And that is like... "
And mom, with a heavy sigh, is washing dishes and cooking dinner, and the son calmly sits down for a viewing of the new film.
"Grew the idler", - says the mother, rattling the plates... the Whole day at home, and a finger does not hit to the mother to help...
I want to say to the mother: "So what all did you want? That the child did not interfere and did not spinning under my feet, or to still helped? A not if you sent your child, teaching "not to go, where not asked"... they Said, "go read" - now he is reading, and not go anywhere... "
Involuntarily comes to mind the phrase: "Be careful what you wish for - they come true! "
A-a-AA! I want to "not spinning" when little, and helped, when he grew up? So you have to disappoint. It doesn't happen!
Who among us, dear adults, not wanted as a child was to learn everything, like mom" and "to be strong like daddy"?
In childhood for the child standard the best - it's his parents. No child thinks about the fact that dad and mom can lie or be unfair. It just so happened... And all the kids want to grow faster. Remember, you want the child to quickly become older?
This can very successfully be used for educational purposes. We just need to be patient and teach the child to perform small chores from an early age. Not to push, and not to send, but on the contrary, to support his desire to help adults.
Imagine the first image in a different color
A young mother is cleaning, but here baby, do not calculate their strength, throws a bucket of water. Stop!
Do not rush angry baby! Because he is so upset by his failure.
And then... my Mom collects water, calms the baby and says, "let's try it together? " And, wring the cloth gives the baby to try to wash the floor. Baby is happy, and eyes Shine with joy. Him how great he entrusted this important matter!
Of course, he will soon get tired, and mom can continue cleaning, don't forget to praise your child. And next time you can give the baby a rag to wipe the dust". Children are always happy to do something with their parents. Though at first he does not know how to do it well, but it will take a little time, and the child learns.
Over time, you can instruct the toddler wash basin in the small things. Let him do it, how can, how can. Then, when, exhausted, the child will fall asleep it is not difficult to wash small pieces of clothing, but the child will be proud and pleased with himself that he, too, can help my mom!
Do not skimp on the praise, tell your child that it is the one and only... The best mother's helper. And believe me - it will return a hundredfold!
And one day, after a hard day, you will be pleasantly surprised that your parish supper is ready, and your grown son or daughter will greet you with the words: "You can rest now, mom! And I have here a cake for tea ready".
Source:
School of life
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